2006-12-02 12:51:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you are certainly right there !! Glad you are man enough to admit it. Now you just have to be man enough to change your attitude !! We all make mistakes so we must all accept some blame !!! Let's all start now eh !! Good luck
2006-12-02 13:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I used to hear a saying and it seems so true. It says "we always hurt the ones we love." Since your probably around her the most that is why you tend to blame her but it doesn't make it right. Think before you do it the next time and learn to control what you say to her. Only you can stop this from continuing unless of course she'd gets fed up with it and leaves you. You don't want that do you?
2006-12-02 21:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-02 20:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by 2live 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair, but maybe she really is the one whose responsible, for everything. Or maybe she's to blame for 50% of everything, and you can't bring yourself to take blame for the toher 50%. And of course, the fault line is generally 50/50.But not everyone admits that.
2006-12-02 21:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know its wrong then stop it. Be a man and take the wrongs also. And you are right it aint fair to her at all. That is a bad thing is she still with you? Or is she depressed feels like she can't do right you need to correct this. Make a new years thing now.
2006-12-02 21:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuz it is easier to blame someone else than to take the blame urself...sit down and look at the situation with ur wife and talk about it with her.
2006-12-02 20:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it takes two to tango. dont blame your wife for everything, because you may be partly to blame yourself. finger-pointing is not the solution to your problem; it will only make matters worse. find the solution and work on it; take one step at a time towards a better resolution.
2006-12-02 21:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by edith i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is always easier to blame someone else than to own up and take responsibility for you part in the blame. (even kids have this figured out-- "my brother/sister did it" also, we always hurt the people closest to us. and part of that is that we know these people and trust these people and are more vulnerable when it comes to dealing with them. like when you were a kid, think about how many times you hurt your mom, she's your mom she is still gonna love you... bottom line-- my husband and i have learned that it doesn't matter whose fault it is, just fix it and move on together.
2006-12-02 21:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by rebsqt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not specific. but, I would venture to guess that you do not want to be accountable for anything .....therefore, you want someone to blame .......she is the closet one to you.
Humble yourself. No one is perfect. You are not perfect. Address issues within you. She may be your wife, but she is not responsible for your actions or the actions of others or if a bird poops on your car window. get the picture?
2006-12-02 20:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you dont want to accept responsibility for anything.My BF blames he for everything from running out of milk to his son's problems, which started way before I met him.
2006-12-02 20:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by eastcoastdebra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋