yah..i am in that situation right now...im staying w/ my live in partner bcoz of my son eventhough i dnt love him eversince. we make quarel almost everyday to the extent that he beat me infront of my son, but still i stay w/ him coz i want my son to grow up having a complete family..we separate many times.he promised me not to do it again & start a new life..i still gave him a chance to change but i feel guilty coz i have an affair w/ the guy whom i love most..here comes my love of my life, sometimes we see each other & spent the whole night 2gether & i dunno if this wrong or what..the guy knows everything about my situation but he doesnt have anything to do coz he's jobless right now..do you think guys am i going to continue what am i doin right now?...i love this guy & i dont want to lose him but i cant leave my family bcoz of my son...what should i do now?...please help me guys...
2007-12-26 14:17:47 · 6 answers · asked by sykesmishe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stop thinking about yourself for 1 whole second and put your child first.get the $%$% out
2007-12-26 14:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by chevyman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you obviously know that this is wrong because you are asking our opinion. Ok, so here is my opinion...
It seems like you feel like you have nowhere else to go. This is not true. There are shelters that will help you find a job and an apartment to help you get on your feet.
Violence breeds violence. No matter what you tell your son, he will learn by what he sees, which is that women are worthless. You seem to be attracted to the wrong type of men. Affairs are for the weak! Any man who has affair with a married woman does not place much value on family...this is true for a woman who is married and has an affair. You say that you want your son to grow up having a complete family. Complete with what?? A dad who beats his mom and a mom who gets off with another man? What type of family is that?
You need to decide what YOU want. You need to clean house and get your own life in order before you can adequately raise your son. Is there anyone who can take your son until you get yourself straightened out? From the way that you write, it sounds like maybe English is your second language. Is this correct? If so, is that why you place so little value on yourself? Wake up girl! I was in a very bad relationship for a long time. When I finally realized what a great person I am (after years of people trying to tell me this) I was able to pull myself up and now I have a successful career. I have gone back to college (and my child is 14) and I am waiting for a proposal. For this to happen though, I had to take a step back and evaluate where my life was headed. Was is hard? Heck yeah. Did I do it? You bet I did, and so can you. Don't drag your son through this. If this man hits you, it would surprise me if he didn't hit your son too.
Good luck. Make 2008 your year, and do not go around having affairs-that makes you no better than him.
2007-12-26 14:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by just waiting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED HELP. by staying you are teaching your son hey its ok to beat women what is wrong with you. that is not best for your son . you need him taken away from you. a complete family is that what you call getting beat you are messed up in the head hit one to many times. get help now and get your son help to cause you are screwing up his brain . God help your son.
2007-12-26 14:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me where you live so I can have the authorities take your child away from you.
You are an unfit mother!
Leave him or lose your son. That is your only two choices.
2007-12-26 14:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU HAVE TO ASK THIS QUESTION BEFORE THE ANSWERS WE GIVE SINKS INTO YOUR HEAD!!!!!!
LEAVE AND TAKE YOUR SON WITH YOU!!!
HOW MUCH MORE PLAIN CAN WE SAY IT?
2007-12-26 14:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get into counseling NOW!! WHat a mess!!!!!!!!!!! And y ou are dragging your poor son thru it all!!!!!!!!
2007-12-26 14:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋