Family & Relationships - 26 December 2007

ok, those of you who have been reading my questions know the situation with my husband's ex. the lying, drugs, threatening to kidnap the kids ect... Now something has happened and we have the chance to get the kids. She was in a very bad car accident this week. Every one waited 3 days to tell us even though we had the kids. she broke her neck, hip, nose, shattered her leg and cut her liver a bladder. She is not in good shape. My husband and i are not cold hearted, but we are trying to think about what is best for the kids. She will not be able to use her legs for at least 6 months and is looking at a years worth of recovery. Her parents are going to move them in their home (where the kids have been staying on her weeks anyways) and said that they still want to keep the kids, but she is going to need constant care, and her parents are in their 60's how are they going to take care of her and two 5yr olds. I don't think they can. Everyone told my husband to go for temporary custody, and

2007-12-26 14:46:01 · 7 answers · asked by Dave 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband has an unusual sexual fantasy. He likes to image that I am, what he calls, a giantess. Think the 50 foot woman, only much bigger. Like 50 miles or 500 miles tall.

He likes to imagine that I'm dressed in nice clothes, but with high heeled sandals, and polished toes. I've don't wear heels very often, and haven't paited my toes since I was a kid.

He likes to imagine scenarios where I'm attacking the military or destorying cities. He also like to imagine that I'm teasing/taunting to step on him.

The fantasy is harmless, but I'm not that mean or dominating, so I'm really having a hard time coming up with what I should say, to act this fantasy out, and it makes me reluctant to do so.

If this were a simpler fantasy of say being a slut or some dominatrix, I think it would be easier. But a woman 50 miles tall, dressed up and in heels? It's a bit specific, and I'm just at a loss, on what to say.

2007-12-26 14:45:35 · 11 answers · asked by KarlaKayC 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ive been going out with my gf about 4 months, we're both 16. She told me to get her nothing for Christmas, and she was extremely serious about it. So I decided to write her a poem. Please let me know what you think about it. Thanks

My Gift to You

I checked the calendar, and what I saw,
was that Christmas was coming, it wasn’t far.
How excited I suddenly became, it seemed,
my first Christmas with you, what a dream.
I couldn’t help but let out a huge grin,
as good feelings filled me up from within.
Knowing what was coming in a short while,
forced me to let out the biggest of smiles.

So I asked you what you wanted this year,
and you told me nothing, you made that clear.
I pleaded with you, and we had a small chat,
you said I don’t want a gift, leave it at that.
Although confused I said that was okay,
I will respect what you say any day.
And with that from me you said I thank you,
I said it’s fine, but now what am I to do?

2007-12-26 14:44:56 · 37 answers · asked by LOL 1 in Singles & Dating

would a guy with a girlfriend (and many possibilities of sex partners) rape a drunk girl?

2007-12-26 14:44:55 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-26 14:44:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok, so my fiance and i have been together officially for a little less than a year. lately, he has been asking questions about my past, which i answer honestly. tonight we talk about an ex of mine. we officially stopped seeing each other 4years ago. i dont even live on the same coast as him nor do we have any contact with one another. my fiance is jealous because i told him that i have nothing bad to say about my ex. (which i dont, he was good to me, but we just werent for each other). my fiance feels like i love my ex more than him. what should i do?? please help. im ready to move back to my old city and call it quits.

2007-12-26 14:43:21 · 7 answers · asked by A. N. M 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My daughter got sick and i saw her in the hospital. Me and my wife are separated and ive been asking for a divorce. sHE LEFT BECAUSE of arguments, and there was a guy in her life that was a friend but she liked him. She 23, im 23, she in the hospital talking to him on the phone.And gigling and laughing she tells him that she has to see him friday night to tell him something in person, then she says "It nothing bad", then she says no, i cant tell you now".then she continues to tell him about my daughter illness, as if he were a regular friend. Then she calls her friend, who is also his friend to tell her that she meeting with him, but hes not sure cause he might be busy. we just talked about trivial stuff; till my daughter, 19months was discharged. in the past,She has told me if he asked her out she would be his girl. Unfortunately, i still love her, but she seem not to care.I hid my anger, but I felt extreamly disrespected by her talking to him right in my face. Should i be mad?

2007-12-26 14:40:04 · 25 answers · asked by ace82 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Even when he's wrong, he acts like he's right. He can say whatever he wants about me and my personality flaws, but when I do the same, he won't listen.

Not too long ago, my parents wanted to go to Walmart and they had to leave quickly because the photocenter was going to close soon. I was planning to come, but I wasn't ready, and usually it takes me forever to get ready (I'm a chick, lol) and I knew how impatient they were about wanting to wait for me, I told them to go ahead anyway because I knew they didn't want to wait for me. I was actually, looking back on it, being considerate that I wasn't letting them hold up on waiting for me otherwise the photocenter would have closed.

So when I told them I shouldn't go, my dad said "Oh, she probably just wants to stick on the computer all day" (in an insulting tone) and I explained to him and told him that he was wrong and I told him the real reason of why I couldn't go (it would take to long for me to get ready)

2007-12-26 14:39:08 · 9 answers · asked by not basic 5 in Family

I just talked to an old friend. Her husband lost his job and they are off of unemployment. They have 4 children. I'd like to do something. Have you ever had a friend in this situation? If so, what have you done for them. Or, have you been in this situation and what has a friend done for you? I don't have a lot of extra $$$ myself, so I'd love some ideas. Thanks!

2007-12-26 14:33:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

For almost 2 years now me and my boyfriend have been talking about getting married. We are planning to get married in 4 years or less, but my boyfriend has not popped the question yet. Everyone can see that we are ment for eachother, ive loved him since I was 14 im now 19 (He is 23).

I don't want to rush him, but we are making plans, trying to figure out where we are going to live where (Because we are 3 hours away) We have our kids names, we love eachother so much its so special..

How do I make him pop that question, Hints, tips?

I know he want to be with me, his friends tell me, I want to finally after 6 years, become "his" have that name.

I know he want to, but how do I get him to do it.

2007-12-26 14:33:42 · 11 answers · asked by x0hEEE 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I've read many questions about women in a relationship with a 'mommas boy' so I'm after what your definition of a mommas boy is. There's no right or wrong answer, but I will chose a best one! Ty :)

2007-12-26 14:30:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

And really mean that they are sorry? Do men usually accept these apologies or just ignore women?

2007-12-26 14:28:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

everyone at school thinks im soo ugly and soo fat and so weird... it makes me so sad and i feel so bad about myself that like i need to become aneroxic but i only weigh 150..and im 15 but how can i change that?how do i make ppl stop sayin those things to me and picking on me. i feel like nobody will ever like me for who i am. sometimes i feel like crying about what they are saying.. i dont know what to do.please help!

2007-12-26 14:28:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

im 14 years old and i am in love with these people
hugh laurie
johnny depp
orlando bloom
gary oldman

p.s i have "loved" them for about 3 years

2007-12-26 14:27:34 · 7 answers · asked by chrispets357 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

my son is only 6 months old, my husband's mother is very short and she's black, my husband is black and i'm white, and my son is afraid of her, i don't know if that's because she's short or what's going on? my son is not afraid of his dad or dads brother, or any other people, but my mother in law... every time she picks him up he starts crying and hollering what can i do? please help !!!
p.s. please don't suggest to just wait it out... it's not working...

2007-12-26 14:27:11 · 9 answers · asked by Lena R 2 in Family

is that ok for my age of 15?

2007-12-26 14:26:27 · 18 answers · asked by *amanda* 2 in Singles & Dating

Her name isn't on the lease and she is known to be violent and abusive. No writ of divorce has been filed yet either.

2007-12-26 14:26:17 · 8 answers · asked by jbriss2113 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm just wondering if anyone else out there with a non-diamond ring has gotten bashed by family members (or friends)? Or maybe my relatives are just nasty. The most rude comment was "couldn't he afford a diamond?". Others have been "are you sure you really didn't want a diamond".
I have a BEAUTIFUL aquamarine center stone. It is gorgeous! It is just what I wanted. I love it! And I remind my fiance all the time how much I love it and how thrilled I am with it (I'm also a little afraid he might hear some of these comments and second-guess his choice).
Just wondering if anyone else has had this experience.

2007-12-26 14:25:53 · 24 answers · asked by nova_queen_28 7 in Weddings

HI i can some one please tell me who hanaclinchsehowfahewa married to?????
Thank you

2007-12-26 14:25:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anthony 1 in Marriage & Divorce

You can tell in 5 seconds which married couples are no longer "in love". Actually I have only met 2 married couples that weren't lying and are truly in love the rest might care about each other but they are no longer in love. Counseling does not work!!! Marraige destroys even soul mates!!!

2007-12-26 14:23:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

me and my friends have children by brothers one day my friend kids father which is my son uncle came over and tried to touch my daughter while i was at work when i came home i called the police my daughter was 9 well i had a fight with his sister about it so i dropped the charges because i did not want anymore drama . well about a couple of years later my friend said they found out that he was raping his niece and the family shh shh about it they just dont talk about it because they dont want him to go to jail well i moved out of town and recently he moved next to me at my neighbor house and i told her some of what i know about my daughter well she told him and he just called me and said keep my name out of yo mouth am i wrong if i tell her what i heard about the neice and would i be wrong if i warned everybody of this man

2007-12-26 14:23:00 · 7 answers · asked by lovesshawnmichelle 3 in Family

girls play hard to get?

2007-12-26 14:21:29 · 24 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-26 14:20:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

yah..i am in that situation right now...im staying w/ my live in partner bcoz of my son eventhough i dnt love him eversince. we make quarel almost everyday to the extent that he beat me infront of my son, but still i stay w/ him coz i want my son to grow up having a complete family..we separate many times.he promised me not to do it again & start a new life..i still gave him a chance to change but i feel guilty coz i have an affair w/ the guy whom i love most..here comes my love of my life, sometimes we see each other & spent the whole night 2gether & i dunno if this wrong or what..the guy knows everything about my situation but he doesnt have anything to do coz he's jobless right now..do you think guys am i going to continue what am i doin right now?...i love this guy & i dont want to lose him but i cant leave my family bcoz of my son...what should i do now?...please help me guys...

2007-12-26 14:17:47 · 6 answers · asked by sykesmishe 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my mom is a very laid back, cool person w/ a great sense of humor, my dad, on the other hand is very rude and no sense of humor, he talks to my mom like a little kid and yells at her and she sits there and does nothing, im sick of this!!! i told my cuzzin(who is like my moms best friend) and she said that my mom wants to divorce him but she then she doesn't because shes staying w/ him for me...what should i do?! i cant take this anymore!!! and will i get to stay w/ my mom if they do end up getting a divorce???

2007-12-26 14:17:35 · 26 answers · asked by an0nym0us 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-26 14:15:22 · 36 answers · asked by ♥La Dulce Chica♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-26 14:14:51 · 1 answers · asked by Brandon 3 in Singles & Dating

I need some kind of clear definition of where I stand with my friends with benefits, but I can't bring my self to ask him directly, so I've come here for some opinions. We've been friends for over a year, and I consider him one of my best friends. After about 6 months, we started sleeping with each other. We've never discussed what it is we are, but now its been almost a year since we've actually been sleeping together and I'm confused. We don't JUST sleep together. We go out and do things. Even with his friends. In front of his friends, he'll hold my hand or kiss me, rub my back, etc. In the car, he'll ALWAYS put his hand on my leg while he's driving ( I know it's lame but its only something boyfriends have done.) We text EVERY single day, literally not one day passes where we don't talk, and because of that I'm almost positive he isn't seeing other people.

What does it mean when he'll often say "my princess" in these texts?

I think I've fallen for him :( I know i know...awful.

2007-12-26 14:13:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

if yes how u feel that

2007-12-26 14:11:46 · 4 answers · asked by sana k 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

The catch is that we been friends for 10 years and i been dating him for 3 months. a confused 10th grader.

2007-12-26 14:11:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends