so, i asked earlier about proposing to my lady & giving her two weeks to respond. now the most of the answers on her that i got say that i shouldnt have to wait even a full day, and that she should know right off the bat whether she wants to marry me or not. so the new question is. should i even wait until friday for the answer, or go to her, say what i am feeling and basically tell her that i want an answer asap...or just let it ride, hope and pray, and when friday comes...if she does - she does, and if she doesnt - well then i know. honestly, this is eating me up inside, and i think the majority of you guys are right. if she really does love me, then i should have had an answer by now. once again, im caught in a pickle and dont know what to do. HELP!!!!
2006-12-02 13:34:58 · 25 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah she should have known right away!
I would go to her and tell her that she should have known on the spot if she wanted to marry you or not. if she loves you then she would say yes. tell her that you would like an answer
2006-12-02 13:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by wantme_comegetme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does it prove that she either loves you or doesn't love you by how quickly she gives you an answer? marriage is a huge responsibility and for some people it's bigger than others. She may have made a promise to her parents about wanting to get married at a certain point and now is not that point. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you, it means she's a woman of her word. I would wait for a person like that. there are so many reasons and the no-brains on this website think superficially so my advice is to give her the time she needs. Also, if she says no then it's better that she said no now then after you've legally obligateds yourself to each other or have kids bcuz then it's a HELL of a lot tougher to walk away. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-02 13:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me reverse the scenario and you tell me if your waiting for an answer makes sense.
If a woman were to keep waiting for a guy to propose to her, he would end up having to find a new girlfriend. Believe me, women will put their foot down and issue an ultimatum to a guy if she expect a proposal after waiting for so long. Why should a guy have to wait using the same logical reasoning?
If she couldn't give you an answer immediately, she is most likely unsure about her future with you, or maybe she is hiding something from you that has forced her to be put on the spot, such as the fact that she may be cheating. You'd be amazed at how people quickly spill the beans when put under such pressures and wind up confessing to infidelity, if that is what's going on.
Like other good folks on here said, she should have answered on the spot. If not, she is playing mind games with you and is probably too immature to be making such a commitment anyway.
2006-12-03 07:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree; you should have asked for an answer sooner. But you already said that you'd give her two weeks. Now, you really should stick by that. The best thing to do would be to give her some space for the next two weeks, spend some time apart, because it's just going to be really awkward between you until she gives you an answer.
In one sense, it's good that she is thinking about it; she probably wants to make sure that she isn't acting solely on emotions and that she really wants this. I don't see the problem in giving a potential fiancee a little bit of time to think things through, but two weeks just seems too much.
2006-12-02 13:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, do you think she needs time to soak it all in because thats a big decission a person has to make but yes I agree with you my hubby asked me and I said yes then and there but if she truely loves you your answer will be what your waiting on maybe her parents or friends have a problem with it that their little girl is going to get married or her friends think that they are losing a friend who knows but you should talk to her and let her know its eating you up in side and you two need to talk about the future and where you two go from here just because shes not ready yet doesnt mean she doest love you find out from her why she has to wait talk to her she is the only one with the answers your looking for good luck I'm hoping you get the answer your looking for!!!
2006-12-02 13:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with those that said her "yes" answer should've been immediate. Taking two weeks to think things over is a very long time - you either know or you don't. I think she is playing huge mind games with you. I will call her immediately and demand an answer - if she can't give you one, then you've got all the information you need to know. Time to move on!!!
2006-12-02 14:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the starting up that's purely my opinion. once you requested this woman to marry you it really is an really huge life replacing determination and she or he has the right to take her time to respond to. would you truly she have yelled sure OH sure and then a week or 2 later given you decrease back the hoop declaring she idea about it and has replaced her ideas? If she fails the attempt in spite of in case you tell her friday is the useless line or you wait till after her finals it isn't your fault. no human being fails a attempt because of somebody else.
2016-11-30 01:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't she worth a two-week wait? I don't think the delay indicates anything detrimental to you - let it ride. If she answers "yes" ask her if she really means it - but ask it with a huge smile and a hug. If she waffles, then you will know that there are problems. Otherwise, just be happy!
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2006-12-02 13:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Serendipity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously you love her. Rather than withdrawing the proposal find out what her reservations are. You two have to be able to communicate in order to have a successful marriage. Maybe there is something bothering her or something she is afraid to tell you about herself. Maybe you caught he off guard. If it is meant to be then you can work it out together,
2006-12-02 14:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by wes41550 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait till friday, don't rush her. If you see her every day then yeah you should have an answer. But if you haven't seen her since then no not yet, just wait till friday. we all know that song by The Cure, "It's Friday i'm in love"
2006-12-02 13:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to wait -- and she shouldn't have to mull it over. But, you're the one that knows the situation, the girl and your feelings. I say... go with your instincts, let your heart decide and try not to over-think it. That said... if I were in your situation -- I would not wait. I would consider the lack of answer by this time, the answer itself. Sorry.
2006-12-02 13:39:02 · answer #11 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋