I am a christian man who is married and have been with C for over 6 years, we have 7 children (blended families with 1 of those ours), I am by her own admission, a wonderful father, a wonderful housekeeper, and she is MY ONE TRUE LOVE! I have not been the best thru all the years and have been unfaithful in words and deeds before but have repented and worked to become the best man i can be.
The issue is she says that for her the relationship has never been about love, she ran to me after a failed marriage (her 2nd, i'm her third) she never loved me but appreciated all the love i gave her children and how i treated them like mine (and stiil do!), she appreciated how i provided for them and after 6 years she has rekindled a relationship with an old high school freind which she has "fallen for" so she has asked me for a separation. Everyone who truly knows her know that I am the best decision but her heart is not there. She says she doesnt love me. PLEASE HELP.. what should i DO???
2007-03-05 02:54:19 · 10 answers · asked by eric_belardo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to agree with the other poster but let her go for right now. Hopefully she will realize her mistake quickly but you deserve to be with someone that loves you and appreciates who you are not what you can do for them.
2007-03-05 03:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At best, I could recommend that you ask her to go to counseling with you; however, it sounds as though she isn't thinking about anybody but herself and what she wants. I'm very sorry for your situation, and frankly, it's doubtful her "rekindled relationship" will work out either. My heart goes out to you because you obviously want to make things work; but it goes out to her children even more because they are in for one rough ride through childhood. Been there, done that - and do NOT have the relationship I should have with my mother as a result. Not because I don't love her - I do. But as a result of the way I grew up (she seemed to have a revolving door for men), I do NOT let many people get close to me because I was raised in an environment where people don't stay long. Trust God; it may not turn out the way you want it to, but He will see you through whatever the outcome may be.
2007-03-05 11:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DO sound like a good choice but unfortunately she will make her own choice based on her feelings. Perhaps, and I don't mean to sound ugly, but perhaps she never TRULY loved you. If she did she would never be able to leave you for a high school crush, or anyone else.....sorry. True love that is meant to be will be and that's the simple truth. I'm sorry you're suffering through this but it may be better to allow her to make her choice and then try to move on.
Take Care,
Tori
2007-03-05 11:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for how she used you. But if she doesn't love you, why would you want to stay with her? Both you and she are trying to fill a bottmless pit. If she has a time to find someone else, she is not putting 100% to your marriage and her children. Move on, you deserve better.
2007-03-05 11:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she never loved you then why bother fighting? She is looking for that old infatuation feeling and found it in this old friend, so maybe it is time to let her go. She doesn't seem to settle down very well and she seems to be following the same pattern(you said you are her third husband). If someone doesn't love you there is nothing to fight for!
2007-03-05 11:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi..i understand what u r going thru. its tough for u and i am so sorry to hear that. i think (if u can)give her time.seperate but dont dicorce now. she might be going thru a midlife crisis( women have that too u know) if after a couple of monthes she askes for divorce ,give it to her.by then u would have done what u can to keep this relation from ending.and u wont regret anything by that time .best wishes for u
2007-03-05 11:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by zainat f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wonderful person and I don't want to hurt you but she has made it clear how she feels and why would you want to save a relationship that is clearly one sided. Find someone that will love you and not just love how you are with her kids.
2007-03-05 11:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by romettifamily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love someone set the person free if she comes back she's ur's if not she never was
2007-03-05 11:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by serena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try top communicate alittle more and talk to your wife about this
if that dosn't work get separated
2007-03-05 11:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...it will never change.
2007-03-05 10:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋