Family & Relationships - 5 March 2007

Let me start by saying I DO NOT SUSPECT HIM OF CHEATING but I sincerely believe there are things my fiance is not telling me concerning his ex-wife and children. His ex has to call because of the children, however before me he wasn't getting his kids at all. I told him it was unexceptable, that if he would spend time with mine, he needs to see his and he did. However, recently he told me he was "taking a break" from getting the kids. I asked why and he said he was just tired. I've developed an admittedly bad habit of checking his cell for texts and vmails from her (long story) and discovered a new message from a week ago (he didn't listen to it) where she was saying she was sorry for something and hopefully he'll start getting the kids again. I'm thinking WHAT has happened that she's sorry for and that would make him stop getting the kids. If I ask him directly I'll have to fess up to having checked his vmail -but should I be willing to do that to find out what the hell is going?

2007-03-05 03:05:53 · 5 answers · asked by Brandy 6 in Singles & Dating

i dont really know what to buy for her

2007-03-05 03:05:50 · 11 answers · asked by prettychic 1 in Weddings

Let me start by saying I DO NOT SUSPECT HIM OF CHEATING but I sincerely believe there are things my fiance is not telling me concerning his ex-wife and children. His ex has to call because of the children, however before me he wasn't getting his kids at all. I told him it was unexceptable, that if he would spend time with mine, he needs to see his and he did. However, recently he told me he was "taking a break" from getting the kids. I asked why and he said he was just tired. I've developed an admittedly bad habit of checking his cell for texts and vmails from her (long story) and discovered a new message from a week ago (he didn't listen to it) where she was saying she was sorry for something and hopefully he'll start getting the kids again. I'm thinking WHAT has happened that she's sorry for and that would make him stop getting the kids. If I ask him directly I'll have to fess up to having checked his vmail -but should I be willing to do that to find out what the hell is going?

2007-03-05 03:05:41 · 8 answers · asked by Brandy 6 in Marriage & Divorce

And we talked about our feelings. Six years later, we dont talk about our feelings.
I feel like I pushed him away, 4 years ago. He was soo clingy and now I want that. I want him to tell me he loves me and only me. That I am beautiful, I am the only girl for him. We went and picked out rings 4 years ago. Then everything changed. Like we grew up, we cant get away from each other now, but are still not going any where.
Will we ever get that back?

2007-03-05 03:05:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well ive worked with this girl for 4 months now, and ive finally worked up the courage to ask her out. Im a fulltime college student, and i work full time. I have a night class tonight from 5pm till we get done, usually 9. My plan is, if we get out by 9, im gana shoot down to Burger King (where we work) and ask her out. If she says yes then when i leave im gana go to the store and get her a rose, on my way back to school im going to leave the rose on her car, without her knowing so she finds it when she gets out. dose this sound like a good plan? also what exactly should i say? Ive never done this before, and im so shy i just dont want to screw it up. Should i just ask her if she wants to see a movie with me on tuesday? or do i ask her if she wants to go on a date sometime? i have no idea, please help me!

2007-03-05 03:05:15 · 6 answers · asked by davidvbinder 2 in Singles & Dating

So theres this girl I know I love, not like but love. I've known her for two years now and never once did my affections quit. Even though shes really beautiful I really love her for who she is. Now the problem is after a year of when I first met her...she got a boyfriend. And they have been dating now(to my continual torment) for almost a year. What makes me angry is that when I see a picture of them together, I dont get jealous because Im just glad shes happy. She doesn't know how I feel about her. But I know she likes me as a friend. Should I wait till they break up? Should I keep my love a secret and become more of a friend to her? Or should I just tell her and hope the cause wont hurt our friendship?
I've tried to just forget about her...but after months of trying I only failed. Trust me I know there are plenty of fish out there in this ocean but for me there is only one that caries the keys to my heart.
Last couple of details, She said to her friend that Im cute and cool.

2007-03-05 03:04:05 · 5 answers · asked by Robert L 2 in Singles & Dating

we are best friend in secondary sch,but now,we goin to a diff poly,i guess.wad can be done to maintain such a close friendship between us??but she seem to be the type of person who wont feel comfortable talkin to someone if she is nt reli close.this might be the problem when we end up in diff poly.

2007-03-05 03:02:49 · 1 answers · asked by Lola 1 in Friends

or her mate who was acting indifferent???

Just curios, writing a story, and I have the man making this choice, but I don't know which is more likely... He is a bit of a ladies man

2007-03-05 03:02:07 · 10 answers · asked by bee bee 6 in Singles & Dating

a guy who's 2 years older than you..(16) asks you how far you've ever gone with a dude and your opinion on friends with benefits. and he texts you at midnight.

2007-03-05 03:01:34 · 24 answers · asked by jooooooolie 1 in Singles & Dating

I need help with ideas for my wedding favors. My wedding colors are red, silver and white.

2007-03-05 03:01:20 · 15 answers · asked by Soon2beMrs.B 1 in Weddings

my husband asked for a divorce last week, so i finished up the paper work and filled for full custody over our newborn. I then stopped talking to him for the rest of the week and he ended up BEGGING me to see his child so then tried to be civel with him and let him have her last Saturday. When he came to pick her up he immedietly asked what time he could drop her off. He said he was going to a concert tonight with his best guy friend...needless to say i found out he was lying and was actually on a date with a 17yr old girl from his work (he's 24). So basically he traded one child for another child. (This girl is the reason our marriage fell apart.) and let me remind you we are not yet divorced...so I called and ripped him a new one and told him he would need to take me to court if he ever wanted to see his child again. He showed up at my house and begged and beged but i have just had enough! I slammed the door on his face.
my question is what would you have done in the same situation?

2007-03-05 03:01:02 · 22 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Marriage & Divorce

i want to have Girlfriend lol , but i'm very childish .. then many Girls treat me like their younger brothers or something .. >.<.." ahhhhh~
i want to have Girlfriends... not Sisters lol ...

2007-03-05 02:59:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i really like this guy and i know he likes me. Hes been giving me lots of hints lately about us getting together and also inituating a lot of physical contact. Apart from that hes also told my friend he likes me. I really want to ask him out, but the thing is, up until about a month ago i thought he just liked my friend and no one else. She doesnt like him back so nothing will or will ever happen, he says hes over her but im not so sure by he way he acts around her. Hes not a player or anything, hes a decent guy and our friendship has suddenly got really close in the last two months or so. Im scared that if we go out il feel second best to my friend all the time. Should i just go for it or wait til im sure hes over her and maybe loose my chance?

2007-03-05 02:59:18 · 16 answers · asked by make_a_wish995 2 in Singles & Dating

ok so this guy i am currently dating has been receiving messages from some girl saying "are you kates bf"? but me and him have been dating for 2 weeks he was dating my best friend before which i lost a freind but umm...we are always together and he is getting ready to leave for the marines and bought me a promise ring...what do u think about this..and what should i do?

2007-03-05 02:58:55 · 4 answers · asked by kimberlyann_2008 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok I met this great guy, hes sweet and very cute. The thing is I am 20 and I have never been in a relationship. I really think things could develop more with this guy. I am nervous but dont want to push him away like I have with other guys in the past. I mean do I tell him I dont have expiernace with relationships and eventually that I am a virgin? I dont want to move fast and hes a sweet guy who I doubt would pressure me.

2007-03-05 02:57:41 · 5 answers · asked by katie 1 in Friends

ok so my bf and i are nolonger together he broke up with me about a week ago. said he was not ready. and there was to much drama yes im hurt but i dont want him to think he won. now he both have this friend and he wants to get with me. hes my friend and my ex's. i dont want a realionship with this guy just some good kinky sex. should i go through with this?

2007-03-05 02:57:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-05 02:57:02 · 4 answers · asked by Manolo L 1 in Singles & Dating

there is this girl at chruch say i was cute i shake her hand and she got touge tie after look on the ground and lauge and smile. know everytime its time to shake hands she stares at me for really long and sometimes after chruch she stares me?

2007-03-05 02:56:41 · 5 answers · asked by zaheer a 2 in Singles & Dating

guys marrying girls that have sex with them whenever they want and as soon as they get married everything changes and they never get it anymore. then there are married guys that still have sex with their wives often after marriage. if i want to eventually get married, are there any tips on avoiding "winning the loser lottery"? so that i dont wind up with one of those wives that think once you get married you dont have to have sex anymore? are there any dead giveaways or clues to pick them out?

2007-03-05 02:56:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-03-05 02:55:55 · 10 answers · asked by Lynne 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-05 02:55:46 · 10 answers · asked by julie p 2 in Friends

2007-03-05 02:55:07 · 18 answers · asked by Hunarbir 1 in Singles & Dating

i have a couple of friends who wont talk to me since my crush asked me out. and now they're mad at me and i have no clue why and they wont tell me. i just dont know wat i did wrong.

2007-03-05 02:54:55 · 21 answers · asked by isabella devon 1 in Singles & Dating

Hello, I need advice. I am 30 years old and am engaged to be married this year. While in any relationship, you have your ups and downs, I came across something recently that I don't think I can handle without guidance. My fiancee' and I have always had great communication with each other, and have always been in love and the best of friends. A few days ago, I was cleaning out our closet and found a credit card bill from January (his card). On the bill I saw something called TBE phone services, and out of curiosity, called there to find out what it was. To my horror, I discovered it was a phone sex service. My heart broke and I confronted him with this and he confessed to making calls to this service in January. It would be so hard to explain how our relationship has always been about trust, and this is just heartbreaking. We've been so happy, and happy planning our wedding. It hurts me so bad that he could look me in the eye after doing this. This past weekend was so very horrible, and he is devastated at what he's done. I tried to forgive, and talk to him about the reason why and he just said that on a whim he just wanted to try something exciting. I unfortunately consider this a form of cheating. We've always had a great sex life, and I understand that men sometimes crave something mysterious or exciting, but I can't seem to get this out of my head because everything has always been so wonderful with us. I guess I'm asking advice for myself, how can I get over this and be confident and trusting again, because I have lost both. Am I overreacting? He says he's very happy with me and our life and what he's done has nothing to do with being unhappy, but my feeling is that if you truly love someone and respect them, you don't feel the need to do this. He didn't plan on being caught I guess. I don't know how to begin healing myself, and how I can learn to trust again. He also is ashamed and devastated but I'm not ready to forgive; every time I look at him, I see what he did.
If anyone has any advice, please help. Thank you kindly for your time.

2007-03-05 02:54:53 · 12 answers · asked by Silvergirl 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My ex-girlfriend of 9 mths broke up with me 6 weeks ago. We haven't had any contact for 1 mth. I decided to not contact her to give her some space.

I was thinking I would contact her in the next few days to "test the waters".

She contacted me a few days ago. She said hi and that it had occurred to her she owed me some money and could she call me to discuss. I am not fussed about her giving me the money.

I said I was fine and asked how she was and told her she didn't need to give me money. She replied and said she was fine and that she had a dvd of mine and suggested she bring it round to me.

I didn't know what to do really so suggested we speak on the phone in the next couple of days.

Is she interested or is it just about letting me have the dvd back? I don't know what to make of it?

I want her back but don't want to be too pushy. What do I do? Am I reading too much into this?

I am thinking her coming over might not be the best thing but something like coffee?

2007-03-05 02:54:53 · 11 answers · asked by hantsguy1977 1 in Singles & Dating

I joined yahoo personals after being a member of match and not finding much on it. However on match, when a guy left a message and I wrote back, they wrote back. On yahoo, I have gotten many messages and written back and not received any replies back over the past 3 days. I find it odd that none of the 14 guys that wrote me and I answered haven't written back. Most of them have been active in the last 24 hours too. Every time I log on to check messages and have new ones, they are always a new connection rather than any of the guys who have written me. Is this odd or could these guys be employees of yahoo?

2007-03-05 02:54:45 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Singles & Dating

At times I dought about our love because he was doing drugs he told me he quit but how do u know he really did and i would hate to find out later in life after we get maried that he is still doing drugs. I have two chioces either my parents or the person i think i love.What should i Do?

2007-03-05 02:54:29 · 11 answers · asked by SexY MamA 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what are some fantasies that u would like ur girlfriend to do for u. i want to do something really sexy for my boyfriend and i want to know what appeals to most guys. i know i should just ask him but i want to surprise him. thanks ...

2007-03-05 02:54:24 · 8 answers · asked by Blondie 2 in Singles & Dating

I am a christian man who is married and have been with C for over 6 years, we have 7 children (blended families with 1 of those ours), I am by her own admission, a wonderful father, a wonderful housekeeper, and she is MY ONE TRUE LOVE! I have not been the best thru all the years and have been unfaithful in words and deeds before but have repented and worked to become the best man i can be.
The issue is she says that for her the relationship has never been about love, she ran to me after a failed marriage (her 2nd, i'm her third) she never loved me but appreciated all the love i gave her children and how i treated them like mine (and stiil do!), she appreciated how i provided for them and after 6 years she has rekindled a relationship with an old high school freind which she has "fallen for" so she has asked me for a separation. Everyone who truly knows her know that I am the best decision but her heart is not there. She says she doesnt love me. PLEASE HELP.. what should i DO???

2007-03-05 02:54:19 · 10 answers · asked by eric_belardo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What do you do about your morning hood?

2007-03-05 02:53:54 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating