we just found out the got fired from her job and she said that she has been lying and she is leaving next saturday to visit her father and she tells my boyfriend don't talk to her that way he is not her daddy!! she cusses both of us bad but on the phone she talks to her father it's daddy this like she does no wrong what is her problem and how should we handle it she's driving me crazy
2006-12-08 14:15:48 · 13 answers · asked by lorettaq_25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
knock her *** out
2006-12-08 14:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by babythugga281 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My daughter did The same thing when she was 17. She had a huge attitude, and thought she was in control of our home. All you can do it tell her if she is that unhappy, it is time for her to find somewhere else to live. Let her go to her daddy's house for a while. When you take the control out of her hands, the behaviors will lessen. Beware, when she turns 18, it gets much worse. On my daughters 18th birthday she came home to everything she owned in boxes. (earlier that day she had taken a swing at her father.) She is now living on her own and realizes that we set limits for a reason. She calls me or stops over almost everyday now. She knows that she can come back and live here if she needs to, but also knows that the house rules are still here, and we will not take any of her abuse.
2006-12-08 22:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Teacher in the Public School System, and forgive me if this upsets you by saying this---but chances are that your daughter has been behaving in this manner for many years now, and now its all exploding now since she is 17 and almost an adult...Maybe I'm wrong, but I'll bet that people have warned you in the past that your daughter was lying, rude, disrespectful, and disobediant. Behavior like that doesnt happen overnight. Maybe it was a Teacher, grandparent, uncle, or aunt who tried to tell you of this. But, often, parents are so un-willing to listen to the advise of others when it comes to rasing their kids these days. This is a common theme.
All I can say is that if you had corrected this behavior when she was 7, 10, and even 12 years old-- you wouldn't be having these problems. But since you didnt correct her in the past years--you'll have to deal with this monster that you probably helped create.
Good Luck
2006-12-08 22:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Victory 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come up with some ideas that will help her boost her self esteem and confidence, and read the article I listed below.
" The most common reason that people lie is to avoid confrontation. Getting in trouble is never fun but lying to avoid it is always a "band-aid" solution. When the truth comes out the confrontation is guaranteed to be even more unpleasant than it would have been without the lie. A lie compounds the problem, it doesn't solve it. "
2006-12-08 22:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the boy friend is still an authority figure in her life and she needs to respect that.
Good job to your boyfriend. A man has got to be there for her woman if they are married or boyfriend and girlfriend.
I will defend my gal against pain, torment, anguish, verbal abuse, kids in general. They lie, then you take something that is important to them. Lie more, take more. Don't like the rules then move out and pay for yourself.
kids now days lack respect.
I wish you luck, and tell your boyfriend to stand his ground, he is doing great. If he did not care or love her, then he would not do a thing, and this is not the case.
tough love is the best when needed.
2006-12-08 22:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I'm at least partially on her side (even though I dispprove of her lying, if that's the case).
Her remarks toward your "boyfriend" are great, and I say great for her.
It sounds to me like she respects her dad, and it also sound to me like you're quick to blame her, without looking at your own faults. I think the lady is right below who questions if you're jealous of her relationship with her dad, and would rather that she be against him. You don't sound like a right person to me.
Who is this "boyfriend"? I answered a lady the other day who had a similar situation, except her child was a son. I told her that I hope that her son is able to bust that boyfriend right in the mouth when he's old enough.
Your daughter sounds rather okay to me, for the most part.
2006-12-08 22:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Talk to her "daddy" and your boyfriend. Have the teenager present, and call her on the carpet with proof of all of her lies.
2006-12-08 22:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by JASNJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snatch her room clean. You owe her 3 hots and a cot. Her attitude sucks, this is your home, and you need to get back to basics so she understands who props up her entire life. She will only treat you the way you allow her to treat you. Put everything in the attic and if she doesn't get her act together in 2 weeks, take it to the good will.
2006-12-08 22:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
take errything out her room even take the door off of the hinge dnt let her so anywhere but to school and back home then make her *** go to bed after she her homework..lol until she gets her act togethr..if all else fails beat dat *** (dnt go crazy) but u need to whip out dat belt and beat dat ***
2006-12-08 22:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by bdbdub 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you jealus of her father? dont try to make her have a bad relationship with him aswell.
2006-12-08 22:19:06 · answer #10 · answered by ienjoydrawingflowers 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would advise you to seek expert advice on this one. Good luck.
2006-12-08 22:23:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋