ok here deal a few days ago one of his family mebers called and told me to come over bec I guess my babys father family wanted to see me so I want over and they told me that just bec r son and u are on the outs right now dont mean we dont want u to come over anytime u want we went u to come over what do u think this is about do u think that they r just being nice to me to get info for there son or do u think that they realy want to b nice to me bec im carring there grandchild in me bec I dont know bec I thought when I was dating there son that they did not like me and now they do well his mom loved me but his dad I dident think like me but now he does I dont know what would u do they did askedto bring down my baby when he or she is born what would u do ? I mean I dont mind them seeing my baby but it just wired now there being nice to me... and I guess if there telling me the truth about this part they told me that my baby father is saying that he does not have a baby on the way
2007-01-31 01:56:43 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just think its kinda odd that they want me to b all buddy buddy with me maybe they think that there son is treting me like **** that why there r being nice to me bec they dont think I desive that they told emt o come down i dont know I just wish that there son my baby daddy would soon come around like they r if this is realy want they I dont know what there deal is but maybe it is bec they know that there son is treating me like **** and they dont want that
2007-01-31 02:00:22 · update #1
i would be very careful here. suppose the parents are only setting you up? they will be able to go to court and testify to how you talked about the dad, how you are mentally (they could even make up things) in the end (after you have the baby) then they could go to court with the dad asking for custody. then they could be the ones raising their grandchild.
its very tricky, especially that you sound very young.
2007-01-31 02:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, one would think that the problem here is not what the asker actually thinks. The problem right here is that both the asker of this question and her (baby's daddy) are much too young to raise a family.
It's unfortunate that young people do not take better care of themselves and use protection every time they engage in sex.
For your situation, I recommend getting any help you can from any parent, his or yours. That's all his parents are trying to do is really help out in this unfortunate situation. They too know that thier son is too young to raise a family and of course want you two to get back together so you will (option 1) live with his folks and let them help you raise this new baby.
So by all means please be nice to these people even if you and thier son do not stay together. Some guys his age get scared when the reality of all this hits them. That's what's happened to him (your babby's daddy). He's still scared and as time goes by and that baby gets closer to being born, you will find him trying to run out and find another woman. That's what some guys do. They try to push you so far away that you wont come running back. But when the baby is born, you'll see him turn 180 degrees. He'll want to be proud of his new baby and try to accept the role of Father. Unless the guy has absolutely no heart. But I don't think you got with him in the first place unless he had a heart.
So here's what you do. Definately sit him down and talk to hiim. Tell him that you've read some books and you understand more about this pregnancy thing. Not only are "my hormones" talking about yourself, not only are my hormones going crazy, but I know that yours are too. You probably have all types of worries going on in your head, and it's ok to be scared a little about this. Heck, I was scared when I found out. But what I realized is that I can be a good mother and I can take care of myself and our new baby, alone if I need to. I just want you to be a part of our baby's life. I dated you _______(his name) and was very passionate with you for several reasons. Please don't change those feelings I have for you. You are a strong, passionate man, and you have the heart to do anything you set your mind to doing. I like the determination of your spirit. So I'm asking you to take my hand in this parenting thing and just help me through it. Weather we are together or apart, I want you to be the daddy I know you can be. No matter what, I'll always love you!"
Memorize that and let him have it. He'll more than likely get on his knees and ask for your forgiveness.
2007-01-31 10:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree this is kinda odd, maybe there son is telling them his real fealings and they are trying to get you 2 bk with eachother.
Ask them when the daddy will be in and arrive as a supprise for him, ask 4 time alone with him and have a heart to heart tlk with him, find out whats going on in his hed, ease him into relaxing and tlk calmly with him and try not to let eather of you to get stressed, its not good for you because he may be put off by this and its not good for the babby, good look babe x x x
2007-01-31 10:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by love_me_im_sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they are the kids grand parents, are they not?
BTW, make sure the baby daddy pays child support.
Use birth control and discretion in the future.
Good luck on finding a mate that wants a woman with someone elses child.
2007-01-31 10:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well to begin with you need to be very careful- family sticks together and when it comes to you or their son, obviously their son will win.
do they want the child? do you think they may want to share a 'bond' with you now and when you deliver coerce you to give them the baby or forcibly take him away from you.
do not trust them. i know you want to believe that maybe the prospect of becoming grandparents have changed them but rarely so.
my mom did, his parents and my dad didn't. i don't take my son to them (he'll be 5 mths 04.02.2007). they saw him once by mistake. if they want to form a bond with him, they have to come to me!!! on my trms.
Be very careful. I may have raised issues you have not considered but as a single- mother to be, you need to be wary of the vultures.
2007-01-31 10:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! pretty crazy sounding! My guess is that they want to be able to see their grandchild, regardless of how things turn out between and their son.
2007-01-31 10:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it wouldnt be such a bad thing especially with how your man isnt treating u right. U may need there support.
2007-01-31 22:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋