I really don't like the uncle position on this issue... anybody else have to deal with this?
2007-12-07 11:17:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Best way to do it, since they ARE your brother's kids, is to ask your brother what he wants you to tell them. If he wants you to lie to his own kids and you aren't okay with it, tell him so, and ask him if there's another way to go about it so that you aren't placing yourself in that position.
Technically, since they've been told about this fictitious person, Santa, they've already been lied to by their parents, school teachers, etc. Unfortunately, society depends upon people, such as with your case, to continue on the band wagon with this fantasy, or lie. Some adults have a problem with this. I can relate.
Let your brother guide you and take it from there. Resolve all issues with him instead of resolving your own issues with his children. Unfortunately, that's one of the jobs of an uncle.
2007-12-07 11:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It possibly would have been a solid thought to no longer make her beleive in him interior the 1st place ... yet extra effective quicker truly than later -if somebody else does then she would be annoyed at you. try it this christmas, once you ask her what she wish, if the subject rely includes santa bringing stuff, then say some thing suggesting which you would be bringing them this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days. or you are able to recommend that santa have been given into hardship for some themes and he's off artwork for a on a similar time as :D
2016-11-14 19:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an aunt and great-aunt. As an uncle, your role is to lie. When they learn the truth, they'll understand why you lied.
Children go thru a phase when they are suspecting the truth. That's when they ask the questions, and it's when they dread what the truth is going to be. Help them delay the hard knowledge.
I had an experience when I was at the doubting age, I heard bells outside the 2nd floor room when I was sleeping. I've never understood what happened, probably a hallucination. But when children of a certain age ask me if I've ever seen Santa, I say "no, but I heard him one time & I'll never understand it." I describe my experience, and they are happily deluded for another year.
Children love their delusions, we're not hurting anybody if we let them go another year. It's not like they're the president or something.
2007-12-07 13:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by noname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this helps ... I tell my kids 4 ranging from 9 to 3 this
If you believe in Santa then he gives you a present under the tree on top of presents from me (us) the parents...
When you stop believing you only get presents from mum and dad...
that's as clear as i can make the information for them to make an informed decision... notably they choose to believe in Santa but it insures the little ones still get to enjoy.
It's the tinkerbell thing - ask them what they get from not believeing chuck all the questions back at them.
2007-12-07 11:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Santa knows if your bad or good right? so play that angle- get the questions they have( write them down ) take some time to answer them thoughtfully as only santa would and when your ready mail the answers back to your kids, together or individually. you keep your integrity and the kids are satisfied.
2007-12-07 11:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly what they are asking but I will tell you how I handle this.
My kids ask intermittently, "Is Santa real?", "How can one man deliver toys to everybody?", etc. I answer with what do you think?, How do you think he does it? and my favorite...If you don't believe in Santa, you don't get presents!
It's worked so far on my 8 year old but I'm afraid it won't for much longer :(
2007-12-07 11:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by GamerMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I had to deal with this with my daughter. I told her from the get go that Santa doesn't exist. We in fact celebrate the birth of Christ, and the presents which she receives are bought for her by her family.Oh by the way she is cool with that.
2007-12-07 11:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by taz man 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Turn the questions around and ask what the child thinks. Then you can respond "that's a good answer" to whatever is said.
2007-12-07 11:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly Lover 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
say he was every busy and said cant talk now but onother time or say he said he is busy dilivering presents
2007-12-07 11:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Metao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋