I posted a question earlier about someone I'm dating for 5 months and how we were discussing our desire for marriage and people wrote all kinds of statments implying I'm psycho to even discuss marriage at 5 months of dating and got a whole bunch of thumbs up for it too. Now, call me old fashioned, but I never figured ANY topic of conversation is off limits if both parties want to discuss it. Second, since when has working towards a goal constitued actually DOING it. In my culture, the standard is you spend the first 6-months of dating getting to know each other (including talking about their attitudes/goals on marriage), another 6 seeing if there is long-term compatibility. One gets engaged at around the 1-year mark and married from 4-12 months after engagement. Thats a minimum of 14 months and a max of 24. My GOD, since when did this become psycho? So, is the norm that marriage is not even discussed until ___ time? And when is that?
2007-05-18
08:09:08
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Esmeralda
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Marriage & Divorce