Marriage & Divorce - 2 December 2006

My husband said that he wants to work on our marriage, come home and have our life back to normal. He says that he wishes he had never met his mistress and she is a mistake.

I told him that if he wants to work on us, he has to cut all ties with her. He said he knows this, but he doesn't know if he can do it. He also says in a perfect world, this wouldn't have happened and we would be back to where we were.

Why can't he give her up? There has to be more to it than just "having his cake and eating it too." Any ideas?

2006-12-02 14:19:51 · 28 answers · asked by blue eyes 2

2006-12-02 14:15:13 · 25 answers · asked by Sally (In Love) 1

My husband would have filed in Washington county, Wa state.

2006-12-02 14:14:52 · 1 answers · asked by luv_my_bus 1

My son's 10 and his father took him every second week-end from the time he was 2 until last year. Now he turns off his phone and refuses to show up. He lies to our son about trying to call and stands him up regularly. I've always got along with him and have not argued about this with him however I have told him how much his son needs him and he says that he works hard and deserves to have his evening and weekends to himself. He says he knows its wrong but that it. I see how much this hurts my son and have no idea on how to help him.

2006-12-02 14:12:27 · 12 answers · asked by CHRISTINE S 2

If so are you still married??

2006-12-02 14:07:53 · 14 answers · asked by sicilyuk 3

ok so my husband has decided to choose his family over his drinking yes i had him choose but here is my question tonight was very very hard for him because we go bowling on sat and he always gets drunk there well the other 2 members of our team drank he didnt and he really had a tough time with it i could tell but anyway what i want to know is this i want to say to him honey i know how hard that was for you and i am very proud of you and thank you for what your doing because that is how i feel but i dont want it to sound like i am patronizing him or something so when i see him doing good do i tell him or just let it lay? any ideas?

2006-12-02 13:59:07 · 22 answers · asked by momoftwobestkids 3

13 years ago. Married 10. Wife obviously has issues with the topic. But now I want to see how she (the ex) is doing...obviously lots of issues...any suggestions?

2006-12-02 13:57:10 · 15 answers · asked by I'm Gumby Damnit! 2

Hello. I am french/spaniard and married an american who I love a lot. We're so good together - except when it comes to talking in bed. I don't know what to say. I think in other languages. He has said to me "Who's your daddy" a few times in bed... I don't understand what he means and I *think* he wants a response. I feel so silly. Could someone please help me with a good response to this?

2006-12-02 13:53:37 · 13 answers · asked by Marie 1

hurrrryyy

2006-12-02 13:46:21 · 7 answers · asked by lil miss hottie 1

i am married to the coldest woman on earth
been married for 25 yrs
she avoids sex at all cost
what can i do ?

2006-12-02 13:36:48 · 21 answers · asked by kramer 1

so, i asked earlier about proposing to my lady & giving her two weeks to respond. now the most of the answers on her that i got say that i shouldnt have to wait even a full day, and that she should know right off the bat whether she wants to marry me or not. so the new question is. should i even wait until friday for the answer, or go to her, say what i am feeling and basically tell her that i want an answer asap...or just let it ride, hope and pray, and when friday comes...if she does - she does, and if she doesnt - well then i know. honestly, this is eating me up inside, and i think the majority of you guys are right. if she really does love me, then i should have had an answer by now. once again, im caught in a pickle and dont know what to do. HELP!!!!

2006-12-02 13:34:58 · 25 answers · asked by brianju 2

He's just slapped me really hard around the face because I told him off for yelling at our teething baby- hes ok with our oldest son but doesn't give a **** about our baby. When we bought our house, I was pregnant with our eldest son and not working- he told me we had a meeting with the building society to arrange the mortgage... then on the day I was due to go in and sign, he told me he'd got the mortgage in his name only and that I didn't need to do anything as I was unemployed. We've been married for three years and things have been getting increasingly worse, he has always had a short fuse but used to take his tempers (usually when he was drunk) out on doors, walls etc... just before our youngest son was born, he started to take things out on me. It was small things to start with, he'd throw his phone at me for example, but they're getting worse as time goes on. I want to split up with him as I dont want to bring my kids up like this- anyone know what my rights are? Leanne XX

2006-12-02 13:17:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's snowing outside and I'm bored. So how did you meet your husband/wife? Did you like him/her right of? Was he/she single at the time? The cutest or most unusual story will get best answer.

2006-12-02 13:13:34 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girl does things to make me depressed all the time. I dont get any attention from her or and signs that she loves me like she says she does. I'm always doing things to show I care but I dont get anything in return. She stays mad for at least 3 days and wont talk to me when I do something she doesnt like. The last time was when I told her I thought she was cheating on me when I found her at the club grinding on a guy. She got so mad and wouldnt talk to me for a week. I dont know why I let her walk all over me. I would leave her if I wasnt such a wuss. When she is leaving for work in the morning and I try to hug her she will get mad and says she doesnt have time. She never wants to cuddle or make out anymore. I'm the first boyfriend she has had that isnt a mean gruff marine. I guess I need to treat her like sh*t like she does me. She used to be a sweetheart the first few months we were together. What would you do?

2006-12-02 13:09:34 · 15 answers · asked by Lookinstr8over 3

I have a situation where I had to leave my own house because the wife has allowed to the kids to do what they want, and it has caused problems in the relationship. One child is bi-polar. At the end he used to crank up his music, and when I asked the wife to ask him to keep it down, she would allow him to leave his music up. She never would confront him because she was afraid of him. And if I tried to ask him to turn it down, it just made me look like a bad guy in his and his mother’s eyes. I have been separated for 4 months and I don’t know what is going on in the household. Should I just ask for a divorce?

2006-12-02 13:08:26 · 5 answers · asked by lovermonkey 2

2006-12-02 13:04:33 · 19 answers · asked by amadeus_denis 3

2006-12-02 12:51:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I would honestly like to know WHY does everyone just assume that there is cheating involved ???? When for instance the husband or wife say they are confused about their situation or not sure how they feel about each other. WHY are people just so quick to accuse everyone of cheating ?? What is wrong with our society these days ????? Some of us still have morals, DON"T WE ????????

2006-12-02 12:49:32 · 17 answers · asked by kazzadanni 4

it seems like people are getting married, and then divorced. One friend of mine got divorced after only a year, and another friend is filing for divorce after 11 years. What's going on? Is anybody happy?

2006-12-02 12:49:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

i just dont beleive in marrying or the subject of marriage on a whim...im old fashioned and beleive that it is something it is sacred and serious, dont marry unless you know deep down in your bones that you will still love eachother until death....but how do you know this is the one that you would love in 60 years?

2006-12-02 12:43:42 · 18 answers · asked by nonyerbusiness 3

2006-12-02 12:38:59 · 35 answers · asked by foxfire730 2

my nozy spouse has found a way to trick me by getting the answer to my challenge question. I unaware at the time accidently gave the answer and later had a hard time getting into my account. Not that there is really anything to hide but he now knows every damn thing from questions I've ask to answers I've recieved he said he was only playing knowing good enough well that his behind was, just being damn sneaky and nozy. He himself in return is very private and panics when he think I've came across any of his emails etc. I'm pissed off about this cause I can't even trust my own husband advice please?

2006-12-02 12:38:52 · 11 answers · asked by tiny tott 1

2006-12-02 12:36:24 · 21 answers · asked by Lives7 6

How is it that men can hold back their emotions so well, and live like everything will be alright? Why do they play so many head games?

2006-12-02 12:29:35 · 22 answers · asked by missing_something 2

2006-12-02 12:23:54 · 19 answers · asked by jay316-83 1

When I was 16 I got married ,he was 19 ,things went ok until I got pregnant when I was 17,but I lost the baby and that put alot of strain on us,we argued alot and sometimes he even got violent thats when I left to go move back home,and he stayed in FL., recently I have been calling him like a couple times a day, I miss him so much ,I picture us having kids together and being a happy family here in NY,I know we both did and said things that were wrong in the past and I want to give him another chance,our famalies keep pressuring us to split but I couldnt ever see him with another chick

2006-12-02 12:17:12 · 8 answers · asked by bustybabygrl88 2

fight, have the last word, interupt me, and basically start an argument over nothing, lately I have been ignoring him when he does this, going quiet, or leaving the room all together...however this makes him moody and he stays bitchy or moody and snarky all day, I really dont care to engage in his childlike bullshit...what should I do, other than leave. He is 32 and im 26.

2006-12-02 12:15:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-02 12:14:11 · 24 answers · asked by Terri R 1

I'm in a REALLY foul mood over something the husband has done (has to do with a business deal, not sex), and am just looking for comiseration.

I say their worst attribute is that they can't make a decision, and then stick with it.

2006-12-02 12:02:36 · 15 answers · asked by silvercomet 6

Caught my stbx cheating on me with a gal he met in a chat room. She lives 500 miles from us. This has been going on for about 6-9 months. He has gone to visit her several times...telling me he is on business. I have a keylogger installed on computer and record all conversations they have each night after I go to bed. Do you homewreckers get tired of listening about how the divorce is going? Do you like the idea that he is finally getting a divorce and you might have a chance with him?? Do you feel any guilt that a family is breaking up because of you??

2006-12-02 12:02:25 · 21 answers · asked by Serendipity 1