Do I ask? Do I say nothing until she verbally says something first? Is it my place to say something, if her father is trying to ignore it?
I believe that a stepchild of mine is trying to tell her father that she is a lesbian, without actually talking to him. The way she dresses (i.e. will only wear men's clothing, "sags" when she does get dressed, leaves the area when phone rings and one of her "girlfriends" is calling, very masculine posture, grooming has become more "frumpy", etc.). She's very withdrawn and seems angry all the time.
I understand that children go through some confusing things during their teenage years. I don't want her to get so withdrawn that she doesn't feel a part of the family. I want her to be able to be herself and feel comfortable in her own home.
It doesn't bother me so much that she may be gay, it's just that we're all pretending that we don't notice her changes.
2007-12-27
16:41:44
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