Marriage & Divorce - 2 December 2006

been together 20 yrs, with 2 kids. Found out about the affair 3 months ago. Still cant get over it. He has been out of the house over 1 month. I miss him so, but hate him the same time for doing this. How can i possibly get over this.

2006-12-02 03:16:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have my relationship (engaged) with my bf. He's from the states and I am from dominican Republic. we gonna get marry next year ( :
well, as his wife i will become, he wants me to go the states and live with him. For that, we need a marriage visa. he had been working alot and me too for save up money. Yesterday we were talking about the spends it requires for succeed the marriage visa which is kinda expensive ($600-1000 dls). he told me what we gonna do is to share the spends (each of us will pay the half-to-half). I didnt offended by that, but im just wondering if in the future things will be this way. Is this correct? I mean i'm not a spoil who wants everyhing-i-wish and neither I dont have any problem sharing.

is this a good sign of a good marriage? i mean,... the fact of know how to share things with your couple... can someone clear up this to me?

I will appreciate even more answers from experience ppl, thanks in advanced!

2006-12-02 03:14:36 · 15 answers · asked by *live,laugh,love* 2

I am trying to determine what percentage of males and females were to blame for the breakdown of marriages on account of infidelity.Please give your personal experience if possilble.

2006-12-02 03:09:03 · 10 answers · asked by cayetto 2

I left with our children(2) Sept.1,2005. He moved in with her the begining of April. He is an alcoholic and was never home. Mental abuse was nonstop.. Could not stay in a marrige with no love no affection nothing. He say's there is nothing wrong with him moving in with the back stabber I am devistated. Am I wrong?

2006-12-02 03:08:35 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1

2006-12-02 03:08:18 · 52 answers · asked by sassy! 2

I have this really sweet bf and he is really talented and hott. HE plays for Varsity football team and is really popular. He asked me out 3 weeks ago and we both really love each other but a lot of other girls like him too. He never flirts with them, but I hear a lot of rumors. We are really close and we always have a lot of fun together. He is the sweetest guy but what do I do?

2006-12-02 03:07:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

you are going to be there forever, one person is very passionate and loving and one hates the opposite sex and well kill you the minute they see you. They don't live together and you don't know who is who, would you take the chance to find a lover or would you decide to remain celibate the rest of your life?

2006-12-02 03:04:45 · 27 answers · asked by sweetsmile 2

2006-12-02 03:03:42 · 10 answers · asked by Melissa H 3

Just wondering how many females are in same boat as me

2006-12-02 03:01:30 · 8 answers · asked by six7foru 2

This is insane! We have been married for two years. Recently... over the last two months our sex life is cutt down to once a month now... if I am lucky. I have confronted him with this and he is stating that he doesnt have a sex drive. He even got mad at me and said, " Is all you care about is sex?" As a woman... that makes me feel so damn low. He says that I dont make him feel like a man. I am 9 mos pregnant and he is out of work... and yeah stress may play a part of this... but he isnt so stressed that he doesnt enjoy all the activities that he used to. What happened is that I told him I was tired of doing all the work in bed. I told him that I was tired of giving the oral sex, and being the one on top, and having to get myself off. I have never had oral sex from this man... and NO ... I am not unclean or unshaven. When we do have sex... he can hardly hold back. So what in the hell is wrong? He swears to God he isnt masterbating... and I know he isnt cheating and no PORN! WTF?

2006-12-02 02:56:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anna Q 1

2006-12-02 02:53:03 · 12 answers · asked by nobody w 1

she just rolls over and tells me she doesnt want to and tells me to go find someone else. I know she met other guys and ladies on the internet chat rooms and went to meet them leaving me at home studying and taking care of my 4 kids. Now i am all horned up and no way of sexual relief what should I do. lincoln ne

2006-12-02 02:51:31 · 21 answers · asked by ? 2

So I have been having an afair with a drunk, a disrespectful person. He is my ex boyfriend, I was forced to tell my hubby a couple months ago bcz this affair guy was threatening me that he was gonna come to my house so I ended up telling him. Then after I told him the affair guy said that he would have never told my husband, so he squirmed his way back to me, I dunno how but he did. He swears that he would never tell my hubby that it can just be our seceret. But now Iam so stuck, I do have ALOT of feeling for this guy, I think I love him, but I also love my hubby too, we have 2 kids together and he is a had working person, never treated me wrong! Can someone please help me out here, Iam not sure what is wrong with me HELP!!!

2006-12-02 02:49:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does anyone know of someone who did this? If not what are your thoughts?

2006-12-02 02:47:35 · 12 answers · asked by L.A. Scene 3

the thing is he has severe issues,meaning i think he was sexually abused as a child so he is very funny about sex.we have none.he is always getting extremely upset with every thing i say and when i say something he takes it in and totally takes it and turns it around i think he has a mental problem help!

2006-12-02 02:43:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is a pot head. He has been since we met in 1999. I never cared about this when we where teenagers but now I find it immature, selfish, and extremely sickening. I love him dearly and just want him to stop. He doesn't want to stop though. I don't allow him around me or the children with it, but it still bothers me. I just want him to stop. I know that if I just keep praying God will take this addiction away from my husband. Have you ever dealt with something like this? How do I love him withou being hateful about this? I married him this way but now I want to leave him over it. How should I approach the suject to let him know that he has got to stop of I am going to leave him? He says I'm nagging him just about every time I talk to him, but I don't see it that way. Should I go to counseling by myself? Should I force him to decide? How can I help his see how wrong this is before I lose my family?

2006-12-02 02:43:19 · 11 answers · asked by bamagrits84 3

the thing is he has severe issues,meaning i think he was sexually abused as a child so he is very funny about sex.we have none.he is always getting extremely upset with every thing i say and when i say something he takes it in and totally takes it and turns it around i think he has a mental problem help!

2006-12-02 02:41:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-02 02:40:49 · 14 answers · asked by ALI wb 1

Feels so difficult when you get dumped and broken hearted :((

2006-12-02 02:36:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-02 02:33:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married to a wonderful man...been married to him for 9 years. Just recently I found an ex boyfriend on myspace. He and I never dated....but we kissed in school 20 years ago. He wanted to have sex and I didnt...so he started seeing someone else without breaking up with me....anyway......now that we found one another on there......it has stirred all them feelings I had for him all these years ago........he even tells me that I am what he has been looking for in a women. He knows I am married and he doesnt want me to cheat on my husband.....well he knows I wouldnt....but these thoughts are in my head....I think they are there because we really had no closure......I dont know if I am inlove with him....or this emotion I feel is just excitement because I found him after all these years......but I have thoughts of us together.....but I feel like I am happy with my husband at the same time. Please tell me what you think......serious people please..

2006-12-02 02:29:10 · 21 answers · asked by kim 2

2006-12-02 02:26:15 · 18 answers · asked by **POPULAR!** 2

Dave went to Co and then Ca and I can't find him. If anyone knows where he is please email me or answer here or pass my info along to him. I am just an old friend who is trying to get in touch with him.

2006-12-02 02:18:28 · 1 answers · asked by imjustmessinround 2

I am 12 years old and I am always depressed.I was never happy at home and I faked happy at school,but now that I stopped faking my freinds ask me what is wrong.Anyway, I guess I am depressed because of my parents divorce but they have been divorced since I was 3.So, I can't even remember when we weren't a split family.Both of my parents got re-married and I LOVE my step-dad.But,my step mom and step sister are evil.My step mom never talks to me and my step sister who is 2 years younger than me drives me insane! I hate her.She always braggs about the stuff she gets or how she always spends time with my dad.And for some reason I can't stand up to her.everyone including my family thinks she is a perfect angel.But, my dad and even my step mom knows she has someting wrong with her.so they take her to a doctor to disipline her since they can't do it and she always screams at my dad and her mom.And I am fat so its not helping the situation any.So, I am VERY depressed,HELP! sorry I wrote so muc

2006-12-02 02:15:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Some of you guys made it out to sound like I just hate my ex and do not want my son to live with him or that I didn't care enough to fight for him. Here is the problem that I had with his father. He has never been a Dad! He would go for 6 months or even more without talking to his children. Yes, we have another son together that he has not spoken to in 1.5 years. He would get them built up for visitation and then drop the bomb on them a few days before about not being able to keep them. He never not once made an effort to be involved. No b-day cards or phone calls, no x-mas presents, he has never seen them play sports. When they would get to visit him he would dump them off on his parents. So many broken promises, and broken hearts. My son is a good kid, but did not have many friends and no matter what his father did to him he still yearned to have a relationship with him. At one point he even tried to waive his parental rights. Is that a little clearer?

2006-12-02 02:14:06 · 4 answers · asked by stacey h 3

Last night, one minute he was fine and then the nest minute he was really distant. I tried all night and this morning to reach out to him, but he was more or less like whatever with a pat on the head. He went to work early (unusual) just gave me a kiss on the cheek and left. I had a minor issue last night myself, and it did not involve him whatsoever and I sincerely apologized for acting like a brat but he is still giving me the cold shoulder. He gets like this every so often, more often lately, at least once a week. He is a great man, everything I could dream of, and I know he is not cheating or anything. What should I do?

2006-12-02 02:05:35 · 8 answers · asked by jenkins_nichole 2

2006-12-02 02:05:05 · 4 answers · asked by Egyptien 1

married for 14 years,seperated for one year, refuses to talk about any kind of reconciliation but won't file for a divorce either and lives a double life having boyfriend live in marital home,threatens 12 year old son with having to live with dad if he doesn't act accordingly, uses the word betrayal openly , allows the son and the 23 yr old step daughter to get involved in our problems and make things personal between them and I.moves in five other grown adults into the marital home and refuses to let me know if their sharing expenses or not.aside from sick, what kind of person is this? oh and according to her I'm dead now and there are not any memories or history of the last 14 years together, and because of her feelings her whole family has shunned me and I'm a stranger now. won't even acknowledge me in public with a simple hello. and Yes I have filed for a divorce and can't wait for it to be finalized,I'm going after everything legally,including my son before he's too brainwashed!!

2006-12-02 02:04:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-02 01:58:08 · 11 answers · asked by maydy217 1

I love him always and will always will. We met again after 4 years. But he is in the US and I am in South America. He wants to come down to see me but he says he is not the same anymore as for health and money. I don't care, I love him for what he is. We are getting old and time flies fast. There is not that I can tell to make him believe that he is still good and that's him that I love. He even believes that, but he can not accept that a woman can live with an impotent guy. To me, it is his heart, his silly self that I love. Please, is there anything else to convince him? I need good English because I am not a native and sometimes as much as I write I mess up words and I don't want him to be confusing with my words. I know my English is not bad but I want some good advice that I can read and then try to tell him how I feel. Thanks for the help.

2006-12-02 01:53:44 · 8 answers · asked by Butterfly 1