im at school and im the shyest girl i have ever known i asked a guy out and he turned me down coz he thought i was to shy and he didnt know me well.
i really need good tips i hate being shy!!!
2006-10-20 21:21:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't hate being shy...sometimes it can be beneficial to be able to fall back on. Confidence is something that can't be developed in an hour but one thing at a time will bring you more and more out of your shell. You just have to go for it at times. Start by smiling at people and make some sort of eye contact even if it is just for a minute. Then eventually try saying hi to people that you don't know all that well. You already went out on a limb by asking the guy out...that's a start. So even if you feel totally ridiculous or embarassed go for it anyway....talk to people, make jokes, joina club...and if that doesn't work do what I did? Flash someone. Hey I got this adrenaline rush like no other and I decided from then on that I was gonna be more outgoing. Getting a job will help to
2006-10-20 21:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by xxsanchabonitaxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being shy is not the end of the world, like you, i'm one of those people that are hard to open up to. first i would try to ask why am I so shy? if its simply fear, theres nothin to be afraid about... you only have one life to live. Try meeting new people, and talk with them, but don't rush yourself and take it slow. Try people with similar interest, you will find yourself more at ease. The more you engage with other people, the more you know about yourself.
Remember, take baby steps...you don't want to make a fool out of yourself or bein too loose and forgeting who u really are...If above mention don't work...learn to love who you are...those people around you that actually sticks are the ones that are real..stay true to yourself
2006-10-20 21:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by kenneth x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act as much out of character as possible. The key word is act. Go somewhere you've never been and be someone else. You're not being fake, just remember that you've never seen these people before, and you'll probably never see them again. Don't be embarrassed! I find it's easier to do this with complete strangers than with someone I know. Give it a try, good luck!
2006-10-20 21:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by NateC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are actually having a good character, which most people do not have. Do not worry about this shyness. It is a protective nature God has given to you for preventing from some danger. Do not feel sorry about just one person turned you down. God has plan for your life. Everything will work toward good. Keep it up.
2006-10-20 21:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by R S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
shyness can be defined as feeling of discomfort.
look at people's eye and smile when u talk to them. speak a little louder than u usualy do.Assume a self confidence.we know that negative thinking creates anxiety.It's also important to replace these beliefs with more with positive thoughts and beliefs about yourself. Staying focused on your own positive opinion of yourself. Develop a new set of positive beliefs and say them to yourself.
Overcoming shyness involves developing self-esteem and social skills. To communicate about oneself and show interest in the other person requires self esteem, which can be developed through awareness and practice.
try sites like www.counseling.caltech.edu/articles/shyness.html
2006-10-20 22:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by lj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he turned you down because he figured he wasn't going to "get lucky" Stay just the way you are.Guys like him are a dime a dozen and not worth your time! Be confident in your own being,you really are worth it! The right guy will be there one day and he'll treat you with the respect you deserve!
2006-10-20 21:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you feel shy?. If you are an inexperienced girl in meeting with guys, it is natural. Almost all girls feel shyness. You should have confidence in you. You should say boldy and do any thing without any fear. As you are a girl each one will pay respect toyou and you will be on th high esteem.
2006-10-20 21:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey lexy, I used to be shy too. My advice is never fear what others might think of you. Just be yourself and people will love it. You might also wanna learn conversational skills, people skills and etiquette with people. It'll give a big boost in self confidence! Also observe how out-going people behave around people and copy-cat that! Believe me, its really effective! Good luck!
2006-10-20 21:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chin up sholders returned, whilst human beings confer with u make eye touch.. if its a self self assurance situation inspect ur self interior the mirror every day and locate 3 issues u like approximately urself.. confidents is shown interior the way u carry urself.. whilst human beings smile at u smile ur ultimate smile returned.. whilst u walk down the line walk like u dont care what all people thinks. if somebody talks to u .. inspect them mutually as u answer or respond dont inspect the grownd.. u use to be very shy .. extremely some those ingredient help notably
2016-10-15 06:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LIKE THIS KIND OF SHYNESS.I am looking a girl (School girls will be preffered) who has great shyness. I will try to recover her shyness. Just i need her full friendly cooperate and try to be my good friend. i m bangladeshi,22,male. i dont think ur bangladeshi, so we may not meed at all, but we may contact by email. I like to have a such kind of friend who will try to understand me and definately i will help her my best.......
2006-10-20 21:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by akareem 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋