People say I ask too many questions, but I'm curious & don't know that much about certain subjects, like politics, law, taxes, criminal justice, business administration, etc. & they say I'm retarded with no common sense & they see my curiosity as childish & they think I'm giving people an opportunity to take advantage of me with finances, cars, & business transactions. How can I be knowledgeable if I'm forbidden to ask questions? But then people say if I don't knowsomething I should ask.
I graduated from college & got my BA degree & got a 2.3 GPA because I have EXTREMELY poor reading comprehension. I don't understand what I'm reading. I also have poor concentration because of my mental disability, & I had 2 strokes @ age 5. My former foster mom kept me couped inside all day, enslaving me, making me clean up. She & other foster family members were abusive & punished me for no reason. I'm 24 & JUST beginning to learn common sense & street sense.
2007-12-07 12:29:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hey, there's nothing wrong with asking questions! Ever:) It's actually a sign of a very intelligent person. Some of the dumbest people I've ever met were the ones who didn't ask questions and acted like they knew it all when they really didn't.
You have a valid disability and have survived a horrible childhood. (No one should have to go through the sort of things that you went through as a child.) I think you have every excuse to be a little behind on understanding things. You seem to be doing very good at rising above it! A BA degree is very impressive, indeed!
People who call you "retarded" for being curious are lousy friends. That's such a cruel thing to call someone. There's no crime in not knowing something. And there's certainly no crime in being able to set aside your pride and ask! Don't ever stop asking questions! :)
Oh, and no, I wouldn't be annoyed if I had a friend who asked a lot of questions. I like being asked questions and getting a chance to share what I know. My knowledge does no one any good if I can't share it.
2007-12-07 13:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Avie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love people who ask lots of questions. Your problem is you're surrounded by insensitive louts. In fact, intelligent people are much more likely to ask questions then the average people. Einstein asked hundreds of questions every day and he was the smartest guy around.
So, maybe it's your technique. Here's an idea, ask people in such a way as you make them feel smart. Proceed it with "You know so much about "X", I hope you don't mind me asking questions. I learn so much from you!"
Next - stop thinking of yourself as mentally disabled. Everyone learns differently. You might be reading disabled, but from what I can gather here, you seem sharp as a tack!
Finally. A councillor told me something very important when I was your age. She said -"If your 15 and your life is a wreck, it's your family's faunt. If your 25 and it's still a wreck, it's all you". You are the captian of your destiny and what you take for yourself is what you get. I would also suggest to you that you find books on tape and video programs to learn from - and decide you want a mentor - and one will come to you. You're 24 and you already accomplished more then most people half your ge. You've preformed some miracles and beat a lot of odds - so, remember you're already a hero and a brave person and you will excel.
Oh, and get yourself a tape recorder, read all the text you want to remember out loud and listen to it. The past is life a coffin someone said - if you live in it it limits your ability to live and grow. :)
2007-12-07 13:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are asking too many questions, all at the same time. Try to limit your questions to 3 - 4 questions, but don't ask them all together. Conversation is part listening, acknowledging, making statements of your opinon or support and questions. If you aren't mixing up your conversation and are asking too many questions, it can be seem as annoying.
I recommend that you do a lot of reading. The more you read something, over & over, the more you will learn. Ask people questions about things you have read. They will then think that you have been studying & trying to learn on your own, and maybe more willing to answer.
You'll get there, it just takes you a little longer. Be observant and form your own opinions. Common sense is something that even some of the smartest people (book smart) in the world don't have. So, it can be hard to learn.
2007-12-07 12:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by chelseiann 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for wanting to learn and improve yourself. Maybe if your friend doesn't like it when you ask questions a lot about a certain situation, you could wait and ask questions about that situation later. Maybe it's just that your friend finds it distracting to hear a lot of questions while he/she is trying to make a decision. So if you save your questions for later your friend can give your questions full attention. Also, sometimes if you just observe what's going on some of your questions might be answered.
I think it's great that you want to learn more street smarts. Maybe if you are making a decision that involves spending money you can just get all the information and ask someone you trust to help you make the decision later. If someone says you have to make a decision to buy something right then or the offer won't be good anymore, that's a sign that the person IS trying to take advantage of you, so you know you don't want to accept that offer.
2007-12-07 13:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a had a hard time of it. It's not fair, but you will have to work extra hard at life.
Try to be informed. Listen to NPR on the radio everyday so you know what is going on in the world.
See if you can get some help with the reading comprehension. Try some local adult literacy programs for resources.
Also, if you have trouble with reading, try listening to books. You shouldn't rely on other to explain everything to you; you need to put in the effort to learn it yourself,
Congratulations on finishing college!
2007-12-07 12:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by SHSHSH 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG your like me after we have got to do paintings and scan and so forth i panik and ask plenty of questions however simply ask for forgiveness im just a little pressured however are you able to support me out in order that i fully grasp so they are going to no you will have a little of quandary.:)
2016-09-05 11:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! ask away, and people who don't have patience with you ask them this final question'why are you such a ice hole?' them move on to the next question. I also love to ask questions, if you say 'I went out to dinner' I will ask what did you have ,was it good who served you and on and on, I have great friends and they humor me cause I do it so cute
2007-12-07 12:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋