Family & Relationships - 20 October 2006

I think it is wrong, I met a girl Jessica when I was about five we were inseparable for many years. She was less than a month younger than me but she had graduated a year and a half early than me, and she had already started collage heading for a medical degree. When she was about eleven her family moved away, when she was thirteen her family finely moved back to our home town of Hallsville, Mo, when she was fifteen her family moved to Columbia, Mo we had started dating about two month before they moved, we continued dating. On April 20th her seventeenth birthday I asked her to marry me, she told me yes, but she would like to wait entail I got out of collage which was only in about three years. After that I was the happiest I have been in years but that was not to last. In May, she found out one of my friend was throwing a kegger for his graduation party, she asked me if I wanted to go over and over, but I had to do some work so I could not go with, the last time she asked I kind of snapped at her and hurt her feelings. So Jessica asked one of her friends Kim from collage to go with her, from what I was told they had a little too much to drink at the party. The next morning I was feeling bad for snapping at her so I got up early, picked up some red roses and went over to here house to apologize to her and to tell how big of an *** I have been lately. But her car was not there, so I figured that she went over to her moms and dads house. I called her parents house looking for her but nobody was not there, so a called her friend’s cell phone and I did not get any body, so I called my buddy that had the party and he told me that they left about 1am. So I went back home to wait for her to show. About 2 o’clock in the after noon I resaved a phone call from one of my buddies telling me how sorry he was and asked me if there was any thing he could do for me, I asked him what he was talking about and he told me what had happened. They was driving back home after leaving the party, Jessica was sleeping in the passenger set and Kim was driving, Kim was so drunk she did not see the train on the tracks or she thought she could beat it. The train hit the car broadside; the police think Jessica was killed instantly; Kim lived for a little more than a day in the hospital. The next day I went over to her parent’s house, I went in and her older brother saw me and started kicking my *** for not going with her, because I do not drink and I would have been a sober driver, her father told me to get out of the house and that that he never wanted to see me again. Her father and brother blamed me for what had happened to her, later that night I got a call from Jessica mother telling me she was sorry for what had happened earlier and I should not show up at the funeral, she was afraid the Jessica father would shoot me. To find out he was very serious about it to, he was packing a 9mm. So I did not go to the funeral, but I did go to her grave the next day. She was the love of my life; she was five feet tall angle, with ice burg blue eyes, blond hair that was so light it almost looked white in the sun, lightly tanned skin, and light as a feather. She was the only ray of sun shine in my life, for the last five years I have been living in shadow. Most of the people I knew from back then tell me that I am not the same person, that I am more hostile, that I have a hatred for the world around me, I have problem letting any body in to see the real me and I take unneeded risk with my life. Which I can agree with them on some things.

2006-10-20 21:37:20 · 11 answers · asked by Sir CJ 3 in Singles & Dating

Why does flirting make someone feel happy and good on the inside?? Anyone know?

2006-10-20 21:37:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

'm 26 years old, attractive and I think I have a nie personality. However, all the guys I've dated after my 8 years relationship, all said the same thing to me: I AM TOO CLINGY AND I DON'T TRUST THEM! They are right. For 8 years I was comfortable and alway had a boyfriend around, but my ex cheated on me, so I am having trouble trusting ALL MEN. Now I am seeing this hot restaurant manager, who I truly feel is the most sincere guy ever. He told me that he likes me a lot and just let his action show me how much he likes me. However with his 16+hrs, 6 days a week, he hardly ever has time for me. And to split it amongst his friends and family, I'm really talking just hrs/week. Also he came up to me while I was eating at his restaurant, I feel like if he comes up to me he can go up to anyone, right? But this guy already introduced to me his best buddies and his dad (I was over at his place when his dad arrived from Missouri). I shot pool w/his dad too.Confused! Help! What should I do? :(

2006-10-20 21:37:03 · 7 answers · asked by Gina C 1 in Singles & Dating

who is honest and attractive in love with a guy?

2006-10-20 21:36:31 · 4 answers · asked by mdo72000 2 in Singles & Dating

I need help! I broke up with my new girlfriend Savannah, because I still have feelings for my ex-girlfriend Melissa, and a couple days later, on the phone, Melissa said "I'm sorry, to tell you this, but I have a new boyfriend!" But I can't trust her with anything anymore, because she's a liar, and I still can't stop loving her, what do you think I should do about this situation?

Thanks!

And, God Bless!

Also, I don't really believe that Melissa has a new boyfriend, and I think she is just saying that! What do you think about that?

And, if you tell me to get back with Savannah, there's a problem with that, the problem is me and my best friend kind of switch girlfriends, before the problem, with Melissa. So now my best friend is with Savannah, and I don't want to ruin their relationship!

What do you think I should?

Should I forget about both girls, or try to get Melissa back?

2006-10-20 21:31:24 · 12 answers · asked by Uncle Bryan | Tío Bryan: Sevant Of Jesus Christ 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

he denies being the childs father , for the only reason that his parents dont like her being a girl . cant get him out of his family . please help

2006-10-20 21:29:46 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ive just started going out with this guy and hes somebody i dont usually go out with. everyone i know is commenting and sawing wtf is she doing with him. even my close friends are telling me that i deserve better and its making me think. i dont want a serious long relationship with this guy but he does. im just up for a bit of fun i dont see it going anywhere. i cant dump him now cos it will break his lil heart (lol) and i wont look very good either people talked when we strted going out let alone if i dump him less than a week later.

2006-10-20 21:29:43 · 11 answers · asked by just a girl 3 in Singles & Dating

me and my girlfriend have been together a little over a year we buy a new house she having twins we get into it and she shoves me and with me not thinking i shove her back but she is pregnant and i really feel bad about it anyway while at work all my things are put in storage and the locks changed.who wrong the house belongs to us both.should we get back together? .

2006-10-20 21:29:17 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I went bowling with two of my friends Christina and Lin; Lin brought one of her friends along. I trashed my knee a few month ago and I was dew for surgery the next week so by game two I was in a lot of pain but she knew that and by the that time I was not the most talkative person, but she knew that I was going to be hurting after a little while. The next day I got a e-mail from her asking if I was mad at her, I sent back “There is no way I could ever be mad at you, every body else maybe, you no.” and I asked her why, she did not reply. A few days later I asked her why she thought I was mad at her and abruptly she told me “I do not know”, a few sec after that she told me that she forgot. Any body got any idea on this? She is a person that I care for a lot but I have been to shy to tell her, it kind of bothers me that she thanks I could be mad at her.

2006-10-20 21:28:55 · 1 answers · asked by Sir CJ 3 in Friends

I have had a lot of girls who want to have sex and who say a lot of deep, commital, I'll love you forever, take a bullet for you and so on kind of statements, but I have experienced that when I really needed these girls they weren't around or when there's a problem these same girls instead of working out the problem are quick to cut to cord on the relationship. What are some of the things that girls will do, show, reveal, when they truly love a guy?

2006-10-20 21:27:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-10-20 21:25:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-10-20 21:23:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im at school and im the shyest girl i have ever known i asked a guy out and he turned me down coz he thought i was to shy and he didnt know me well.

i really need good tips i hate being shy!!!

2006-10-20 21:21:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

who starts more fights in a relationship, men or women?????

2006-10-20 21:19:15 · 15 answers · asked by xdfsddfgdfgdfg d 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She was sobar and she also bartends there....

about 6 monthes ago i was in the bar just got done w/ my shift adn a i was talking to a girl and she was hitting on me but i 'm too dense to realize it and then she hooked her leg around mine... well i didn't act on it and no i'm regretting it should i still go for it what would you girls do if you were in her situation i guess you could say, if a guy comes up 6 monthes after the fact..

2006-10-20 21:18:01 · 3 answers · asked by justaguy 1 in Singles & Dating

my boyfreind is a great person and we love each other as well it's been a year since we knew each other,while working together, but we are involved just 2 mnths over,now my bf is serious abt settling but says he's not sure if he can keep me happy coz we are of diff religions,my family n lifestyle are way better off than his .he does'nt want me hurt later on in case we're married and things don't turn out for the better though he'sdoing his best to get there,but says it will take a few years.he's even changed jobs to start off with,.Should i take the risk of losing my family and lifestyle and stand by him or chicken out and play safe .i already regret asking myself this coz i love him.,but what abt practicality he's asked me to decide,coz he's serious abt this.

2006-10-20 21:15:37 · 5 answers · asked by icequeen3 1 in Singles & Dating

theres this guy...and well every one ones he likes me including me! and he has also told me that. but the thing is i only like him as a friend... and he has asked me out so many times and today i told him i was going out with another guy (im not really) but at least he stoped asking me.....

do u guys think i was mean ...... did i do the right thing......please help im starting to feel bad

2006-10-20 21:14:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-10-20 21:14:31 · 15 answers · asked by Tericka 4 in Singles & Dating

my brother was beat to death and i didnt do anything about it i was 5 i could have grabbed him or something he was 11months. i just cant stop thinking its my fault

2006-10-20 21:12:52 · 17 answers · asked by ashleyhlldy 1 in Family

When we dated, he was a great and enthusiastic lover. As soon as I moved in he stopped being interested in anything more than getting his rocks off and playing footsie at night. He doesn't like extensive kissing, occassional pecks only, and has virtually no sex drive, at least not enough to last more than 5 minutes a couple times a month. I've tried to talk to him about it and improve it but it's not happening for whatever reason. I love him and want to stay with him , so please don't bother telling me to find someone else. I just crave physical touch from a guy. I miss it terribly, especially slow dancing. How do I satisfy this without cheating?

2006-10-20 21:08:36 · 17 answers · asked by kim b 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time (over 3 years) and things have generally been pretty good. A little while ago things got really rocky because this girl who's in our friend group started coming onto him (and when a pretty girl shows him attention he always gets a crush). Normally this is nothing. It's alright for guys to look at other girls. But this is more serious. It's seems like almost obsession sometimes. And she's just taunting him, like she does with all the boys to get attention. It's driving me crazy. I'm not sure who to be mad with. I had a talk with him about it and he said that he would try to get over her. But the other day when I pointed out that he hadn't really been doing well in that department he was pretty unapologetic. I know he's not cheating on me, at least not physically, but I hear about this girl all the time. Everyone thinks she's so great and can't see what a manipulative person she is. What should I do?

2006-10-20 21:07:41 · 21 answers · asked by Jacqui 1 in Singles & Dating

Hi, I'm a total right brain and this girl I am dating is a lefty. I can't remember anything but my experiences, feelings, concepts, colors, and emotions. She remembers words, words, words, and just about everything factual and she likes logical statements, I only resonate to feeling statements! She did spelling bees as a kid. I surfed and played football. She has concrete things that she says she likes and dislikes. I am open about everything and not concrete, but am decisive like her.... Our styles of communicating are different even though I think we really want to support each other. How can I become more left brained to help her and resonate with her as a right brain creative type?

2006-10-20 21:06:20 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I love someone. Will I get married to him?

2006-10-20 21:06:03 · 31 answers · asked by Rose 1 in Weddings

I had seen many a men who i had no knowledge of
Not one posessed what it was that i was looking for.
When i first lay my eyes on you, a figure a form of distinguishness, in truth you made my head turn.
Your eyes spoke to me in such a way, and i became undone
And lost all conciousness of the world, because my heart was won.
I soaked up everything you stood for, with my whole being
Intoxicated with my thoughts, and not getting a moments peace.
In my awakening of what i felt inside, I could but only hope you saw my heart, when you searched within my eyes.
I saw and fell for, you conqured, and rendered,
And stirred in me the measures of love, that made it hard to breath.

2006-10-20 21:04:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-10-20 21:04:03 · 14 answers · asked by C T 2 in Singles & Dating

about 6 monthes ago i was in the bar just got done w/ my shift adn a i was talking to a girl and she was hitting on me but i 'm too dense to realize it and then she hooked her leg around mine... well i didn't act on it and no i'm regretting it should i still go for it what would you girls do if you were in her situation i guess you could say, if a guy comes up 6 monthes after the fact..

2006-10-20 21:02:44 · 12 answers · asked by justaguy 1 in Singles & Dating

what possesess somone to do that?

2006-10-20 21:02:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

do you drive better toxicated or sober...?

2006-10-20 21:01:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met a girl, after the second day I lied to her that I won't leave her after having sex with her. but I broke my promise the other day. How can I break this stupid habit of lying?I feel guilty for doing this and this is my first time. help me out!

2006-10-20 21:01:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am dating a girl who doesn't like to hear that she is skinny. She thinks that being called a skinny girl means not eating enough and throwing up. I think that's rediculous, but how else should I describe her beauty then, she is beautiful and skinny, I mean My God!!? What else can I do to make her feel appreciated in her body? Thanks!

2006-10-20 21:00:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating