My mother in law is always rude to me. Never liked me from before we met, I am older than her son. She constantly is crappy but in a fake nice way. Last year at XMAS she gave me a wooden frame maybe $4 spent. My sis inlaw who also married into the family got a clothing store gift card. She has talked bad about my sis inlaw when she is not around, yet they are all buddy-buddy. We were both pregnant at the same time and my MIL threw her a babyshower. She visits her other grandchild who lives 20 minutes from my house, but not my son. I've sent her an email before telling her that she constantly hurts my feelings, and that she is pushing her son away. When ever we confront her she cries and runs and tells the WHOLE family. The other day was my hubbies b-day and she spent the day with her other son and my sis inlaw. She only lives an hour away.
I was supposed to be hosting Christmas at my house, but emailed her and told her we should cancel it, we haven't heard from her since.
2006-12-08 11:46:03 · 7 answers · asked by TEXAS MOM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You didn't say how her attitude towards you is effecting your relationship with hubby.Don't let her or any family member cause problems between you and your husband.
Some mother-n-laws look at their daughter-n-laws as rivals for their sons affection. You are a threat to her.She was the only woman in her sons life for years and then you come along.
Jealousy is a very destructive emotion and she has shown that in how she treats your family.Stop trying to please this woman.From what you said,she will never change..
2006-12-08 12:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discover out what they opt for to do. sixty 4 isn't elderly. They somewhat have some pursuits and pursuits. in case you could not get any good files, then a espresso table e book, a very good Christmas ornament, a kinfolk image in a very good body, you've not suggested how previous you're. a modern from a 12 365 days previous is going to be diverse from a modern from a 25 365 days previous. (even with the actual shown truth that when you're 25 I doubt you should call them "elderly" LOL )
2016-11-30 08:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MILs are always dificult. All you can do is stay out of it. Let everyone know that you guys don't feel comfortable hosting Christmas. Then have your husband talk to her privately about how you guys feel. When the daughter-in-law gets involved, its never pretty. I've had issues with my MIL before. That's why I let my husband deal with her on his own. He will tell me what happened and we discuss how to deal with it. He then goes back to his mom, and tells her. I'm not around, so she doesn't feel like I'm attacking her. Try that. Hopefully it works!
2006-12-08 12:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by haw1180 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not host Christmas at my house for the inlaws. Whatever you do, will not be good enough for her . Shame on her for treating you, your child and your husband that way. Just stay away from her - she obviously does not want a relationship wtih your family, at this time. Do not gossip about her, just don't mention her at all. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-08 11:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like mil has to grow up. acting selfish in her ways. don't let her spoil your holidays -seems like that is what she wants to do - along with your life. don't worry what she is doing with other members of the family, to the point where she is destroying you. take her for what she is, manipulative. i say bravo, i would not want to spend Christmas with her, the best thing you did was to cancel. until SHE can grow up and accept her family, don't worry about her - you are better off without her in your life....and have a Very Merry Christmas with the Family you created.
2006-12-08 12:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over it. You spend way too much energy on your mother in law and what she's doing. Live your life. What do you care what she bought your sister in law? If she affects your life that much stay away from her. Stop emailing her. Concentrate on your husband and your baby.
2006-12-08 11:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's poison...leave her be, you're not going to change her. It's her loss.
2006-12-08 11:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋