Family - December 2006

What's the best way to tell my parents that I won't be home for Christmas because I'm spending it with my other half?

2006-12-08 14:28:19 · 12 answers · asked by lisalovesbrighton 1

I'm 28 y/o teacher and I still live at home with my mother and sisters. I am the man of the house and sometimes I feel like I have a lot of responsiblity to live here. My mother owns a four story brick in NYC. I have been helping out my mom with rent higher than her "rent-stabalized" tenant pays, bills and other things around the house. I spend a lot of time on the Internet because being teacher my work and I don't really have friends or a private room because I live in the living room. So my mother sees me doing work and surfing the web a lot leisurely. My mother has recently got a divorce and she is refinancing her mortgage at $2,000 higher than what she is paying now.My mother always complains about her ex or that she's alone and struggling. I help her pay bills and buy groceries/dinner but she finds little things to say that criticizes me and annoys me. Like me spending time on the Internet or not understanding her situation because I'm single & don't have children.

2006-12-08 14:21:38 · 13 answers · asked by krazymack 2

My friend, who is 16, has a dad who abuses him and a mom who's on drugs. I've reported the abuse to social servies several times, and he's gone with me once.

Neither of us have a history of lying, and his dad, even though he served in the army, has a record of trouble. (Got kicked out of the army, I belive.)

Tonight I went over to his house and found something shocking, the mom was there, and she said that her son had tried to commit suicide over something normal (her husband's abuse.)

She will not go to the police station to file a report. I don't know what to do, especailly not because my friend is still at the hospital with his dad. I'm not allowed to visit.
What should I do?

2006-12-08 14:17:16 · 24 answers · asked by JASNJ 2

we just found out the got fired from her job and she said that she has been lying and she is leaving next saturday to visit her father and she tells my boyfriend don't talk to her that way he is not her daddy!! she cusses both of us bad but on the phone she talks to her father it's daddy this like she does no wrong what is her problem and how should we handle it she's driving me crazy

2006-12-08 14:15:48 · 13 answers · asked by lorettaq_25 2

we were living in a town outside of baton rouge. Myself, her mother, and stepdad went the next day to funeral home 2 hours away. I stayed up there with my parents that night. I came home the next day and they had come in my house and took our mattress off bed and also 4 Lampe Berge ($2000) They said the mattress were a gift from her brother when she was diagnosed. Legally they are mine now. but my question is should I press charges because at the funeral home i asked them not to go in my house for any reason till i got back the next day? My lawyer tells me it is a big time felony. They don't like me just like i haven't ever really cared for them. I did love my wife. Just lost her and now having to go through all this crap.

2006-12-08 14:04:26 · 29 answers · asked by Scott W 1

isn't coming home for Christmas. She doesn't know that the daughter is coming as a surprise. I just hate to see her so sad. What do you think?

2006-12-08 14:03:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grandmother and grandfather who I love dearly are in their mid and upper 80's respectively. I spent a large amount of time with them as a child and grew very close and I am always calling back home to make sure they are both healthy. My grandfather needs knee-replacement surgery but decided against it. He is otherwise very healthy, always working outside and sharp mentally. He says the reason for his decision is because "at his age" he decided not to have it done. This pains me greatly as I know the inactivity will take years off of his life, years he may very well find fruitful given the lifespan history of his father and grandfather who lived to over 95. I had been suffering from moderate-severe (at times) depression for the last 10 years of my life (now 29) which is controlled with medication/therapy despite occasional hopelessness. How much of how I feel is related to my mental condition and when is it time to let go of this "protector" role I feel I am obligated to fill?

2006-12-08 13:58:09 · 4 answers · asked by Bumbo 3

Ok I moved to a great area when i was 13 it was great i had lots of friends and a great life a nice house and a new school. My brother had a nice school with lots of friends too. My parents had very well paying jobs and they seemed to be happy too. Then 7 months later my parents wanted to move again to florida. At first I thought they had lost it but they were serious so we moved to florida and my mom had to quit her job and now my dad chain smokes because were in debt because we sold our house so quickly. We don't have alot of money anymore and I don't have many friends anymore nither does my brother everyone is unhappy and my school and my brothers school are pretty bad. I hate it here and right now I hate my parents for moving here i had everything i wanted were i used to live and i was about to start high school with a bunch of friends now i have like 2 and is's been 7 months I wish we never moved here because now my whole family is unhappy. Should I forgive my parents???

2006-12-08 13:33:28 · 25 answers · asked by Sarah S 1

Maybe it's just me, or maybe I have trouble saying no when I am "volunteered" for things. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes, to the point I want to run and just cry. Everyone tells me that it will make me a stronger person... To simply state reasons I feel so overhelmed, I am a full time mom of two boys (7 and 5), a full time wife, I work full time, I am in college full time, I am a cub scout leader, and active in a couple committees at work. With it being the holidays, it just weighs on me. The 17th of Dec. will be one year since I lost my step-dad, whom I considered to be a daddy to me since I was 5. His daughter shut me out right before he passed because she hates my mother. He and my mom divorced when I was 14, but he still remained a daddy to me and later a grandfather to my children. Is it just a normal thing that the holidays bring people down? I am just so exhausted, I could really use some tips on how to cope with all this.. Any suggestion is greatly appreciated. Thank you

2006-12-08 13:31:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiance and i have been working on budgeting our money better. This will be our childs first xmas and we both have teenage siblings and other kids that we are planning to buy gifts for. My fiance (who makes more money) wants to get them games consoles and expensive items that most people would more than likely buy for their own kids In the past (before moving in together) i have brought my family expensive gifts or whatever they ask for but this year i said i would limit my shopping since our little one is growing so fast it seems like we are shopping every month My fiance is a very generous person who likes to do nice things for others without recognizing his limits and i dont always want to disagree with his spending for my soon to be in laws but in my opinion he always wants to over do it. so what is a reasonable amount to spend on each child for holiday

2006-12-08 13:24:52 · 10 answers · asked by lamli 2

My mom is anoying me so much with cleaning my room. Why does it matter so much if my room is clean?

2006-12-08 13:24:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a 24 year old woman who had lots of anger towards her father my father delivered me brought me into this world. When I was about 16 I notice my dad was acting funny then I found out that he had lost his job that he had for like ever and I found out that he was using cocaine and then he started not comming home my mother and father where married since they where 18 years old so like 39 years ago they hooked up they have 5 children and I am the 4th child. My father and I where very close to each other but hen I found out that he was doing cocaine and that put a wedge between us I ran away because he became a person that i couldn't face when I came back I was pregnant and that wasn't really hard on us but then he started to act even weirder and then he started to ask for money I would borrow him money and then he needed more money and then we had a storage unit that had all of my daughters baby stuff in and all of our baby stuff from are entire family and he was suppose to pay on it

2006-12-08 13:21:08 · 12 answers · asked by Amanda B 2

2006-12-08 13:14:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

where she is what she's doing who she's w/ and who's at home w/ her and i don't think my mom likes it either but she won't stand up for herself she feeds his need to control which she pretty much has done all her life well when she was living w/ him i understand cuz he cud get violently angry (he has a huge scary *** temper even ppl older than him get **** scared and no kids like little him) and he also does this w/ me and i wanna be free of him 4ever i feel like cryin sumtimes and feel suffocated and trapt a lot cuz of it he hardly would let me do anything (i don't know even if my mom will let me have normal amount of freedom lyk normal parents cuz she might get afraid of him) if u have a control freak parent then u know how i feel and soon my cuz is cumin so i'm gonna be hanging out w/ her but he might stop tht (specially sine she's the only 1 who sees him 4 wut he relly is so how do i break free and break contact w/o getting **** 4rom fam i'm not aggresive hes ruined me persoanl

2006-12-08 13:10:51 · 1 answers · asked by mamama 2

I go to my friends durring the weekdays only when my mom says i can to work on homework then when i get home my dad yells at me and grounds me for to weeks just because i forgot to tell my mom what time i would be home.

2006-12-08 13:09:25 · 30 answers · asked by samirae217 1

In my house, we have lost ours, but I have the most of anyone!!!

2006-12-08 13:01:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are already spending so much money on my daughter, so I don't want them to spend much on me. But they keep asking what I want, and the only things I can think of are for my daughter. What should a 19 y/o pregnant mom-2b ask for?

2006-12-08 12:55:47 · 9 answers · asked by March Mommie 07 3

I want me and my new family to go back to my home, but we live where she was raised right now and she wants to stay, we love each other very much ...all her family is here all of mine are 3000 miles away, what route should i take?

2006-12-08 12:52:00 · 5 answers · asked by rattlingyouallover 1

whenever i don't do something right my uncle( who lives in the same house as me) will tease me. I know he has problems.
one time when i lost my math hmwk, my uncle said: TAMARA, STOP BEING A CRYBABY!" and when i forgot to feed my dog , he said: " Nooo Max(that's my dog), I am not neglecting you, am I?"
That day i got the courage to tell him off. I said: " Uncle Pat, I know you're teasing me, but it's not working!" He just was like:" I didn't do nothing, and speed-walked to his room!
I don't know what to do?! I've told my parents and they know, but i can't reall know if they've done anything! What do i do?

2006-12-08 12:50:47 · 3 answers · asked by tammie m 1

the family is very happy that i moved back...yet the i am very unhappy here...how do i go about telling them that i want to move back, to where i lived eight wonderful years. I know that they are going to be very pissed...but i am so depressed here...i am beginning to wonder why i did it in the 1st place...(my sister had a baby and i wanted to be a good aunt...not just some lady in pictures...) ya know?

2006-12-08 12:44:38 · 3 answers · asked by aml 1

OK, some friends have invited me but we are not that close and besides it is not the same. This is a time of the year that I could delete of my life if I could. I feel like sleeping and only waking up when everything is gone......

2006-12-08 12:31:17 · 14 answers · asked by Butterfly 1

2006-12-08 12:25:05 · 8 answers · asked by 123_000 1

I ordered pizza while my parents were out...I wasnt supposed to/allowed to. Where should i hide it w/o getting into too much shitt?

2006-12-08 12:22:53 · 5 answers · asked by Karen Smith 3

her caregiver and they are in desperate need of a larger place. is there any place they can contact for help.

2006-12-08 12:21:44 · 3 answers · asked by Ellen J 2

Should i ever tell my family that I am bi my mom knows but everyone else doesn't...I am female

2006-12-08 12:00:09 · 8 answers · asked by Bri 2

If you're taking the kids/nephews/nieces/etc. to the beach, what do you do to get sand out of their trunks and booty's after?

I've seen moms actually take their kid by the shower pull from behind their trunks and just clean right their with their hands.

How do others handle this?

2006-12-08 11:54:54 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you tell your family and have them go through a lot of pain,or would you chose not to tell them ?

2006-12-08 11:49:53 · 18 answers · asked by ladybug 4

2006-12-08 11:48:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother in law is always rude to me. Never liked me from before we met, I am older than her son. She constantly is crappy but in a fake nice way. Last year at XMAS she gave me a wooden frame maybe $4 spent. My sis inlaw who also married into the family got a clothing store gift card. She has talked bad about my sis inlaw when she is not around, yet they are all buddy-buddy. We were both pregnant at the same time and my MIL threw her a babyshower. She visits her other grandchild who lives 20 minutes from my house, but not my son. I've sent her an email before telling her that she constantly hurts my feelings, and that she is pushing her son away. When ever we confront her she cries and runs and tells the WHOLE family. The other day was my hubbies b-day and she spent the day with her other son and my sis inlaw. She only lives an hour away.
I was supposed to be hosting Christmas at my house, but emailed her and told her we should cancel it, we haven't heard from her since.

2006-12-08 11:46:03 · 7 answers · asked by TEXAS MOM 1

mine is scorpio

2006-12-08 11:40:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous