i dated my brothers best friend for a few years,we lived together and i caught him cheating on me so i left.He still is trying to get me back(1 1/2 years later) but i wont.There is this guy who is friends with both my brother and ex,i have been friends with him for the past few years also,i have gone to him to talk when things would go bad with my ex.I have seen him date many girls throughout the years and it never bothered me until recently when he had an old fling meet him at the bar one night.So a couple days after that night i sent him a text message to see what his reply would be,it said"cheater" he replied right away with"what??" and then called me,but i was too afraid to answer,he wanted to talk.I feel like there may be something there between us but i am freaked to find out.I am afraid to take the chance to find out and it end up not working out and him and my ex sit and talk and compare notes about me,and i then turn into a joke.i also am afarid to ruin a good freindship
2006-11-06 04:41:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one will live your life and take the calls for U. It's not that important what u decide 2 do but TO DO IT!
2006-11-06 04:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances should be taken!!! If you don't take this opportunity then chances are that you will only regret not finding the answer, it's better to know than to never know at all. So take a chance, becuase you NEVER know what might just happen! As the friendship part, it is a risk that you must take, if he really likes you then he won't mind at all. Things can be awkward between you two, but more awkward is the fact that you two have shared so much and can't get together. As for your little fear, I believe that he has shown enough compatibility to be mature enough. Don't doubt yourself or chase away chances by your imagination or fears, I'm 100% sure that all that's in your head and it won't even come true!!! =) GOOD Luck!!
2006-11-06 12:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Stefy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be an acquard situation but if you like him nothing should stop you. sometimes its better to be friends first, you already know the person. but very true, if it doesn't work out, you may lose a good friend. look into the future. could you see yourself marrying this guy. if not, think about it. you will break up with him sometime and could lose a boyfriend and friend. but to answer your other question: the way to find out if there is something, just flirt a little. start softly though. like tell him he looks good in that shirt. then he might compliment you back (maybe later on though). when he does, just kinda say, "yeah, i know". (as a joke, not a *****). if he starts flirting back, flirt a little harder. see where it goes. you don't need to rush things. he's been your friend this long, so he's probably gonna be around for a while.
2006-11-06 13:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by asslpman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is actually no friendship here, because your feelings for this guy are stronger than just friends. why send him a text saying "cheater" if it did not borther you seeing him with an ex. it borther you. its normal. but if you think that your ex, and him are sitting around comparing notes about you. first i would have your brother beat some sense into them, and then i would just forget both of them. why brother with someone who acts more like a child than a man. there are plenty of good men out there in the world, dont cut yourself short. you are better than that and deserve someone who will make you their queen.
2006-11-06 12:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very hard to understand and beleive that there isnt any thing vcalled 'friendship. Its a game of cheating, deceiving thru/using different ways. These 'ships' are never ever dependable. In the morning it will be very very deep b4 after just one day 'session' it will fly like any thing.
The friendship, on which can depend is with GOD, our parents, brothers and sisters only.
2006-11-06 12:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and see if the feeling is mutual and if u 2 get together and break up and ur exs start comparing then they are idiots and are just trying to make themselves feel good about not havin u.
2006-11-06 12:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by lalalalalalalalala23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its seem like your really confused. If he calls again talk to him, you have nothing to loose. You can always press the End button but give him a chance adn see what happend. Again you have nothing to loose.
luck
2006-11-06 12:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u gotta make a decision...either him or all those other probs..ask urself if he is really worth it?or wud it b better if u guys continued as frnds?if u really want him u gotta tak chances...life's all about chances.....let him know how u feel....either talk to him or giv him hints....if he really wants to talk to u go ahead and talk to him...be open...i guess u guys r close frnds atleast since uve mentioned dat u tell him everything..so dats a plus point for u incase he does not have such feelings for u...he may not brag about it ....all d best gurl.....
2006-11-06 13:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live in a box. If your not willing to feel the pain you don't deserve to feel the gain. Don't live in fear. Take a chance.
2006-11-06 12:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by herronjennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should remain just friends with this guy. You don't want to date yet another one of your brother's friends. That just isn't cool.
2006-11-06 12:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by arrizona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋