how not to feel lonely and sad on Christmas when you don't have a family to share it with you?

Question

OK, some friends have invited me but we are not that close and besides it is not the same. This is a time of the year that I could delete of my life if I could. I feel like sleeping and only waking up when everything is gone......

Answer 1

You could do that, or go have some fun. Take a vacation, a cruise if you can afford it, give yourself a nice present!

If you can't, try volunteering somewhere during the Christmas season. You can find a way to really give, and you'll get back tri-fold what you put in.

Answer 2

I am sorry you are feeling lonely and isolated. This is a beautiful time of the year but not everyone enjoys it for the reasons you stated. Everyone wants to feel loved and part of a family. Just keep in mind nobody has the perfect life. Behind every glimmering light hung on every tree, there is a story. Most of the stories aren't happy ones. Life is hard all around. We have to take the little sparks that come our way and make them into a full outright flame. Try not focusing on what you don't have, but what you do have. It could be so much worse dear. It would help if you would volunteer your time to a mission or needy family or shelter. You are needed and have a lot to offer. Please know that this time will pass before you know it. Keep a smile on your face and think about the good things.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. last year was my first year 1200 miles away from all my family on Thanksgiving. I felt the same way you do, however to ease the pain what I did was volunteer at shelters and food drives for the needy. WoW!! it was really a wonderful experience and I had a good time doing it. It was nice to place others who were in need before myself and give back. I still say that last Thanksgiving was the best thanksgiving I have ever had. I went from one shelter to another and one food drive to another helping out. It's the same for Christmas. There are so many shelters that will need volunteers, especially for the children. You could help them decorate and set up christmas trees and on christmas help the kids open presents and serve them food. It would be an experience you would never forget!!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I am sorry to hear that you are lonely and sad. I understand that friends are not the same as family, however, it would be nice to share it with people who obviously care about you enough to invite you to spend christmas with them. Going to sleep might take the pain away temporarily or you can accept the friends invitation and have a good Christmas - your choice! Take care and Merry Christmas.

P.S. Where is your family?

Answer 6

Go and volunteer at a homeless shelter or hostel, old age home, or home for disabled, children, orphans, battered women etc. Help serve up chrissie lunch and dinner for those who truly have nothing. It will be a fantastic opportunity to help give some disadvantaged people a happy christmas!! Different organisations would love an extra set of helping hands. Its sad you feel the way you do about your mates, maybe it will give you a chance to discover the real meaning of christmas, love kindness charity and thankfullness for what we are blessed with in our lives.

Answer 7

Its seems like commercials , movies, and the media are telling us what christmas should be. Shop , shop, spend ,spend..
Christmas is about being with friends, try to go you might have a nice time. Maybe you could go to church on xmas eve, or call a homeless shelter and see if you could volunteer. There are many children who will spend xmas in hospitals, or shelters . Really xmas is for the kids. If you are healthy you should be happy for that and not feel sorry for yourself . If you choose to stay home that night, fine, tommorow will come. Good luck with your choice and merry xmas.

Answer 8

I always invite friends at Christmas. Sometimes thats more fun than family! Go have fun and makethe best of it.

Feeling sorry for yourself isn't helping. Use this time of year to help out at a charity or donate to needy kids. You may not have family to share it with but you can make it special anyway.

Answer 9

go to your friends you could start a new tredition of spending the holiday with them and they want you to be there it sounds like and they probly want to more or less make you a part of there family. if you want e mail me and my girl we will spend x-mas with you over the computer know one should be alone on x-mas and it will get easier every year that goes buy just try to have a happy x-mas thats what matters make your friends your family and that you will have a big x-mas and the most fun ever trust me my mom was not in to x-mas because of my grandma passing and know she is having more fun then ever because of the fact that she has friends and family to help her through it and me and my girl and my family will all help you through your x-mas till you feel better about x-mas

Answer 10

I am so sorry you don't have any family to be with. I think you should go with your friends. If they are not that close, it doesn't matter. You shouldn't spend Christmas alone. Make it your New Year's resolution to make new friends, so you won't have this problem next year.