So, was I rude when I told someone at the movies a few weeks ago who answered his cell phone during the movie,

Question

I said, what the f--- are you doing? Take that f-ing outside. I don't think I was being rude, do you? People shouldn't answer cell phones during movies, you have to be kidding me. Was I out of line? I used the f-word to make a point, and hopefully this ****** won't do it to future movie audiences who pay $10 per ticket.

I'm 6'3 230#, I'm not really afraid of anyone.

No, this was not an emergency, he sounded as if it was a casual conversation, and he was actually carrying it on for about 20 seconds, before I said what everyone else wanted to say, but didn't have the balls to say.

Answer 1

Good for you!! I firmly believe that if you don't speak up and tell someone they are acting like a jerk, then we are all doomed to having to endure this nonsense. I speak my mind when getting bad service, and expect others to behave in a considerate manner. I once threw out from my hospital room a Nurse who was picking a fight with me. You might be able to tell, I don't suffer fools lightly.

Answer 2

Aside from not going to the movies at all, perhaps you could plan your times when most other people do not go. That is what I do, and I can change seats easily. You are right about nut cases, and don't forget the CHILDREN.... If you call an usher, you'd have to get up and leave the theater, miss part of the movie and get yourself upset. Plus it could be obvious that it was you that reported him and he still might be a nut case and go postal. Desensitize yourself as well, life isn't always easy. lol

Answer 3

Well, using that kind of language was certianly rude. Please turn off your phone would have been more appropriate. Certianly, all you did was provoke an arguement, further disrupting the movie and offend people who were uninvolved in the incident.

Also, you took a great risk. Though it is uncommon, some people do carry weapons and aren't wound too tight. You could have gotten knifed for your trouble.

In many situations, I upset some of my more barbaric friends because I don't settle my disputes with violence or vulgarity, I use the authorities who get paid to settle things - like the cops, or, in your case, the people employed by the theater. I know, you'd have to get out of your seat and miss a minute of the movie. However, wouldn't it be better to watch the manager escort him out rather then you yourself also being asked to leave?

So yes, you were rude, but not for the reasons you think. You were also foolhardy.

Answer 4

He was rude for not turning his cell phone off in the movie theater and you weren't exactly the pinnacle of etiquette for cursing at him. Cursing at a person for breaking the rules, even to make a point, is not a polite thing to do.

You are very right--people should not be answering cell phones in the theater. They should be turned off. Movies these days are obscenely expensive and people should be able to get their money's worth without someone talking on a cell phone.

Your point would have been more effective and less disruptive if you'd gotten a manager to have the gentleman in question removed. If more people were removed from theaters for talking on cell phones, less people would do it. The only way to have them removed is to inform management.

Answer 5

You were just as rude (if not more) than he was. Remember, he paid ten dollars for his ticket too, and you don't know if that was an emergency call or not. Perhaps someone should have used "the f-word to make a point" with you so that you would stop being an "******" in the future.

Answer 6

the intent was good but the message was way off.
was there a real need for the four letter words?

one day you will realize that you get more when you are kind
if you can't do it with the words then step out and management take care of it.

Answer 7

Using the f word was inappropriate. Your point would have been made without it. It just made you look as sorry as the guy who answered his phone.

Answer 8

were you louder then his cell phone? I don't know man the whole deal sounds rude but I bet it felt good to tell that dude off

Answer 9

Next time try something like, "I'm sorry; would you mind taking your phone outside?"