Why has it been so unbelievably hard for me to find friends in high school???

Question

I went to the same school preschool-8th grade. i had a group of 10 friends. we were all really close in 7th and 8th grade and we all were like sisters. we were the "popular" people so to speak. when i was in 9th grade i transferred to a new school and moved to a new town. im now in 11th grade. i made one close friend really quickly. but she recently ditched me a few months ago for a new group and hangs out with this other girl now. this other girl who was my friend like tries to ditch me all the time. im not mean or anything i'm nice but am also quiet at times around people other than my friends. so now im so confused. i don't get why people don't wanna be friends with me..???im really nice and helpful to everyone...i still keep in touch with 1 girl from my old school. but still i've been at this school 2 years and right now i feel like i have no friends to hang out with because they both pretty much ditched me..now what? :(

also don't say join a club because i am in like 6 clubs. also i play on a sports team at my school.

Yes i moved to a small town...

Answer 1

Have you moved to a small town? I find them to be the worst and I'm an adult.

People have cliques and small minds that keep them from including people from other places. Don't worry about them, they are most likely jealous. That type usually is and will not change. If you really want to blow them away, just walk up to them and put them on the spot by saying this in a nice tone; "I have been trying to be friends with you, is there something wrong that you cannot be friends with me?" That will give them something to think about!

What about in your neighborhood?

Answer 2

WOW the exact same story as me! After 2 long years at my new school i finally left and went to a new school. I decided i wasn't going to go through the same thing again, so i built up confidence and just talked to everyone! People want to get to know you if you open yourself up to people and just do anything to make conversation. Confidence is such a great quality and everyone wants to be friends with someone who is confident. Just go up to someone you dnt normally talk to (like in class or something not just randomly) And make a comment and get a conversation going. Don't care what people think of you, just be yourself, because it's not like these people in high school are really going to be a huge part of your life once everyone starts going of to university and things! Just remember-CONFIDENCE!!!!!

Answer 3

when it comes to highschool, people are not looking for nice people to make friends with, (i'm in 10th grade i feel the same) the most common thing taht these kids look into is common interest. ones that are same as them, talk about the same topic. i have friends that doesnt have the same interest and because of that we are not close, we are just friendly. to be out going is not a easy thing to do, especialy if its not u. i tryed to be out goign by talking and do what otehrs do, but personally i find it boring, but to keep them as friends, i dotn have much of choice. remeber one thing "never be your self unless others are forcing u to do somethin ridculous such as drugs". often time people dont want to be near u because of U, so change and try new things that are not harmful, u might find it boring or fun.

Answer 4

be more out going.
that is exactly what i went through!
but all i can say is be alot more outgoing and people will be amazed at your confidence

Answer 5

Be extra open-minded. a great type of persons used to purely come as much as me and started speaking to me. Or the ladies used to assert "Your outfit is cute...the place'd you get your shirt from?". And the dudes used again as much as me and only initiate making small communicate. All in the style you recent your self. human beings used to assert i replaced into approachable because of the fact I "looked" friendly. regardless of if I even have the worst suggestions-set, they stated they used to make certain way I used to communicate to human beings and snigger and humorous tale, and it only made them elect to communicate to me. yet now that i'm out of faculty...I dropped all of my buddies. "All i want in this existence of sin, is me && my boyfriend" - Beyonce && Jay-Z. And it incredibly is genuine. because of the fact as quickly as I dropped my buddies i began out to have extra income my wallet and it incredibly is the comparable way without them. I even have like 3 genuine buddies out of the one hundred's I used to have call me standard. and that i might somewhat have "One actual buddy than one hundred buddies". I even have extra gasoline in my tank, extra money from not likely out to each a lot. And extra time to decide on for what i elect to do in existence and get my practise jointly. interior the long-term it, did not understand i didn't want all of those human beings asking me to bypass places. purely slightly communicate i had to supply you. yet, bypass as much as human beings in school and socialize extra. Get their numbers have them call you and carry out and stuff. No biggie. you're making it extra durable than that's. AND...in the event that they don't elect to communicate to, SCREW THEM. because of the fact in the event that they could act too sturdy to socialise with then you definitely you definately can like that ideal back at their a$$e$. additionally, on the mall which i bypass to alot, i've got made buddies with a great type of those that works on the shops that I shop at. Make small communicate with human beings it won't injury.