I wrote a letter, if anyone would like critique it?....
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First off, I appreciate you ‘trying’ by taking the music to the back of the house last night, however? It was right under my baby’s head and she was trying to sleep. It could also be heard throughout the whole house, I even tried different rooms, just so I could get her to sleep. And the vacuuming at midnight? I am trying to be patient, I really am but I don’t understand?Can this be done during the day please? Or at least before 9 or 10?
You said that we are loud when you are sleeping, but I have never vacuumed late at night, nor have I ever blasted my radio late at night, my boys also have a bedtime on school nights and on weekends I only let them stay up if they are watching a movie or something mellow . And when my boys do get wild, they get into a lot of trouble! just ask them how many days they have been grounded simply for being too loud. I do my best. We are just ‘living’, you know? You’ve got to live. I realize
these walls are paper thin and that every step we take must sound loud, but I just wanted to let you know, that we really do try our best to keep it down for you. There are 4 people in this apartment though, 3 of them under the age of 10, but still I am very hard on them and they know that if they jump they are in big trouble with me. So…if we are ever loud, it is a complete accident, never, ever on purpose. It has upset me, because I feel like the music thing is on purpose because you know that it bothers us when it is loud.
I just want to know, what would you do? I don’t know what to do when the house is rumbling and she is trying to sleep. I don’t want to have to ask you to turn it down, I really don’t. I usually just sit and hope that you will. My boys couldn’t sleep last night either, it wasn’t until the music stopped. (around 12:40 am ) that they finally fell asleep on the couch. Then on Christmas morning, screaming and loud music when I would have loved to just sleep with my daughter…
I understand that you ‘need music to clean’ although I’m not this way, I know a lot of people that are, so…what if I actually bought you an MP3 player? Even loaded it with music for you...would that help? I would totally do that. I would love to help you, I know how tough being a single mom can be! I don’t want this to be a silly toddler ‘war’, I think we are adults and better than that. I would like to be friends, even get to know you? I just hope you understand….
So, I guess I was a little taken back by your attitude last night. I was kind to you,but the response I got back was not. When you told me we were loud sometimes, I immediately apologized. You have not apologized to me anytime that I have talked to you about it.
You are totally right when you mentioned you haven’t complained about us before, but you have also not been considerate or even tried to keep it down. So, my question is this…so do you want me to not ask you to turn it down when it’s loud? I could do that, but do you want me to also be considerate as I always have been? Doesn’t seem fair if I am considerate and your not.
Please let me know if you would like help with an MP3 player or even help cleaning? I like music too! I guess I just thought that now that I live in an apartment I should play it loud in my car or headphones. Sorry this is so long, I was up kind of late and would just like to work this out with you…
2007-12-27
19:31:22
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Kimmy M
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