Etiquette - December 2007

Is it considered bad etiquette, if 2 of my friends are getting married in the coming year, to get them Christmas gifts off of their wedding registries? I figured what the he'll, kill 2 birds with 1 stone. Someone please help.

2007-12-07 15:32:25 · 3 answers · asked by "E" 1

Major factor... money is REALLY TIGHT this year.

2007-12-07 15:19:06 · 8 answers · asked by bood 2

i looked up what Ms. meant and they said in wilkipedia dictionary that it was equivalent to Mr. because feminists felt that woman should not have to put their marital status if men don't. my mom says it means a divorced woman. can someone shed light on this?

2007-12-07 15:09:39 · 12 answers · asked by Deb M 3

I'm not sure if I should get my guyfriends Christmas Presents or not. I mean I've only seen girls and their girl friends give each other Christmas Presents.

2007-12-07 14:48:40 · 14 answers · asked by Soa's Fate~ 5

My brother is racist and keeps making rude jokes about how Muslims are terrorists and black people are "n*******s" How can I teach him better??

2007-12-07 14:31:46 · 6 answers · asked by Cat Diapers 3

Habit someone has that you hate and they will not stop doing it and sometimes you feel like they do it cause they know you don't like it? It could be chewing out loud, cracking the knuckles... Tell me, Tell me? I hate when people chew out loud, it sounds like they are eating sh!t

2007-12-07 14:27:34 · 13 answers · asked by ♂♥♀ & ♀♥♂ ∞! Love Oh Love ! ♫♥♪ 5

The next time you're out eating at a resturant, look at your server. Do you think they are really happy to be doing that job? The answer is no, they are not, but its what we do, and we do it for the money so please help them out. Its a tougher job than you think and you should pay them accordingly!

There are SO many people out there flooding the restaurants w/o any knowledge of how to tip. Here is a short guide for the general public to follow. Feel free to print out and store in your wallet and/or purse.

1. CHILDREN "THE LITTLE DEVILS":
If you have children, DO NOT let them, open and dump anything on the table (ie; salt, sugar, etc). IF YOU DO, you must leave an extra $5 for the server to clean up YOUR CHILD'S mess & to restock the now unusable wasted items. Don't get mad if you ask for crackers and your server tells you they're out when you just saw another table eating crackers with their soup -- can you blame them for not wanting to clean up the mess afterward? We are neither their babysitter nor their parent. The least you can do is pay us for the extra work. Also make sure you control your kids and don't let them scream or run around the restraunt. It's very distracting not to mention dangerous if they get ran over by a server with hot food in their hands. Just because you're out for dinner doesn't give you an excuse to let your kids mess around on their own free will like wild monkeys!

2. "THE CAMPERS":
If you feel the necessity to stay for longer than 15 minutes after you pay, its an extra $3 every 30 minutes. We make our money from the tables. If you are in one and we can't seat it, we don't make money.

3. COMPLIMENTS (VERBAL TIPS):
Telling a server they are the best server they've ever had is not a tip. If we are good, let us know by leaving us more money. We cant pay our bills on compliments. Its not that we don't appreciate the praise, its just that if you tell us how great we were and then leave 10% it's an insult.

4. THE SALVATION PAMPHLETS:
Prayer cards or any other religious pamphlet is NOT a tip. It is insulting that you assume we are w/o religion and must save us. Again, like #3, we cant pay bills w/ prayer cards. We'd go to church on Sundays if it wasn't mandatory to work on Sundays because EVERYONE who goes to church follows it by eating out. Also don't try to preach to us while we are working. We don't go to your work and put you down so don't do it to us.....plus, we don't have time to listen to you babble.

5. TIPPING:
It is not 1960. Cost of living has gone up dramatically since then. 18% is the MINIMUM amount of what you should be tipping your servers. Remember, that steak is $12.99 not $22.99 because restaurants aren't required to pay minimum wage in most states! Here in AZ we get paid whooping $2.13 an hr meaning all of our money is made in tips. If you were not properly paid in your profession, you would be pretty pissed too! We are taxed on 10 percent of your meal automatically, not to mention we have to tip out a percentage of our sales - your bill - to the hosts, bartenders, and bussers. So if you dont leave a tip, WE END UP PAYING FOR YOUR MEAL!! So move that decimal one spot left and multiply by 2 and your server will never be disappointed. ($25 = $2.50 x 2 = $5)

6. THE COMPLAINERS:
If you get a discount because of your food was prepared wrong or something, do not take it out of our tip. We didn't cook it. The cooks get paid hourly regardless if the food sucks. However, we only make what you give us. And don't ever leave a percentage on the total after the discount or comp -- always tip on what the total would have been.

7. THE LATE ONES:
If you come into the restaurant 10 mins before closing or any time near closing hurry up and order your food and get out. Closed means closed, not social hour. It is so rude to sit there and take your sweet *** time. We can't leave until you leave because we have to do sidework and clean the table you are sitting at. We don't want to stand there waiting for you for an extra hour just because you don't want to go home. We recommend 24 hour establishments such as Dennys or Steak n Shake if you wish to sit into the wee hours of the night.

8. THE TABLE HOGGERS:
If you only come in for coffee or a dessert, to do paper work, or to have a meeting, don't sit there taking up our booths for hours. We are not Starbucks or a hotel restaurant. If you want to sit for hours, go there or else you better leave a good tip for us and camping fee included.


9. THE GREET:
When we come up to the table to greet you and we ask how you are doing please let us know. We honestly want to know how you are doing. If you are in a bad mood we want to know that from the beginning. A confused stare or complete silence does not suffice as a reply to "How are you doing?". Also don't interrupt our greeting and say "I want coffee", "can we get some bread, or "what are the soups?".......thats just rude! Do you enjoy it when people blatently interupt what you are saying? Didn't think so.

***In addition, if your server stops by the table and says they will be right with you, they are not lying, so sit and be patient and wait for them to come back to properly greet you. Sometimes we can get a liitle busy so we don't give a **** how you feel about it....you will just have to wait a minute! So there's not much point in throwing requests in our faces, you'll have to wait for us either way. SO BE NICE!

10. THOSE DAMN CELL PHONES:
Don't ever talk on your cell phone in a restraunt. This is probably the rudest thing to do. If you must be on your cell, at least keep your voice down in respect for other customers. If you are on your cell phone when we walk up to greet your table we will walk away until you get off your phone. Not to be rude, but simply because we don't want to deal with you trying to manage 2 conversations. Just show some respect and give us your attention for a couple of minutes.

11. TAKE-AWAY OR TO-GOS:
Always remember to tip the take-out order servers! They work just as hard as a server, and hardly ever get tips for it! THEY DESERVE TO BE TIPPED TOO!

12. FOREIGNERS:
Welcome to America! Here, we tip our servers appropriately, not this 10% Bullshit! All of the above apply!

13. THE CARDINAL RULE:
Don't **** with people who handle your food! Be nice to us....our job is a lot harder than it looks!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SERVERS READING THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please repost this so the word can get out, since so many people are uneducated about tips and our lives depend on this - at least for now......

SIGNED, YOUR FELLOW RESTAURANT WORKER

2007-12-07 14:27:19 · 7 answers · asked by kaiors23 2

when two guys let you through the door first, what would they think of you?

2007-12-07 14:25:07 · 5 answers · asked by ♥ 1

..to make friends. Most people my age think I'm boring because i dont want to do stupid stuff, like sleep with people i barely know, do drugs, etc. how to i make friends who are like me? its really awkward with my friends because we like very few of the same stuff. im 16

2007-12-07 14:18:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well our real estate broker calls me at home friday 5pm (end of the week and day) he tells me he has to get something off his chest. He tells me that my wife and I are not invited to the year end holiday party, because then he would have to invite all the part timers. My wife had took it for granted that we were both invited because the party was mentioned at a meeting by the broker at a meeting she attended.
My wife and I add up to 1 full time real estate agent, and have participated in bringing in listings and sales for him this year. We both started in the begining of 2007 with his office, we are not as some of his other agents who don't participate whatsoever. As an agent you are paid on sales commissions, so you can be a no timer to full timer and anywhere in between.
What should we say to him ? because now I feel it is all on my chest.....I feel like i am not part of the team.

2007-12-07 14:06:55 · 9 answers · asked by martin r 1

Christmas is a time when workers and employers spend time together in gift giving, sharing of talents, laughter etc.
I remember a time, when after the party ( when the party was about to end ) the employees where told to go a big box made of cardboard. Inside the box where items wrapped in used newspapers and tape to seal each piece.
It was my first time to get a gift, wrapped in newspaper.
Whatever the others where thinking, it doesn't matter after all each one recieves a gift......
After that, I noticed that gifts given in the office is always wrapped in newspaper..
I'm just a little curious , which is more important in gift giving the content or the wrapper?
What exactly is the meaning of giving a gift in a nice and colorful wrapper rather than a gift which may not be appreciated by others or to some , they express their undending thanks for a grace they did not even expect to recieve?

2007-12-07 13:19:05 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3

I am attending a very formal Christmas party tomorrow with my husband. The party is being hosted by a very important client. What would I do if we get there and someone was wearing the same dress that I was?

2007-12-07 13:18:59 · 10 answers · asked by Julie C 2

in terms of etiquette, I dont know which of the 2 to say, cause she could be Catholic, Muslim, Jewish, etc etc?? No idea.

2007-12-07 13:18:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I said, what the f--- are you doing? Take that f-ing outside. I don't think I was being rude, do you? People shouldn't answer cell phones during movies, you have to be kidding me. Was I out of line? I used the f-word to make a point, and hopefully this ****** won't do it to future movie audiences who pay $10 per ticket.

2007-12-07 13:07:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK HERES THE STORY- i know i posted this on my other username but i have another question to ask now...the other night i went to my friend's birthday party.she and everyone else there including this guy go to a different school than me.the guy there said he wouldn't mind making a move on me then later he put his hand on my leg.then he added my myspace and wanted to talk to me on aim. so he IMed me and we were talkign and he was acting really strange and he said tell me about yourself. what makes you you? etc. and i told him im really confused what do you want me to tell u? and later asked me for my photobucket password and login info..and i said no why do you want that? and hes like well you can tell alot about someone by their pictures. i said no.

2007-12-07 12:53:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

People say I ask too many questions, but I'm curious & don't know that much about certain subjects, like politics, law, taxes, criminal justice, business administration, etc. & they say I'm retarded with no common sense & they see my curiosity as childish & they think I'm giving people an opportunity to take advantage of me with finances, cars, & business transactions. How can I be knowledgeable if I'm forbidden to ask questions? But then people say if I don't knowsomething I should ask.

I graduated from college & got my BA degree & got a 2.3 GPA because I have EXTREMELY poor reading comprehension. I don't understand what I'm reading. I also have poor concentration because of my mental disability, & I had 2 strokes @ age 5. My former foster mom kept me couped inside all day, enslaving me, making me clean up. She & other foster family members were abusive & punished me for no reason. I'm 24 & JUST beginning to learn common sense & street sense.

2007-12-07 12:29:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our workforce is of about 30 guys organised into crews on different trucks doing removal/packing work plus all the office staff etc... The party is at a local venue. With partners, I guess there'll be around 100-120 people.
Only thing is, there's a 20-something year old lad who works for the company who has told me he's bringing a knife to the party in case anyone should 'try & start anything' or 'have a go'.

Should I tell someone else about this in advance?

2007-12-07 12:15:19 · 26 answers · asked by Shiv 2

For all they know she could be on vacation in europe for the next few months. Shes gonna go but i just wanna know.

2007-12-07 11:24:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really don't like the uncle position on this issue... anybody else have to deal with this?

2007-12-07 11:17:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I went to the same school preschool-8th grade. i had a group of 10 friends. we were all really close in 7th and 8th grade and we all were like sisters. we were the "popular" people so to speak. when i was in 9th grade i transferred to a new school and moved to a new town. im now in 11th grade. i made one close friend really quickly. but she recently ditched me a few months ago for a new group and hangs out with this other girl now. this other girl who was my friend like tries to ditch me all the time. im not mean or anything i'm nice but am also quiet at times around people other than my friends. so now im so confused. i don't get why people don't wanna be friends with me..???im really nice and helpful to everyone...i still keep in touch with 1 girl from my old school. but still i've been at this school 2 years and right now i feel like i have no friends to hang out with because they both pretty much ditched me..now what? :(

2007-12-07 11:13:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a Remington 1922 standard typewriter that I don't know how to use. When I tried typing letters, it just punched them in the same place. Someone told me there's a lever all the way on the right but I don't know what lever they're talking about and/or what to do with it.

2007-12-07 11:10:46 · 3 answers · asked by lwa519 3

Or to wish them a Merry Christmas? A person that I know says it isn't disrespectful or rude but I say it is.

2007-12-07 10:56:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

you do or say ? I am a big gal so it fit him quite well but he was even wearing the cap and one of my bras!
How does one explain having a costume like this and what would you say to the guy?
BTW The guy is a close friend!

2007-12-07 10:38:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i mean hey....atleast you know what'ch your gett'n right?

2007-12-07 10:19:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

you know, when everything is silent

2007-12-07 09:27:05 · 4 answers · asked by Screw Monetarism 4

So you and this guy are meeting up to have lunch at a casual restaurant. She's only ever seen me wearing scrubs. What would your first impression be if he wore the following:

A) A Hawaiian shirt and white undershirt with khaki pants and old tennis shoes. Clean shaven, splash of cologne.

B) An old t shirt with jogging pants. And a sweatshirt. Not clean shaven. No cologne.

C) A maroon sweater with new blue jeans. He is clean shaven, and wears a splash of cologne.

What is your first impression about A,B and C?

2007-12-07 09:25:23 · 33 answers · asked by IrishFan2011 3

Have you ever told a "little white lie" that just totally blew up in your face?

2007-12-07 09:09:30 · 10 answers · asked by emerald_wang85 4

panties and she goes crazy! I mean she was laughing, and pinching me and calling me Tammy instead of Tom. She is still teasing me about putting on her lingerie!
What gives?

2007-12-07 09:05:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

their forgiveness?
Do you think that you could do this now if this is the case?

2007-12-07 09:05:46 · 6 answers · asked by Soundproof 6

2007-12-07 09:04:11 · 6 answers · asked by <3 my nut brown maiden 1