Family & Relationships - 18 March 2007

the guy i really really like likes my friend! we found out at the same time and when i got home that day, i actually cried (thats how much i like him)!! she likes him- so they r more than likely goin 2 get 2gether. im so sad. wut should i do 2 keep from bein jealous and everything (and im tryin 2 get ova him but its soooo hard)

2007-03-18 17:39:35 · 6 answers · asked by Omgitsme 2 in Singles & Dating

In a nutshell:
best friends for 3 years, just recently found out we've liked each other the whole time but didn't know. feelings are mutual BUT decided not to risk everything now and have a relationship. Said he wanted a "long lasting real serious" one when the right time comes - not now.

He's HAPPY that we're best friends again because he said he can "talk to me about everything and anything again" and not like before where he didn't know what to do, say, and was more nervous around me. He mentioned (hinted) that beautiful girls intimedate boys and says that guys always check me out b/c i have "looks". He "fishes" for answers to see if i'm interested in anyone. He says, "would u get mad if i went out w. someone in a month, 2 months?" just to get my reaction - he responded, "if i ever break up with someone, at least you'll still always be here"
when i said, "everything's gonna be normal again - guys will be at me & you'll be the friend always there" - he sounded sad

2007-03-18 17:39:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was best friends with my ex-fiance before we actually started dating but even when we were just friends i knew that i totally loved him. I finally got the courage to tell him on his graduation night. But he moved to Philly a couple of days after i told him, he didnt even respond to what i had told him. So i moved on and started dating another guy. Then one day my phone rang and i picked it up and it was him on the other line. He told me that he had moved back because he couldnt stop thinking of me and he told me how much he had always loved me since the day we met. At that point in time i was engaged to another man and told him that it was too late. But it wasnt i could not stop thinking about him and ultimately it ruined my relationship with the other guy. So i called him and we started dating. After a while we moved in together, and then he asked me to marry him. Everything was great, or so it seemed. I still do not even know what happened to end our relationship. But somewhere along the way something went wrong and I mean VERY wrong because it was a bad breakup. Somehow we managed to work through it tho and are still good friends. But Now he is with another girl. I knew it would happen sooner or later and i would have to find a way to deal with it. But it is so hard. I still love him more than anything in this world, and i guess up until now i was ok with us just being friends because there was still that chance that maybe we could rekindle the flame and try again. But now he has a new girlfriend, and he looks at her the way he used to look at me. So i know he really likes her. I am confused tho because there are times occasionally when i will catch him looking at me that way still but as soon as he sees me looking at him he runs right back to her. I dont want to be jealous of her and i am always nice to her because she is his girlfriend and i know that if i am mean to her he will get mad and i will lose his friendship as well. But the truth is that I hate her!!!! It is obvious that he still feels something for me or I would not catch him looking at me like that. But he claims to love her and it is definitely obvious that he does care for her very much or he would not look at her like that, and he is the kind of guy that will not say i love you unless he has analyzed it completely to be sure that he truly does, and he tells her he loves her all the time. he has even joked about making me his "Best Woman" whenever he gets married. He tells me that i am the best friend he could ever have and that he doesnt know what he would do if he ever lost me. He has thanked me for not letting our history come between us and ruin our friendship. And he is always telling me how great she is and even that she kinda reminds him of me sometimes. And i must admit she is really nice, the kind of person that under different circumstances i would be friends with. I cannot keep going on like this, it is killing me and every day it gets harder and harder to keep up the happy mask. So my question is what should i do? And how can i bring myself to be truly happy for the man that i love and the other woman? Will i be forced to feel this torn apart forever, always playing the loyal friend while my heart cries out in agony? How do i just hand over the love of my life to another woman without tearing my own heart out in the process? After everything that he and i have been through how am i supposed to just let all that go now? Somebody please help! I am lost and confused and slowly breaking down. I need advice desperately.

2007-03-18 17:37:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a friend (a girl) who is turning 20 tomorrow. What are some ideas for what to get for her? I'm 28, so it's been awhile since I was 20... I have no idea... HELP!
Thanks!

2007-03-18 17:36:45 · 5 answers · asked by chilerin 3 in Friends

ok so i found my first love. but now hes moving. not just to a different school. but a whole new city. we didnt know how it would work so we broke up but i just cant seem to get over the fact that he moved. everything i say, do, and see brings back a memory that we shared. i ache all over. what do i do?

2007-03-18 17:36:03 · 15 answers · asked by girl.that.loves.a.boy. 1 in Singles & Dating

I'am 20 years old and I have known my roomate since high school. After highschool me and him moved to Cleveland Ohio.
Do you think it's wierd that me and him are'nt together?
like a couple.
He's not gay and, I'am single and he is to.
Do you think we should be a couple?
I have been having some "Lovey" feelings towards him lately.

2007-03-18 17:35:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

why is it that men are quick to leave their kids for a new piece of a$$..my ex and i have a litlle girl whos 19months and im 8 months pregnant he dosent even come see her and she used to be his everything he calls every now and then and will see her if hes in town for about 15 min. but other than that he wont because of his gf..he left us about 6 months ago for a lady 10 yrs older than him whom he met a bar...i just dont understand how this could be. his gf always talks crap to me sayin i need to get over him but its not that easy together for 3 yrs and from one day to the next its over i cant just stop loving him and move on...what do i do im tired of looking for excuses to blame myself because in my heart i know i did nothing wrong.

2007-03-18 17:35:40 · 6 answers · asked by nahdya21 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I still want to try to make this relationship work, but I don't know what to say to him. I found out from a friend that he was moving. And when I tried to text him, and ask him he told me to call that same friend and get the whole story. He's the one that still really likes me. And I feel the same way. I'm just a little confused, and would like some advice.

2007-03-18 17:35:39 · 9 answers · asked by rekcinnibs 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-18 17:35:35 · 15 answers · asked by namoper 1 in Marriage & Divorce

The relationship that I share with my fiancee is in strain. We are going through financial troubles where we can barely meet the important bills (house payment and vehicle/insurance). I'm doing all that I can working two jobs but it's still not helping as I wanted and as we thought. We are still strained. Due to the finances our relationship is tearing apart. I view it as, yes while we need money to thrive, true relationships does not and should not revolve around money while he said it relationships does revolve around it. Everyone goes through their low financial points either as single or not single. With my 2 jobs we are very slowly (snail like) getting back on our feet. I'm doing all that I can yet the stress is still there. Should I take this situation from him as a major warning sign to leave because he says relationships all revolve around money? Should we stay together, I know this won't be last of our financial strains. Any advice?

2007-03-18 17:35:12 · 4 answers · asked by Amanda D 2 in Singles & Dating

Are you more attracted to sweetness or a sense of humor?

2007-03-18 17:34:56 · 11 answers · asked by Swedish Meatball 87 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-18 17:34:52 · 14 answers · asked by kimwez21 1 in Marriage & Divorce

who makes you feel so special in many ways you never thought possible, who makes you feel safe, you can trust them with your heart and know that they wont break it. They show you awhole new world of possibilities & idk you can just point out just lookin at them "whos a player, whos a shy guy, whos good and who isnt... and you dont have to look anymore yknw.... youve tried but it doesnt work cause theyre not HIM or HER. Yknw??? This person makes you feel beautiful and free.

How would you describe this feeling.

2007-03-18 17:33:11 · 8 answers · asked by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 in Singles & Dating

k so i hanging with one of my best guy friend at my schools basketball game and he saw a had gum in my mouth and asked if he could have one so i was joking took what i had in my mouth and gave it to him and he was seriously going to take it and put it in his mouth and i said no ill give u a new one and he was like ok good now i wont get aides. i can tell he likes me by like flirting and things he says to me but wow i think thats just weird, what do u think?

2007-03-18 17:32:34 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Okay, so here it is. I've been fingered before but there has always been other people in the room (we were under blankets, etc.) so I haven't been able to react really or do anything. How should I react? What should I be doing?

Anyone's answer is appreciated.

Also, please don't treat me like I'm 12. I'm not.

2007-03-18 17:32:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so me and my mom have been getting along great lately. but some times her craziness is just TOO MUCH!

I honestly think sometimes that she just likes to pick fights with me because shes bord. like she'll be fine and then all the sudden she'll just turn into this crazy person that gets me so mad!

for instance, last night we go out for ice cream (just me and her) and were drivin around and DQ is closed so i say "ok lets go to mcdonalds". and she comes back with "STOP BOSSING ME AROUND!!!!"

i think she only said that because she knew it would set me off. so we got into this huge fight, and i told her i didnt evn want ice cream anymore, and she goes anyway (for spite) and im like mom why are you doing that? and she screams at me that she just likes to waste her money. (is she serious?)

so i didnt eat it, and today she isnt giving me the time of day. and i even tried talking to her first! is she crazy or wtf is her prob? why cant she just let it go??

Please Help!!!!!!! !

2007-03-18 17:32:13 · 3 answers · asked by hi_im_ro 1 in Family

ive been married 4 3 1/2 yrs and n the beginning things were good but it changed n my eyes when i had my son...my husband wants me 2 b that woman i was b4 the baby and i told him that's not going 2 change bc having a baby changes everything...so i have the slightest idea how 2 actually turn him on like i used 2 b4 the baby came bc what im doing now is apparently not working...so can any1 help me out here????

2007-03-18 17:32:09 · 12 answers · asked by febriana 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my husband's parents offer me and my husband to move in to a 4 bedroom house and we all live together . and i like them very much and i never had any problems with them
they are very nice people
but i'm just scared if we do that then i'm gonna loose my privacy and all that and especially his mother is very sensitive about cleaning and food dieting and all that
and i am a very busy person that most of my time is outside of the house(work . school )
do u think is a good idea to move in with them
because if we do move in with them then we don't need to pay for babysiter and i know my baby is in a right hands
and my husband gets a chance to spend some time with his family because they 've been so far away from each other whole their life and i just don't know what to do because i'm scared if i move in then we have dissagreement then what?
help please

2007-03-18 17:31:57 · 7 answers · asked by mary 3 in Friends

what do i do my sister is crazy!Ok my mom my sis and me wer all having lunch today and she was talking about how she needed to lose a few pound and she really dosnt she is really skinny so me and my mom started saying no you are not blah blah and she just blowes up on us and throwes her bread across the table and get up dumpes her plate in the trash and said I am leaving and i was suposed to go with her to get her cat from my other sisters and i said hey I am comming becouse i thought i could talk to her and straten things out and she said no you dont want to ride in the car with me and i said fine i didnt want to go anyway and then she goes upstaires and starts getting all of her stuff and saying that everyone hates her and she is the scum of the earth and me and my mom are saying that we love her and then she starts screaming about it and gets up in my face and she treats us like crap and the whole trip she smarted off to us and me or my mom said anything cuz this always hapenz!

2007-03-18 17:31:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-03-18 17:31:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years....I'm 21 and as well as he.....he tells me he loves me and yatta yatta yatta....well we were dating for a year when he broke it off because he wanted to date because he didn't get to....and than we got back togther....and now at 3years he did it again....and he's dating just this one girl who's 18 and he talks and texts her everyday like 20 times a day........he tells me that he wants me to wait for him. that he loves me but he loves me to much and that scares him, he says hes not ready for marriage.....but i have been nothing but the best to him. I've never cheated, lied etc....and always honest. I think sometimes I spoil him way to much, and I think about him before myself....I'm not sure what to do anymore....he tells me the truth, and i know he isn't lieing....i want to wait because i love him and have never felt this feeling before....i know if it was about being with him so long i wouldn't wait around. it isnt. i'm in love

2007-03-18 17:30:36 · 4 answers · asked by Auddie 1 in Singles & Dating

This guy is my partner in class and he thinks I'm hot and touched me on my back, like my bra strap area very gently. but he doesn't hold a decent conversation with me and when I try to start one, he wouldn't say much. Though he smiles at me often. I'm just wondering does he like me as a person or just acting this way because I'm just another "thing" pertaining to sex?

2007-03-18 17:29:05 · 10 answers · asked by yennay 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-18 17:28:57 · 6 answers · asked by lal89 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-18 17:27:24 · 13 answers · asked by udhay .msc 1 in Singles & Dating

With big muscle, big bones, tall, and naturally very healthy, or an average guy?

2007-03-18 17:27:20 · 9 answers · asked by Nik S 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok, so I am 20 years old and have never had sex ( I am waiting for marriage) or really even kissed a guy (A quick peck on the lips doesn't count in my book)
But...I have met this incredibly hot guy, we've gone out once so far and we seemed to have really hit it off. My question is...when we do kiss, do you think it will be really obvious to him that I've never been kissed before? He's older and more experienced, what will he think? I mean, if it's not good will he just write it off as our awkward first kiss and try again or will it be clear that it was my first time ever?
As you can tell, I've really been stressing over this! Part of it is just because he's so hot that I feel almost unworthy (horrible I know) and that I will have to be a really good kisser to impress/keep him.

2007-03-18 17:26:14 · 4 answers · asked by sydneysaver 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok my gf almost had sex with my brother tonight and she told me cuz she said i was being to so sweet to her and she didnt want to lie to me. SO I got mad and she told me it was a little thing and I did much worse things to her like doing her best friend. At that point I had to tell her the big diff between a friend and a family member but she still said I shouldnt be that mad about it and just be with her. I told her to move on and she told me that I didnt mean it but I told her I did then she flips out on me and says that I set it all up so I could leave her for good for a better girl. What in the world is her deal? Don't I have a right to be mad and hurt? What should I do?

2007-03-18 17:26:09 · 9 answers · asked by spayhappy 4 in Singles & Dating

ok so me and my mom have been getting along great lately. but some times her craziness is just TOO MUCH!

I honestly think sometimes that she just likes to pick fights with me because shes bord. like she'll be fine and then all the sudden she'll just turn into this crazy person that gets me so mad!

for instance, last night we go out for ice cream (just me and her) and were drivin around and DQ is closed so i say "ok lets go to mcdonalds". and she comes back with "STOP BOSSING ME AROUND!!!!"

i think she only said that because she knew it would set me off. so we got into this huge fight, and i told her i didnt evn want ice cream anymore, and she goes anyway (for spite) and im like mom why are you doing that? and she screams at me that she just likes to waste her money. (is she serious?)

so i didnt eat it, and today she isnt giving me the time of day. and i even tried talking to her first! is she crazy or wtf is her prob? why cant she just let it go??

Please Help!!!!!!!

2007-03-18 17:25:32 · 1 answers · asked by hi_im_ro 1 in Family

I'm 20 years old and I work with a 30-something year old man who constantly hits on me. I'm trying to figure out if he is playing me or if he geniuely interested in me. He claims I am the only person he likes but he shows all of the signs of a player. He is very friendly, flirty, charming and sly. He knows exactly what to say and how to say it. He always asks to visit me at my house but never invites me to his, only calls from his cell phone when he is alone and doesn't want me to call him. I can't explain everything because I don't know how to but he always compliments me and is just completely charming; but I knew guys like him, players, so I'm not falling for it yet. I also overheard another guy telling him that women don't like working with him again after he went out with them (the guy that may like me). Should I be concerned that this guy is a player?

2007-03-18 17:25:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-18 17:25:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating