My daughter got sick and i saw her in the hospital. Me and my wife are separated and ive been asking for a divorce. sHE LEFT BECAUSE of arguments, and there was a guy in her life that was a friend but she liked him. She 23, im 23, she in the hospital talking to him on the phone.And gigling and laughing she tells him that she has to see him friday night to tell him something in person, then she says "It nothing bad", then she says no, i cant tell you now".then she continues to tell him about my daughter illness, as if he were a regular friend. Then she calls her friend, who is also his friend to tell her that she meeting with him, but hes not sure cause he might be busy. we just talked about trivial stuff; till my daughter, 19months was discharged. in the past,She has told me if he asked her out she would be his girl. Unfortunately, i still love her, but she seem not to care.I hid my anger, but I felt extreamly disrespected by her talking to him right in my face. Should i be mad?
2007-12-26 14:40:04 · 25 answers · asked by ace82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she and this guy have been friends forever and she has sent him nude pictures of herslef to him. We got back together after a previous separation, and SHE still was talking to, But she would ignore his calls. When we had problems she started to answer his calls. Now she back in his life.Shes in bankruptcy, i pay child support but she refuses help from me, she moved out on her own to her parents house, and i had an apartment. I feel so hurt, how do you cope
2007-12-26 14:43:18 · update #1
friends for a year with this guy, i hate her for her noncaring nonchalant attitude.
2007-12-26 14:45:23 · update #2
You have every right to be mad. Chances are, she was just doing that to make you jealous/mad, and you shouldnt give her the time of day. You probably will still love her for a while, but she clearly just wants a reaction out of you. I wouldnt even bring it up.
Its childish girly bulls**** if you ask me.
2007-12-26 14:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Phyrekiss 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't be mad. You all are separated right? So, what you should do is enjoy being a bachelor again. Besides, arguing with her is only increasing her ego. I'm not saying berate her and tear her self esteem down. Just do what you do by living your life, and taking care of you and being a good father to your child. If you can afford it, go ahead and pay for the divorce. Once she's served with those papers, she just might take you seriously. Right now she's really enjoying making you upset about this other guy. Take back the reigns by filing for that divorce. And show her that she can't have her cake and eat it too. Good luck!
2007-12-26 15:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by watersign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I think you need to start preparing yourself to move on. This is not a healthy relationship and your wife doesn't want to let this other guy go. You should be mad, yes. It's because during the time your daughter was in the hospital her main focus should have been your daughter and not giggling like a school girl talking to some other guy.
Distance yourself from her and concentrate on your relationship with your daughter. Do not talk to your wife unless if is about your daughter's welfare. You must create that space so that you can heal from this ruin of a relationship.
2007-12-26 14:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two are seperated and you are asking for a divorce. To add to that, you two are very young. Only 23.
Don't be upset, focus on your child. Your ex is probably just talking to this guy at the hospital to help her cope with what's going on. Just let it be. Also, just because she's talking on the phone doesn't mean she doesn't care about your child. I'm sure she does. But, you can't spend every second hunched over a hospital bed, crying "why me" If she's on the phone for a few minutes, what's wrong with that. Maybe it's giving her a little sanity.
You two are WAY too young to be having such a sticky seperation. Just face the fact that you are still young. Young marriage have such a low success rate. Cut your loses. She wants to move on and perhaps find someone new.
Just let it go. You can't hold on to someone who doesn't love you.
Be friendly with each other for the sake of your child. Let it go.
2007-12-26 14:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by J'adore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't blame you for being mad, but what good would that do? She was trying to hurt your feelings. You're better off without a person who disrespects you the way she does -- but I don't think I'm telling you something you don't already know. Concentrate on your daughter, making sure she's okay. Your "wife" sounds like she's cares more about playing games with your head than taking care of her child.
2007-12-26 14:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes ur daughter was sick and she took the time out of her BUSY day in the HOSPITAL where mind u ur not suppose 2 use cell phones 2 talk 2 the 1 guy u hate she's trying 2 make u jealous oh 1 more thing make sure she's actually taking care of ur daughter 2 me it doesn't sound like she cares she should of been paying more attention 2 the lil girl then sum guy
2007-12-26 14:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds immature and selfish. She still has a lot of growing up to do. I would not be angry because it doesn't help the situation. I would be there for your daughter and move on with your life. Maybe if you start dating she'll see that she had a good thing. This guy could have been gaffing her off and really doesn't want to see her or deal with her if she has to beg him to see him in person. Move on best of luck.
2007-12-26 14:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG u guys are like really young i mean 23 is a vey delicate age to get separated no need to go down to her level and be mad at her just be nice for your child cuz ur daughter needs your attention and love dont waste your time on arguing and separation will bring u no good but i must say your wife seems selfish and rude but bear her for your child bcoz ur child should always come first!!!!
2007-12-26 14:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like she has no respect for you at all.I can understand your pain some how you have got to be strong and let her go if that is what she wants don't give her the chance to come back, and while things are good be there for you and when things are bad run back to him its not good marriage is about sticking it out through good bad ugly and whatever the hell else happens to come along not running to someone else to comfort you its about learning to deal with what your dealt good luck you will figure it out in time.
2007-12-26 15:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you can be mad but you be the better person and kick her *** to the crub. she not only disprespected you but she has sent nude pictures to him and if you really think that there has not been any sex going on then your still in the love is blind . move on and work on being happy and finding someone that will love you and only you. i do believe you will be a good dad to your daughter and take care of her. good luck hugs
2007-12-26 15:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋