My dad makes my sis wear skirts all the tim and does'nt let her wear pants and is really piky about her shirts 2 and does'nt let her wear low tops and makes her dress really weird and its gettin on my nerves.Wat can I do 2 make him stop this garbage?
2007-01-30 22:13:21 · 6 answers · asked by this_home_dawg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Fact is my sis is 18 and she hates dressin that way.And my dads the same way with me bein a guy.He does'nt make me wear skirts obviosly.LOL.but trys 2 make me dress the way he wants me 2 and I dont take it but my sis trys not 2 but shes not a guy so its harder.
2007-01-30 22:28:11 · update #1
My dad is not willin 2 comprimise at all.Ive asked and asked and he always says no.Hes a complete control freak.A weak ago he found a carrie underwood cd of my sis' and was so mad at her.And the fact is my dad makes her listen 2 just weird christian music and it sucks so bad.My dad got mad cuz my sis had her own yahoo accont.He said he wanted 2 mak sure she didnt say anything bad on it and that she should give him password.Thats crazy.He also wont let her get hair get cut shoter than 2 feet.She cant wear hi heels.U wouldnt believe som of the other things he does so im not even gonna try 2 tell u.My sis say she post sam qeustion as me and if u want 2 answer hers,her nam is ain't_worth_crap.
2007-01-31 00:00:29 · update #2
I do admit that having to wear skirts or dresses all the time and no pants is a bit old fashioned but you have to weigh everything up. Is your sister upset about how she must dress? I think your father just wants to bring you guys up in a respectful manner. You must dress neatly (you may think its weird clothes but in his eyes they are beautiful clothes), have good manners, etc... Sit down and chat to your dad (the three of you) and discuss his views and what he expects from the two of you. Maybe he is prepared to compromise.
2007-01-30 22:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In other words, he wants her to dress in a decent and conservative manner. You didn't give the age of you, or your sister. But you really don't have a say in this. Your father has the right to decide how she will dress until she moves out on her own. That is part of being a parent. He doesn't want his daughter to grow up being trash. That is the way most fathers are. When you become a parent, then you will have a say in how your child dresses and behaves. By the way, he isn't your old man, he is your father, or dad. Old man is very disrespectful. With his being a Christian, I guess he has different values than you do. He wants the best for you and doesn't want to see you turn out to be trash. He would like to see you two be respectable looking and human. As far as music and the internet, well, the music is in his opinion garbage and poison to the mind. As they say, " garbage in, garbage out." And the internet, while there are a lot of good things on the internet, there is also a lot of trash. It is his house. He pays the bills and being thus has the right to set thte rules. If you don't like it then you have to move out and get your own place so that you can make your own rules. Sorry, but that is just part of life. His being a Christian gives him a different set of morals than you if you aren't a Christian.
2007-01-31 06:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by celticwarrior7758 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother was very conservative in how he raised his girls (he had 3) and made them dress. It was, quite frankly, way too controlling.
The real danger lies in the fact that the kids do not learn how to make their own choices when they do go out on their own. They do not understand the consequences of bad choices. Two out of 3 of my nieces either wound up pregnant or living with their boyfriends (but not yet pregnant) because once they were 18 they went hog wild.
My daughter has friends at school that are into all kinds of wild stuff - but are totally under their parent's thumbs when the parents are around - or so the parents think. These kids have no clue as to how to make a sound choice so just go with the flow.
You cannot raise responsible/thinking children without giving them choices and making them be responsible for those choices. He is not doing either of you any good and this is borderline abusive in many ways.
2007-01-31 09:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm glad to hear that some parents actually take an interest in what type of apparel the kids are wearing. I think all parents ought to do this.
To be honest I don't know how to describe what most kids wear these days other than to say they for the most part look ridiculous.
However, once they are 18 and buying their own clothes with their own money then they can wear what they want. Until you get out on your own making your money with your own place to live not depending on parents to buy you anything, then you need to shut up and wear what the parents tell you to wear if they are buying it and supporting you.
2007-01-31 06:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't mention that your sister is getting fed up with this "garbage", I wonder why you feel called upon to intervene?
2007-01-31 06:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're sister won't be under his thumb forever. When that day comes, accept it, she's free to dress anyway she wants.
2007-01-31 07:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋