I'm engaged to a wonderful women (Jane - not real name) who has an equally wonderful 5 yr/old boy (John). Unfortunately, the father (Bob) of this boy has been out of his son's life for the past 4 years - no visits, no cards, no calls, no child support - NOTHING. From what I heard of Bob, he was (maybe still is) involved with drugs and other destructive activities which is one of the reason the marriage ended. I know, I'm only hearing one side of the story, but Jane is a very open person and I have no reason to think that she is lying.
John is starting to ask about his father. Why he doesn't visit or call and wondering who Bob is. Jane is struggling with explaining to John what happened. Why Mommy and Daddy didn't get along? Why they move back to her hometown from NYC. John wants to call his "Father" and to know why Bob doesn't want to know him.
I'm not looking for legal advice, but how do you explain this to a 5 yr/old and not have him think he did anything wrong?
2006-08-09
03:12:01
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