I have a dear friend who is a wonderful human being, but who has no respect for himself and who has given up on ever finding a life partner, or even a date. I am a female in my early 40s and I'm probably the only woman he talks to. He's in his late 20s and has never had a girlfriend. No, I do not want to date him. He's too young.
To meet him, he is not attractive at all, but once you get to know him he is a beautiful person. He's funny, smart, interesting, and has a good heart, but he's short, heavy, and does not have attractive facial features. It has taken me some time to get to know him because he is somewhat reserved with people, and at times can be abrupt or cranky, but that is a function of his lack of social interaction and not an innate character flaw. Once I got past the bluster and the defense mechanisms, I saw a great person under there.
How do you help someone like that recognize his worth, start treating himself better, and stop assuming he'll always be alone?
2006-08-04
06:06:46
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