Before you start the flame / hate responses..... Let me state that I absolutely LOVE my kids and wouldn't trade being a father for anything......
However - If you KNEW going in the changes kids would cause in your relationship between you and your spouse, would you still have had kids?
It seems that many women (my wife included) push their husbands to back burner status after the kids are in the picture...
Comments such as: the kids come first, then my hubby - he is grown and can fend for himself (etc....), are extremely common on this and other marriage forums.
The kids cause stress in the marriage, increased demands for time / $ / energy / etc....
Sometimes I just feel like I've been "dupped" into the family life... going in you're told by everyone, friends, family, co-workers, that kids are a "blessing" and the "greatest thing in your life", etc... of which I agree....
However - very few will EVER speak honestly and cadidly about the TOLL kids take on a marriage.
2007-10-09
07:01:36
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