Ok I moved to a great area when i was 13 it was great i had lots of friends and a great life a nice house and a new school. My brother had a nice school with lots of friends too. My parents had very well paying jobs and they seemed to be happy too. Then 7 months later my parents wanted to move again to florida. At first I thought they had lost it but they were serious so we moved to florida and my mom had to quit her job and now my dad chain smokes because were in debt because we sold our house so quickly. We don't have alot of money anymore and I don't have many friends anymore nither does my brother everyone is unhappy and my school and my brothers school are pretty bad. I hate it here and right now I hate my parents for moving here i had everything i wanted were i used to live and i was about to start high school with a bunch of friends now i have like 2 and is's been 7 months I wish we never moved here because now my whole family is unhappy. Should I forgive my parents???
2006-12-08 13:33:28 · 25 answers · asked by Sarah S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I moved my daughter just before high school, and she forgave me. Of course, it was several years before she did. I wish you luck. I know it is hard to make new friends, especially knowing that you could up and move anytime your parents want a new start. Make a journal, and read it in 20 years, and make sure you give your kids emotional security.
2006-12-08 14:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by J89434 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It tough for a kid when the parents move them around so much. I am sure your parents had their reasons for moving again so quickly. You should speak to your parents about how bad you feel. Maybe they can help you find new activities to help you make friends. Even joining a a church can put you in contact with other kids your age. How about getting a part time job?
You should forgive your parents. Parents are not perfect and they are just people and they make mistakes. I think that as you grow up you will see that they had the family's best interest in mind when they moved to Florida. No matter how you feel about it now.
Shelle
2006-12-08 13:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by shelle007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. Life is too short to hold any kind of anger or bitterness. Cherish your family relationships while you have them....they will be gone soon enough.
Additionally, you have moved. You live in a new place now. Let go of the past and jump in here. You cannot control all the circumstances at your age but you are 100% responsible for how you respond to them and what you make of them. You can mope and be depressed and fees sorry for yourself. Or you can jump into the life you have and make the best of it.
What is one thing you could do this week to help make living in FL better or your adjustment better? What are the steps you need to do to make that happen? Okay, go for it.
Unhappiness is not something you have because of what someone else did to you. You have it because you have chosen it. Plenty of people with much worse circumstances than you or I have are very happy. Don't base your outlook and moods on the 'happenings' around you. That leaves you at the mercy of others. Choose joy. Choose to enjoy. Choose to forgive. Choose to live well. Choose to do things to make others life a little better today.
All the best to you...
2006-12-08 13:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by D K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only hurting yourself at this point if you don't forgive your parents. We all make bad decisions from time to time. Let the resentment toward them go and put on a happy face even if you have to fake it. I am sorry that this has happened to you and I will say a prayer for you and your parents as I send this out. You sound like a nice person and LOVE is the answer no matter the question. Good luck to you , your going to be just fine. I feel you have what it takes or you would not have asked this question. The answer is ABSOLUTELY .
2006-12-08 14:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when your parents made the decision to move they thought it would be for the best. They were not expecting what has happened and are probably having a very hard time. I know that your life sucks but being mad at them is not solving anything. What they need is your support. One thing I have learned through my life experience is that in life family is the most important and should stick together. I think you should forgive your parents and be happy that you have your parents in your life. Maybe even try talking to them and understand why they did what they did.
2006-12-08 14:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by saliberry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen young lady, you should be thankful that you have 2 parents who still take care of you, and provide you with food, a roof over your head, clothing, and a safe environment. Your parents dont OWE you anything but that.
I'm a Teacher, and I work with kids everyday who dont have food to eat at night, and kids who live with Foster Parents because their real parents are on drugs or in jail. They would kill to have a mother and father at home, and food to eat every night. And I'll bet that this weekend your parents will be out somewhere shopping for X-Mas presents for you..So what you miss your friends and old town--that's life! Dont you know that some 10 year old kid in Africa is upset because their mom & dad are dead from AIDS? Thats not fair either. Be thankful for what you have!..And if you're upset that you dont have any money--go out here and get a JOB--I worked when I was 14 and been working since.
Should you forgive your parents? You should just Be Thankful that we have a Merciful God who will forgive a spoiled, selfish child who isnt thankful for her many blessings!
2006-12-08 13:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Victory 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately when you are under the guardian ship of your parents, you suffer the consequences of their bad decisions. I would try to talk to your parents and tell them how unhappy your are and how much you miss your friends and your old school. You should try to forgive them because it is hard carrying around anger and resentment. You will get through it and try to focus on your priorities of school and making good grades so you will have good options when it is time for you to move on. It will be here before you know it.
2006-12-08 13:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your parents took your feelings into account prior to selling your old house and moving. It sounds as if your parents are just as miserable as you are if they are in debt and your dad chain smokes now.
It sounds like you and your family need to ban together right now. Of course you should forgive them because they really didn't do anything wrong. Unfortunately it was just a bad situation they were not able to forsee.
Good luck and you're in my prayers.
2006-12-08 13:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by dino00digger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably just thought that, it was best. Maybe at that time they didnt like how their lives were going and just wanted to get away from it and they didnt want to show what they felt. I say forgive them because you only get one set of parents. You never know how things will work out in the end. They may just get better at they go along. You never know what will happen.
2006-12-08 13:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Nic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you do not forgive others.you are only keeping the pain inside and you are not harming the other person at all on the contrary when you openly treat someone that has hurt you with love you are saving two people from guilt and emotional distress you and the person that hurt you.it may change that person and they will in turn help others because of your unselfish love.love transfers and transforms for the good. hate and unforgiveness gnaws at you like a cancer until you let it go you cant be free
2006-12-08 13:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by lovj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋