2007-01-31 02:59:04 · 15 answers · asked by mickybear62 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My heart goes out to you. After reading the other responses, it goes out to you even more. Sometimes there are just issues. Mine is my DIL is very intimidated by our families worlds being so different. (hers and ours). I like Presleygirls answer. Then, here is what I am doing. I love my kids and grandkids very much. I want them to know that when the grandchildren grow up. In case their parents don't change their minds about us, I will be prepared. I have opened a savings account in both the grandchildrens names (seperate accounts) Every holiday that I normally would buy them something, I put that money into their account. I write in the savings account book, "Happy Birthday Baby, MeMaw and Poppie love you". (The bank tellers look at it funny, but that is not my concern.) Then, go to a book store and get a journal (with blank pages that you can write in and it is hardbacked so it won't ruin as easily as a notebook and won't be thrown out as easily). Write whatever you would like to have said to your grandbabies whenever you want. My hope is that someday my grandbabies will want to know who we were and look us up. If not, when my husband and I pass away, there is NO doubt that my son and his wife will be the first ones in our house to start "going through things". Be sure and put your grandbabies names real big in black magic marker on the outside, and then put a note on the inside telling them where to find their savings account book. Also, if you have even one picture of you and your grandchild, put tape that to a page and then write what that picture meant to you.
If my son and dil find the books first and choose to throw them out with out letting the babies see them, I tried..... By the way, the only names on the savings accounts are my husbands, mine and the babies names. Gotta do what ya gotta do.
2007-01-31 05:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by BigHearted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing your grandchildren is a privilege, not a right. Just do whatever you can to make the peace, and hope for the best.
2007-01-31 03:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be which you at the instant are not their toddler or that they are afraid to get close to to the youngsters through fact of your age distinction, while a pair chop up the fathers kin are people who are suffering while it includes seeing the youngsters, dad generally in basic terms sees the youngsters each couple weeks for decrease than a pair days so grandparents seeing the youngsters isn't undemanding incredibly in the event that they don't stay close, they may be scared to get close to to them, with their daughter they don't could difficulty approximately that. talk over with them and tell them the form you sense, i don't think of is has to do inclusive of your age in spite of the undeniable fact that.
2016-10-16 08:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by kincade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we do make mistake too, Young parent always think that they are better parent then us. So let it be, why not you just be nice to them, be humble, if you done anything wrong say sorry, tell them u just need to have some time with yr grandchildren thats all.
2007-01-31 03:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you must have done something that they both agree was not acceptable to their morality or rules. My kids do not go to Grandma house either. It is not an environment that I agree with. If it is that then you have to go to them. If it is something you did, then you must make amends and work out something where you have supervised visits in their home. If you think you have done nothing wrong, that is the problem. You have done something wrong and saying it not so will only make them resent you more. I hope you can see them soon.
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2007-01-31 04:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to question why your son and daughter in law won't see you. I am sure there is a reason that you did not put as part of your question.
2007-01-31 03:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends whether you have done anything wrong. If you haven't like my parents then I feel sorry for you. If on the other hand you may have upset your son or daughter in law perhaps swallow some pride and put yourself in their shoes.
2007-01-31 03:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by KANGA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, find out why.
Second, check out your local state laws. Some states, if not all, have a Grandparent's Right law, where it states that the grandparents have rights to seeing the children too. Check it out.
2007-01-31 04:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what i have done, examine what the facts are, examine yourself, and then be at peace, God is in control of all things, this is for a reason, afterwards you will have a peace about it. Knowing life as I do; you'll most likely see the kids when you least expect it.
2007-01-31 03:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what have you done for them both to take this decision? if you have done something apologise. your grandkids ar emore important than ego. if you haven't done anything ask for an explanation.
my mom doesn't want to see my fiance but she did tell me even if i didn't want her to see my son (which i will never stop her from seeing him), my son will look for her when he gets older.
I did not speak to my mother for 10 yrs and when i found out i was pregnant i opened back the doors for my son's sake.
2007-01-31 03:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋