2007-03-18 17:35:35 · 15 answers · asked by namoper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont let anyone tell you you are dragging your feet. This is trial run time and you both should market yourself to one another. This isnt 1953. I know married people that have all the docs signed but cheat on each other. Just be happy. If it really hurts him/her to not be and is causing emotional problems...then re-think. Kurt Russel and Goldie Hawn have never been married. And they have been together longer then most.
2007-03-18 17:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you mean by "healthy". Sounds like 1 of you are unsure and that this person is not the right one for you. Because, in my opinion, if you are asking this question, there are doubts and your'e thinking you should be married after 4 years and there are reasons why you are not. I think if you were with the right person and you were the marrying type, you should be married, so maybe you should really look into this a little deeper. Good Luck
2007-03-18 19:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and i have been living together for almost 7 years and we have no intentions of getting married in the near future. i am 25, he is 27 and i feel i am too young to be married. if i get married i want it to be forever, not just a couple of years then we can get divorced. We both want to make sure its right before we think of getting married and even if we do decide we want to be together forever, it doesnt mean it will result in marriage. Marriage is really just a legal commitment typed on a piece of paper where each has legal obligations to the other. If two people love each other they dont need that piece of paper to confirm it, and if 2 people are having doubts about each other that piece of paper will not fix it. In answer to your question, as long as you and your mate are happy with yourselves and each other, it is very healthy to be in love and living together but not married.
2007-03-18 17:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by suzi Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It takes time to develope a healthy relationship. I lived with my mate 10 years before we married and then had a family. Unfortunately 18 years after that we have gone our seperate ways.
2007-03-18 17:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I agree with your choices. My guy and I have been together for 7 years and have lived together for 6 of those years. We moved to California together and both have degrees and are currently looking for our "careers". We don't want to get married until we deserve it. We want to be able to support ourselves and our lifestyles without having to depend on our families for financial support, etc. It seems like so many people are getting married, and they haven't a clue as to what it is about. It is about being able to support each other financially, emotionally, physically, etc., and so many people jump into the act without knowing the drawbacks. I also believe the there are a lot of people out there who look badly upon "living together" for religous reasons, and those are not true for everyone. We have been together for 7 years, and we know we are going to be together, so what is 10,000 dollars for a wedding and a peice of paper going to change? Good luck!
2007-03-18 17:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by buebla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite normal, some people just don't want to be married. And some people just aren't ready for marriage, some of whom thinks that marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper so there's no need, or that their just unsure as to if the person they are with is worth marrying. Some people want to be financially stable, and maybe finish schooling before marriage.
2007-03-18 17:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by attheendofmyrope 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this age, marriage is little more than an elaborate ceremony for some. My mother has been living with her partner--who I consider my stepfather, though there is no marriage-- for nearly eight years ago. Don't get married simply because you think it's probably time to. Get married if you have an actual desire to.
2007-03-18 17:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lynnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 18, do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs in a relationship without marriage....Never have kids out of wedlock..
Get a pre-nup before marriage...
2007-03-18 17:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Healthy? Yeah. I dont see the harm. Unless you are a christian then it is damaging to the spritual parts of your lives.
2007-03-18 18:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not-you can get rid of her easily as soon as you find the one..... then you will want to get married. This happens all the time,
2007-03-18 18:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋