She didn't tell me, I found out by accident and now she will barely talk to me even though she's at fault. Is cause she's embarassed or what?
2006-11-06 04:43:41 · 16 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think she didn't tell you because she knew you would over-react..if you and the guy were over whats the hassle...
2006-11-06 04:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by geordie.lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cause she knows she ain't right. Her guilt is eating her up inside so much that she can't even look or even speak to you. She may even lash out at you all so she won't have to face the truth...she played herself. I am not saying that once a man has dated one of your friends, hes off limits for life, what I am saying is...she should of been a woman and told you the truth and not allowed you to find out elsewhere. How long ago was it that you and him were dating? If it's a short time, say less than a month, than she's no good and it's time to start weeding out the bad ones. You don't need friends like her. If it has been a long time and you have no feelings for him and visa versa, than she may be forgiven with due time. She still was wrong for not letting you know ahead of time. But it sounds to me like she is not a very good friend, regardless, the fact that you confronted her (When you found out, Im sure you went to her) and now she has been acting stank to you when you did nothing wrong tells me she really isn't someone I would want as my friend. Good luck!
2006-11-06 12:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a rule with my friends, you just don't date ex's that we have had. I have also tried to make my daughter understand the reasons for this.....I understand your pain and don't think that any friend should date an ex unless the friend asks for your permission. It can cause pain in your friendship. which it seems to have done already. I would call her and say, Even though you have made your choices and I never wanted him back, it would of been nice if you would of said something about it to me. If she chooses to be a b*tch about it then at least you have been the bigger person and can let it go. If she apologizes and would like to keep your friendship then try to get it a go and let the bad feelings set aside....
2006-11-06 13:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awkward! I think your friend is embarrassed. Believe me, a friend of mine dated and slept with two of my ex-boyfriends and during that time I barely saw her. If your friendship is worth keeping, then let her know that it doesn't bother you. If she's not a good friend and you feel betrayed then get over it and end the friendship.
2006-11-06 12:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by evesmystique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, yes I think she is embarrassed. Maybe there was something else going on while you were dating him? Was he cheating on you with her? I would forget about him and have a talk to her. Like they say friends are forever, men come and go. If you were friends with her a long time its not worth losing a friendship over a guy!!!
2006-11-06 12:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by courtney b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that depends. Are you upset that she is dating your ex? Have you told her how you feel? If she doesnt know, she may be afraid that you are mad at her. either way, tell her how you feel about it. If it was a bad break-up, he may have also told her some things about you thats arent true. Friendship is too special to throw away over a guy.
2006-11-06 12:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by mojo0520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a rule with women that ex-boyfriends/husbands are off limits. The only way that rule can be broken is if it truly doesn't bother you. Is she embarassed? Probably or she's ashamed.
2006-11-06 12:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just move on with life, and tell her it's OK. It's not good to hold a grudge over something silly like that, and eventually you' ll both move on with life and forget about it.
2006-11-06 13:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by x.CaG3dUpAnIMaL.x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think she would feel akward about it around you but really you should call her up and let her know you dont care your not dating the guy so why should you even care.
2006-11-06 12:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course shes embarresed thats y shes not talking to u. shes afraid ur going to go off on her(which u should) and that ur going to do something to her(which u shouldn't) so dont talk to her is she doesnt want to let her approch u first and give her a chance to appolagise if she doesnt then drop the hole issue and move on no reason to waste ur time on something petty like that
2006-11-06 12:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by roc a wear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋