the thing is he has severe issues,meaning i think he was sexually abused as a child so he is very funny about sex.we have none.he is always getting extremely upset with every thing i say and when i say something he takes it in and totally takes it and turns it around i think he has a mental problem help!
2006-12-02 02:41:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, i hate to tell you to go to a counselor, since i dont believe in them and think they are a waste of money, so maybe you should just cut and run to a lawyer for a divorce. why bother staying with him and taking that kind of abuse? dont do it "for the kids", no dad is better than a bad dad, they dont need to be around that situation either.
2006-12-02 02:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he has issues with you not past abuse. Not only are you not having sex he gets mad at everything you say. Maybe he is harboring some kind of resentment. If you really love each other I would suggest couples counseling and individual therapy for him. If price is an issue there are some free and low cost mental health facilities. Run it through a search engine for your area
2006-12-02 02:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by sheose711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear about counseling? Many people seem to think it is for people on the very edge of divorce, but it is actually an excellent venue for some couples who are experiencing difficulties that can easily be mended. I think yours can. Your husband needs to speak with someone about his issues and the both of you need to work toward resolving them together. Good luck.
2006-12-02 02:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking a couple of close friends or family members if they notice changes in his behavior. Be sure the problem is his and not one between you and him. If he gets upset when you talk to him try writing him a letter. Be sure to repeated tell him how much you love him in it and avoid using the work you because it deplicts blame. Instead try say "i fell." For example, instead of saying "You always act irrational." Try "i fell like sometimes when I try to talk to you there is a lot of tention". Does this make sense? Get him to reach to how you feel instead of telling him how he is wrong. If you can get him to see your comments as concern for him rather than as fussing or nagging (as most men do) you have a better chance of him allowing you to help him get help.
2006-12-02 02:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by bamagrits84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a sexual therapist and get help, see if something really happened in childhood, talk to him about it, ask him he thinks you feel right now in the relationship, Talking things through is a good way to getting things solved, GOOD LUCK
2006-12-02 02:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by smile_a_lot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you not know about these things before you married him? Seems that would've been reason enough not to.
Suggest couples counseling for you two...STRONGLY. If he won't go for that, you can go alone to learn how to cope with him (and accept him as he is) or seek out legal counsel and begin the path to your freedom.
2006-12-02 02:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOUR HUSBAND IS HAVING SOME OTHER KIND OF PROBLEMS, WHICH HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING ABUSED. IF HE GETS ANGRY EVERYTIME YOU SAY SOMETHING, MAYBE YOU SHOULD ASK HIM IF HE IS BEING UNFAITHFUL. WHEN HE GETS UPSET IS HE WALKING OUT AND COMING HOME WHEN HE WANTS?. LOOK FOR THE SIGNS, IF HE WAS ABUSED HE SHOULD SEE A DOCTOR AND NOT TAKE IT OUT ON YOU.
2006-12-02 03:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear allot of cases like this from guys that just got out of prison, this is sad do you have any toys for him to play with ? if not get kinky with himand he'll come out feeling like he's right at home again.
2006-12-02 02:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by puppylovetfp.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs some serious help and you should talk with someone professional because you do not deserve this treatment.
2006-12-02 02:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs counseling to deal with all of this.
2006-12-02 02:47:25 · answer #10 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋