I'm just wondering if anyone else out there with a non-diamond ring has gotten bashed by family members (or friends)? Or maybe my relatives are just nasty. The most rude comment was "couldn't he afford a diamond?". Others have been "are you sure you really didn't want a diamond".
I have a BEAUTIFUL aquamarine center stone. It is gorgeous! It is just what I wanted. I love it! And I remind my fiance all the time how much I love it and how thrilled I am with it (I'm also a little afraid he might hear some of these comments and second-guess his choice).
Just wondering if anyone else has had this experience.
2007-12-26 14:25:53 · 24 answers · asked by nova_queen_28 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Didn't have this happen myself, but I just wanted to lend my support to you!
I think it's totally lovely that he chose something unusual and special to you!
Your friends and relatives are being terribly rude! Can't believe people actually SAY something to you about the ring that is not nice... yikes!
2007-12-26 23:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your engagement ring is about you and your fiance, not about the rest of the world. If this is what you want...then don't worry about those crazy people who are so shallow that they having nothing more to worry about then your ring.
1. I would rather have a good quality aquamarine stone then a crappy quality diamond just so I can say I have a diamond.
2. The relatives are being nasty and RUDE!
3. Enjoy your ring & your engagement! CONGRATS!
2007-12-26 14:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by ilene m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that matters is that you love your ring. Even If you didn't as long as you and your sweetheart are madly in love with each other that is more important than what people think about not having a diamond ring.. I had a fake ring and people always asked me if it was really real. I always told them it was none of their business and then they snickered. Sometimes it bothered me but then I realized that I had something that they would never have and that was my soul mate. 6 months later my fiance bought me the most gorgeous ring I have ever seen. He gave me a fake ring because he was saving up for a nicer ring which cost nine thousand dollars. After he gave it to me people saw it and were very jealous. Knowing how people tried to put me down, i didn't care for them. I believe that having that one special person that loves you is more important than the material things that are provided in life. As long as you know that you will be OK. Hold your head up high and show your ring off to the world. Your ring sounds absolutely gorgeous. Good luck with the wedding.
2007-12-26 14:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by softielhs00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had many people expect mine to be a diamond. This is odd to me since a lot of people know that I don't like diamonds and prefer stones with color. No one has told me he was cheap. I've gotten nice compliments on it. Some college girls thought it wasn't good enough because it wasn't a diamond but I quickly shut them up by saying he picked what we both wanted. I wanted a ring that reminded me of the man I love and not a ring that reminded me of the high cost of clear, crystallized carbon and looked like the thousands of other boring diamonds that are floating around on hands out there. Each woman should get what she wants and I certainly got what I wanted!
2007-12-26 14:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rockit 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I knew a girl who had a wooden engagement ring. She hated all the diamond-hype. I don't know if anyone ever said anything mean about it, but I thought it was cool. Very fun girl. I wouldn't be opposed to different stone for myself. I might even like it because it would be unique. You know, opals and sapphires and other stones used to be engagement rings until the diamond company made commercials and hype about diamonds being forever. Do some research, and tell your family how traditional you are:)
2007-12-26 15:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Oh it's me! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With me it's just the opposite, Before we were married, we were trying to find the perfect rings. One day I was looking through an advertisement from a jewelry store and I seen the ring that made me catch my breath. It was a wide smooth gold band with a ruby (my birth stone) in the middle and tiny diamonds surrounding it. I fell in love! I cut the picture out and gave it to him. I told him that's the one! Instead of getting it, he got me the traditional diamond wedding set. (that cost more than twice as much as the ruby one) He said he didn't get me the other one because it was not a "wedding ring" and he wanted people to know we were married. I argued that any ring we got married with would be a wedding ring. I have never taken these rings off in 28 years because of what they represent. But I still wish I had never given in. It's nobody else,s place to say anything about your ring. Wear it with pride!
2007-12-26 15:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Wondering.... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I told my fiance that when he bought me an engagement ring, I would want opal (my birthstone) or amethyst (purple is my favorite color). I didn't care for diamonds just because they're so plain and ridiculously overpriced for being just a stone. His parents even agreed colored stones are better (I did look at blue diamonds, finding them really quite beautiful, but still overpriced).
I got a family heirloom diamond ring, which is just as great because of the sentimental meaning. But if he had actually bought me a ring, he knew my preference for colored stones.
2007-12-26 17:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR ring, is exactly that.....your's. It is nobody else's place to comment on your ring - they should only be offering congratulations - as I am.... so Congratulations!
I often cringe at my girlfriends who get together and compare their diamonds....'Ohh, mine is a 1.5 carat E clour VVS1......bla bla bla'.......nobody knows, nobody notices, and basically, nobody cares. What they do see is the love shared between the couple - and no ring can bring that into the relationship.....so if you love your partner and it shows - then that will shine brighter than any diamond you can ever buy =)
Congrats again. I got engaged yesterday - and I feel on top of the world!!
2007-12-26 15:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg!!! welcome to my family.
anyone in our family that will and was engaged is expected to recieve a huge whoppin' diamond. The ironic thing is that all of us (my cousins of marraigable age) prefer stones such as you have. The family is blunt and rude. But don't let anyone tell you what is best for you. You will have to do many things in your life that people won't like but remember that this is for you and your life not theirs. if you like the ring, then they should. don't worry about your family. family is important but don't sink in every word and opinion they say. good luck and your lucky to have such a nice ring. a diamond doesn't mean better.
2007-12-26 14:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have not had this experience but i would tell all the people that give their opinion that it is not for them to like and as long as you like it nothing else matters. Personally, i would rather be different than traditional. Also i would not like to wear a diamond that might of cost someone their hand. (ever see the movie BLOOD DIAMOND?
you should value things for what they signify not how much they cost. enjoy your ring!
2007-12-26 14:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by mireya_adame 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋