So I have been having an afair with a drunk, a disrespectful person. He is my ex boyfriend, I was forced to tell my hubby a couple months ago bcz this affair guy was threatening me that he was gonna come to my house so I ended up telling him. Then after I told him the affair guy said that he would have never told my husband, so he squirmed his way back to me, I dunno how but he did. He swears that he would never tell my hubby that it can just be our seceret. But now Iam so stuck, I do have ALOT of feeling for this guy, I think I love him, but I also love my hubby too, we have 2 kids together and he is a had working person, never treated me wrong! Can someone please help me out here, Iam not sure what is wrong with me HELP!!!
2006-12-02 02:49:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is wrong with you is that you're looking for happiness outside yourself. You won't be happy in ANY relationship until you stop doing that. You won't be able to have a HEALTHY relationship until you stop doing that. Get a spiritual life. :)
2006-12-02 02:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Secret Agent of God (BWR) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if your hubby is hard working and u love him, why would u trade that for a useless drunk? u got to take responsibility for your own actions, what kind of relationship are u going to have with the other guy if he threatens u, and makes u believe he is going to tell your hubby? he is holding u emotional hostage and is using that against u to get what he wants. yes there is something the matter with u, maybe u seek the kind of guy who treats u disrespectfully, because maybe in your past you have had several relationships like this. u need some therapy to understand what's going on inside u, u lack self control, and self insight. what would happen if your good husband, left and got a divorce, and u were suddenly left with the other man, how happy would u be than. maybe u seek the exitement of having two men vieying for your love, it's really that it sooths a low self worth, it makes u feel special. this guy is bad news, and eventually your husband is going to loose hope and trust and bail out on you,this mostlikely has more to do with lust than real love.
2006-12-02 18:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st rule, don't get involved with a drunk man.
2nd rule, don't get involved with ex's... it only leads to confusion.
I had an emotional affair with my ex, long distance. I have A LOT of feelings for the guy, and a whole lot of regret cuz I think he was the one I should have married. Its very hard.
But I had to quit taking his calls when hubby kept telling our kids that my boyfriend was calling!!!! Aghhhhhhhh!
And there appears to be nothing wrong with your husband (according to you) so don't take away your children's security.
My involvement with my ex, however, was a wakeup call to my husband. He got on Prozac to control his temper, anxiety pills to control his "controllingness", and quit spending every minute of his spare time at work.
I had been neglected as a wife. But I had also neglected my husband by building up a wall around my heart that he couldn't get in. Its a long story.
Your ex isn't good for you. You may need a restraining order. If you want someone to talk to.,.. email me.
2006-12-02 10:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want the bad boy, people say that women want a maid at home a cook in the kitchen and a whore in bed, I think women want a provider at home, a handyman around the house and a bad bot for the bed room. You have two out of three and want number three too. This guy is to immature for an affair it will end badly.
2006-12-02 10:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jim C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you? You are woman with low morales and standards. You got caught cheating once and are thinking about doing it again? I noticed you never said your husband cheated on you or beat you.
My advice, tell your husband, move out, divorce and leave the children with your husband. They don't need your type as a role model. You said you THINK you love him, sounds like you have no business being married. How long before you cheat on the other guy? Hell divorce your husband and find a street corner, then you can screw around with as many men as you want.
2006-12-02 10:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are a horrible person. I hope your husband divorces you and gets custody of the 2 kids. But I'm sure you don't want them anyway. You'd rather be with a drunk. You are a good role model for your kids. Way to go super mom!
2006-12-02 10:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey u having a great time out there with a drunk? well wake up and smell the crap that he's throwing at u. If u keep this up u should loose your family and all the respect u use to have for yourself. You're only looking for trouble being out with him, drop him or loose your family forever.
2006-12-02 11:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP SEEING THE DRUNK EX-BOYFRIEND!!!!
He is destroying your family life...and he knows that!
If you lose your children and husband over some ex-boyfriend who didn't work out from the start, you are going to be very sorry.
I'm sure he is not worth all that, if so, you wouldn't have broke up with him from the start. He has nothing to offer you...leave him alone!
2006-12-02 10:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Author Al 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget about the drunk and stay with your husband, think about it? the guy threatened you for starters, two, your husband took you back after you told him you cheated, and three you have 2 kids to look after, dont mess it up, seriously
2006-12-02 10:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by smile_a_lot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama drama drama, go up. Sorry but thats what is wrong with you. WHY do people want to hurt others? All you do when you behave this way is make others and yourself loose respect for you. Try doing something good, it is rewarding and you will actually like yourself.
2006-12-02 11:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋