I need some kind of clear definition of where I stand with my friends with benefits, but I can't bring my self to ask him directly, so I've come here for some opinions. We've been friends for over a year, and I consider him one of my best friends. After about 6 months, we started sleeping with each other. We've never discussed what it is we are, but now its been almost a year since we've actually been sleeping together and I'm confused. We don't JUST sleep together. We go out and do things. Even with his friends. In front of his friends, he'll hold my hand or kiss me, rub my back, etc. In the car, he'll ALWAYS put his hand on my leg while he's driving ( I know it's lame but its only something boyfriends have done.) We text EVERY single day, literally not one day passes where we don't talk, and because of that I'm almost positive he isn't seeing other people.
What does it mean when he'll often say "my princess" in these texts?
I think I've fallen for him :( I know i know...awful.
2007-12-26 14:13:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with asking for some clarification. In fact I think there's something wrong with the fact that you have slept with a guy for a year and don't know if you are his girlfriend!
Mature response it to just ask him-"Hey, do you consider me your girlfriend? Are we seeing other people? I just need to know what's up with us..."
If he's as good a friend as you say he will understand your need for security. If not, the guy is a player who's having his cake and eating it too.
Either way you deserve to know where you stand and he's the only one who can answer that.
2007-12-26 14:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the two considered one of you're too youthful to get married so i could say in simple terms stay the way you're as " FWB" and spot what occurs later. in case you have already executed that and he remains performing as though he's in love with you and you think of your falling for him than make a dedication and be greater suitable than fwbs. If he gets scared away and desires to stay fwbs and you nonetheless love him than locate yet another guy sleep with him, and this could make the guy u love jealous. So he will tutor his genuine thoughts by applying the two making a dedication or leaving you and if he's the way which you describe him to be he will devote. additionally you may desire to observe the "genuine existence" episode on acquaintances with advantages, there's a woman interior the comparable difficulty which you're in you will study a reliable deal from hlthat episode.
2016-10-09 05:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by hogge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading your post, you certainly act like a couple. Honestly, the best way to find out is to ask him (even though I know it is hard to make that move). A lot of things change in 6 months. Just say something like "So what's the deal with us? Are we a couple?" He should either say yes or no. If he says yes, then great. If he says no, then you can decide where you want to go from there. Communication is the best. You could be missing other opportunities under the assumption that he wants to be with you. At least it will clear the air. Good luck.
2007-12-26 14:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can, it happened to me. We were both councilers at a summer camp and had both broken up with our signifigant others right before we left. We hooked up the whole summer just as a booty call rebound thing, and somehow ended up falling for each other. We spend 9 months apart during school year, visiting every time we have off, and the month and a half long winter break. We've been together 2 years.
Sounds like he fell for you a long time ago. I'd ask him about it... it sounds like you're already way close enough to talk about it. Just get up the nerve... I have a feeling it'll be a good thing you asked, because it sounds like he wants to be with you anyway.
2007-12-26 14:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, fwb can turn into love but I would never suggest anyone go into such a situation hoping it will happen.
Your situation sounds like more than fwb, but not an exclusive couple. If I were you I'd ask him about it...as scared as you might be to discuss it, you won't know if you don't talk about it and you're not very close if you cannot communicate.
Find out...better to know either way and work from there, than to hope and wonder.
2007-12-26 14:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Often FWB is more of the "benefits" and not "friends". Never enter such an agreement with the expectation that it will become more. It seems that it may have become more for you and him though. Talk to him about it. You are part of the relationship and need to know where he stands.
2007-12-26 14:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rockit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truly, there are no rules for love. It sounds like he likes you a lot.. And since you have fallen for him--- then just love him good and he'll love you back. It's better sometimes not to define it in words just yet... just let it be great.
2007-12-26 14:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the scoop.
He is using you for sex.
Yeah I know he takes you out and treats you nice, but that is to ease his guilty conscious and to serve his own needs.
Have some self respect and demand a relationship or move on. you are beautiful and you deserve to be treated like a princess, not a toy.
Good luck.
2007-12-26 14:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you said it friends with benifits means you do things together as friends and you have sex. fwb is just that and everyone knows that is what you are.guys tell all that stuff so you maybe falling but its sex to him and as long as you stay happy he gets it anytime he wants. if you think its more ask him .
2007-12-26 14:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by tweettreat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you're gonna know is to ask him! But I would say you're more than FWB if he acts the way you say he does! Just ask him!
2007-12-26 14:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Maggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋