Family - January 2007

2007-01-31 02:59:04 · 15 answers · asked by mickybear62 2

I’ve been doing everything I can think of to get my son back on the right track. He is not working and doesn't have a High School Diploma and seems content with just hanging out with his friends all day so he can come home late to avoid facing his us and our questioning. The only time he builds up enough courage to call us at work or to come home to face us face to face is when he wants something (money, or borrow the car). When we don't give him what he wants he usually has a temper tantrum which seems to work on my wife because she usually gives in to him. He use to be a good kid up to about his 10th grade year in a private high school. That year his grades dropped and he was force out and began attending a public school. He made it to his 12th grade year which he didn't complete because of a mix up with his credits from his old school. Over the last 5 years he's been in and out of GED programs. He also lost an older brother to murder and was shot himself. HELP!

2007-01-31 02:48:52 · 27 answers · asked by Help! 1

Okay, seriously, only people who have experience in this answer. My step daughter is 10 (I have been living with her since she was 4-weekends, all holidays, two days a week, and 2 weeks+ in the summer). The problem is that I still cannot stand to always have my schedule revolve around her and what she wants. No matter what my husband and I want to do,he has to schedule it around her. It annoys me in the worst way. But the thing that makes it wose is the fact that she is 9 and she acts like she is 3-and her dad treats her as if she is 3. He still does everything for her, cuts up her food, etc. He will not even make her keep her room clean, much less do any other chores. She even informed me that she would never lift a finger to do a chore. She also does not listen to anything we tell her to do. On the rare occassion when he does tell her to do something she just ignores and then he just lets her get her way. She dictates what we do, eat, watch, etc. Please tell me how you would deal..

2007-01-31 02:47:54 · 9 answers · asked by RAA 2

Odatte Joseph
Mary Galvin
ENC1102/ M-W
Compare contrast
1/31/07
Comparing two wonderful fathers
Families are possibly the most important aspect in any society .Mother or the father sometimes in their own little world forgetting if they have children who look up to them. Children watch and record every move that their parents make with them, and in front of them. But most of the time parents seem not to recognize that. However, these two poems “My Papa’s Waltz” by Theodore Roethke, and “Those Winter Sundays” by Robert Hayden can be compared and contrasted from their structure, images, and tones.
First stanza in “My papa’s Waltz” presents a clear picture of a young man’s father, that explain a drinking father who hung on life through thin and think in line (1-4) “The whiskey on your breath” the “whiskey” demonstrates a olfactory image and “but I hung on like death” the second Stanza in line (5-6) “We romped until the pans slid from the kitchen shelf” show the boy was having fun with his father.
The poem “My Papa’s waltz”, by Theodore Roethke shows a regular structure with a perfect rhyme pattern: breath, death, dizzy, easy. It has a set form that consists of four stanzas and employs strict stanza structure. “My Papa’s waltz” has tactile imagery in line (11-13) “At every Step you missed/ My right ear scraped a buckle/You beat time on my head.” That makes us a reader more sensitive and creates vivid details with sense of sight “My mother’s countenance” line 7.
In Those Winter Sundays” by Robert Hayden presents free verses, end rhyme. Enjambment in lines shows no regular pattern, no exact pattern and no visual structure of stanzas. The first stanza has five lines and the second has four. The poem does not seem to rhyme. First stanza explain hard working father who wake up early everyday and even on Sunday morning like the other days becomes a routine for him. His father gets up early and dresses up in the cold darkness, sounds painfully cold; his “cracked hand” means hard working man. In “Blazing” the fire that the father creates, “Breaking” sounds of wood and “chronic anger” that rules the house the image of that man up early in the morning. “Banked fires blaze. No one ever thanked him” (line 5) this image is very touching because his boy who sound like a teenager didn’t show appreciation.
In “Those Winter Sundays” poem, the speaker present concrete images the narrator is thinking about coldness. He does not understand the meaning of his father’s action. “My Papa’s Waltz” and “Those Winter Sundays” are two somewhat similar poems about respected fathers. They talked about hard working fathers. The father is the man that brings food to the table and spends time with them. In these two poems Roethke and Hayden take an admiring look back at the action of their fathers. Both parents were not perfect they show different form of love and clear picture of their fathers. The structures of the poems show for a better understanding, using rhyme and meter and other form of structure.

2007-01-31 02:40:04 · 2 answers · asked by Odatte J 1

without me at his side. I can only look back now and say for sure, there were reasons from childhood of when father was not there for us children, he taught us what not to do without knowing. it was not by choice that i could not be there , it was from his teachings an unseen hand kept us apart i felt it most days in my heart. he did not ask for an obituary or a funeral. i can understand all that needed to be said was said between us, I can not be there when they place him in the ground i live too far away and i would not ask for any help to get me there because i know how life is. I simply wanted to share with someone other than those i know and yes I love my father and only heaven knows.

2007-01-31 02:38:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-31 02:28:34 · 13 answers · asked by AJ Smith 1

My fault for waiting till last minute, but what else is fun for kids ages 3-9 on a wed evening in NJ? I livein ocean county but it can be out of county..

2007-01-31 02:23:22 · 2 answers · asked by njshoregrrl25 1

Hi, I am 35 years old and have a 68 year old mother that is mentally ill. I need help!!!!! I have reached a point where I just can't take her emotional abuse anymore, she is always angry and nasty. When I establish boundries and hang up when she statrs attacking me she then calls me constantly and leaves these nasty messages. They she starts with the I wish I were dead, I should just run away...blah blah. I will give you just a small snipit of her abuse towards me...I was recently at a local store doing my shopping and my cell phone was in my purse on vibrate...when I realized it was rining, i ansewered it and she had alredy been sent to voice maill...well knowing I wuld suffer her rather I immedately called her back...mind you before she even had a chance to leave a message. She didn't even say hello to me she just very nastly said what is the matter with you people, why don't you ever answer your phones. Any advice as to how to hanlde this?

2007-01-31 02:13:51 · 23 answers · asked by monique w 1

My mother in law has a phobia with bathrooms. She is deafly afraid to go into the bathroom by herself. Last weekend she was visiting my husband and I. We had to leave out for a couple of hours to do some shopping for the kids. When I got back home and walked into my kitchen, the smell was out of this world. There was doo doo plops and traces of urine in my kitchen sink!! I was mortified. She had even used my dish cloth to wipe her stankin butt!!
When I asked her what in the world was she thinking, she said that she really had to use the bathroom but couldn't hold it in any longer. Since she is afraid of the bathroom she thought that it would be ok with my husband and I if she used our kitchen sink as the toilet!! I was heated!
My husband didn't think that it was a big deal. He just said that we shouldn't leave her alone for such a long period of time. Why should it be ok for mother in law to use my kitchen sink as a toilet??

2007-01-31 02:06:35 · 15 answers · asked by mamabag06 2

ok here deal a few days ago one of his family mebers called and told me to come over bec I guess my babys father family wanted to see me so I want over and they told me that just bec r son and u are on the outs right now dont mean we dont want u to come over anytime u want we went u to come over what do u think this is about do u think that they r just being nice to me to get info for there son or do u think that they realy want to b nice to me bec im carring there grandchild in me bec I dont know bec I thought when I was dating there son that they did not like me and now they do well his mom loved me but his dad I dident think like me but now he does I dont know what would u do they did askedto bring down my baby when he or she is born what would u do ? I mean I dont mind them seeing my baby but it just wired now there being nice to me... and I guess if there telling me the truth about this part they told me that my baby father is saying that he does not have a baby on the way

2007-01-31 01:56:43 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2

My sister died a few months ago, and I am feeling very depressed. What do I do?

2007-01-31 01:54:44 · 14 answers · asked by i_miss_sherry_07 1

2007-01-31 01:49:50 · 9 answers · asked by panthrchic 4

This year I have to go for an examination that all 15 years old students will go for.This exam is very important to me.My father want me to get straight A's in this exam but he want me to take care of the house dogs too!!!Not just 1 dog,but hell 8 dogs!!!Every week I have to give them a bath.Everyday I have to feed these stupid dogs after I'm back from school(very tired).I discussed this problem with my father but he said:"Want you to do a lil bit work also lazy,no need to do work la!!"But if I really don't help to feed the dogs he will upset and scold me badly.How I want to concentrate my study with all these stupid dogs tiring me everyday and weeks!!I'm really tired here and want solution from you.....

2007-01-31 01:46:09 · 9 answers · asked by VeronicaSoh 2

How many of you parents somehow got stuck doing your child's project. Science, History, etc. I ended up doing the whole thing because my child is clueless about what to do or how. To be honest so am I.

2007-01-31 01:39:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son, husband and I live with my husbands parents and his brother in a three bedroom house. My little family has the smallest room. My father-in-law, brother-in-law and my husband all have explosive tempers and I need to get my son (7 years old) out of this house. I do not have a job but I am looking for one. I need to find a home for me and my son as soon as possible.

2007-01-31 01:36:31 · 1 answers · asked by trinakayala 1

when your brother has you on the couch after you smoked weed and he some how got your pants off and is doing something that hurts between your legs?
and why is he saying it feels good and just stay like that and it wil lbe good for you too in a little bit?

2007-01-31 01:16:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need some ideas on how to tell my parents I am moving out

2007-01-31 01:11:54 · 11 answers · asked by brunswick2006 1

I am a jew. In my dream, I saw Muhammed was lying on a bed. He was kind of ill. Around him were Abraham, Moses, Adam and Jacob (Israel). They were all talking to me. Then Muhammed called me and said, "we are going on a journey and you and ur mother should come with us". Then he also said, "You will have 9 nine daughters".

Then Jesus came at the door from outside and smiled at me and I woke up.

What do u ppl think? My dad and brother and 4 sisters are muslim and my mom and I are jew. The fact that Moses and abrahim and Jesus were with Muhammed. Does this mean, Islam is the true religion. Should I convert to Islam. Does this dream mean anything?

2007-01-31 00:42:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, I know taking on another mans child has got to be hard but my husband has been my sons dad for the last 4 and a half years (my son is now 8) am i asking too much that he loves him unconditionally like a proper father should love his son? my husband hardly does anything with him and they barely talk they definately dont show affection although sometimes he tells him he loves him and somethimes buys him stuff. this is my point it is only sometimes, everytime my son is naughty at school my husband blames me for being a bad mother, shouldnt he start taking some of the responsibility for him also when we have argued over my son in the past over punishment etc it always ends in him telling me he is a little Sh't and he hates him and i should take MY son and get out, obviously my son overhears this if I dont agree to certain punishments my husband has dealt him (as they are harsh) my husband says im on my own then and ignores my son for up to 2 weeks until i apologise, its got to the

2007-01-31 00:36:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in Cleveland, OH and I want to change my son's last name to my last name. He is 3 yrs old and he hasnt seen his father since he was about 8 months old. I heard you need a good reason to do this, and basically that is one of them and his father is in jail for being with a 13 yr old girl and getting her pregnant, so he's in prison for 13 yrs for that, and he also tried to kill me and harm my son in the process. I just want to get on with our lives and get it changed before he starts preschool. I know his father needs to know that i'm doing this, but what if he disagrees, does it matter? And how much could this thing cost?

2007-01-31 00:34:32 · 4 answers · asked by dmtv08052003 2

My beloved mother passed away recently. Because she was only person who understood me well always. I wish I could spend more time with her. Now, sometimes, I feel there is no meaning in my life.

2007-01-31 00:16:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK This is it...I have been hounded by family services since I steped into this town....I have been called on family services like you would not believe....My so called friends get mad thats what they do......Family services shows up we go threw the whole, yeh, yeh, yeh, every thing looks good, case closed......But I go threw this at least once a year...please some one tell me what I can do legally...Thanks and God Bless....

2007-01-31 00:10:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-30 23:50:45 · 22 answers · asked by gabi jordan 1

When your sister in law starts running her mouth about you and your family .. what would you say??shes always putting me and my family down becuz were not rich .. and classy although each time ive ever gone to her house its always messy stinky and seems like everything she has is either given to her or bought at a second hand store.. i dont care if it is.. that doesnt bother me.. but why does she always put us down.. ive never even been in a second hand store.. why am i the bad one.. and why does she hate me so much .. and say she cant wait for the day im out of her life.. and when me and my boyfriend do leave she gets mad at us .. and tells us were not welcome in her family anymore..

2007-01-30 23:49:55 · 7 answers · asked by danielle112307 1

he says that his family will not approve, and leaves it at that. what are the other reasons. i know he loves me is that strong enough

2007-01-30 23:07:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I get angry & annoyed so easily, that even when my mom walks thru the door i want nothing more than 2 leave my home or go 2 my room 2 escape from her nagging. She always complained about not doing good in skool, being distant from family, the way i dressed, how i thought about myself, & never wanting 2 do anything w/ her. Growing up I was always put 2nd, I would try 2 talk but then got told 2 stop for she didnt want 2 talk about it, or when my brother interupted, she would listen 2 him 1st. My brother would yell & hit me when i wouldnt do something right. It got 2 the point when I stopped trying 4 acceptance, didnt talk about my feelings, & tried 2 get out of the house as much as I could I began eating less, started smoking, smoked weed, skipped school, got addicted 2 coke @ drank whenever gotten the chance. I want nothing from this life, & when when I die I hope 2 put my family thru the pain i lived day 2 day, so they no what it feels like 2 loose a loved 1, which i lost long ago

2007-01-30 23:03:04 · 27 answers · asked by Ellen B 1

Okay then, I never yell at my father (mother? :( she's passed away long time ago...), still sometimes I disagree with him but never has it ended with yelling each other.... I wish and believe that how I treat my parent will be similar to how our children will treat me.... Do you agree with me here? If not, why? Could you give me any reason and example then?

BTW, have your children ever yelled at you? What and why did they yell at you? Do they ever regret it now and then?

2007-01-30 23:01:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is 82 single, no children, 1 sister and 2 nephews. i am under 30's and working full time. I'm the only one takes him to day trips and hopital

2007-01-30 22:16:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad makes my sis wear skirts all the tim and does'nt let her wear pants and is really piky about her shirts 2 and does'nt let her wear low tops and makes her dress really weird and its gettin on my nerves.Wat can I do 2 make him stop this garbage?

2007-01-30 22:13:21 · 6 answers · asked by this_home_dawg 1

He always moans and shouts for no reason at all ??? Help hes gone madddd!!! Can i get him comitted ???

2007-01-30 22:07:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous