Does my ex girlfriend want to get back with me?

Question

My ex-girlfriend of 9 mths broke up with me 6 weeks ago. We haven't had any contact for 1 mth. I decided to not contact her to give her some space.

I was thinking I would contact her in the next few days to "test the waters".

She contacted me a few days ago. She said hi and that it had occurred to her she owed me some money and could she call me to discuss. I am not fussed about her giving me the money.

I said I was fine and asked how she was and told her she didn't need to give me money. She replied and said she was fine and that she had a dvd of mine and suggested she bring it round to me.

I didn't know what to do really so suggested we speak on the phone in the next couple of days.

Is she interested or is it just about letting me have the dvd back? I don't know what to make of it?

I want her back but don't want to be too pushy. What do I do? Am I reading too much into this?

I am thinking her coming over might not be the best thing but something like coffee?

Answer 1

Well, she's either realizing she made a mistake, or trying to completely cut ties (owing someone money can have a way of kind of hanging around, even if you say you don't want it). I think in this case its best to play it cool and see what she does rather than be the aggressive one, after all she broke up with YOU. If she made a mistake SHE will be the one who ought to fix it. If you take control of the situation you could be making a mistake, but if she does than you can be sure it will be worth your while.

Answer 2

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 3

I agree, I think he best thing to do is meet somewhere neutral for a coffee one afternoon if she wants to give you the DVD back. If you want to get back with her I think its a good idea to meet her is this way because you will know for sure whether she feels the same by how she acts when you meet. If she's quite cold and abrupt, you know she literally just wanted to return your stuff so she could move on. If she's warm and friendly etc, she might want more. Reading between the lines though, I think she's had time to think and wants to get back with you. When I've split up with people, I try to avoid them like the plague! I certainly wouldn't make arrangements to go over there and return his stuff. I'd be thinking, if he wants his DVD he can ask me for it. I wouldn't ring him. Besides, its only a DVD that you obviously wouldn't miss. Its not like its urgent you'd need it back. but like I said, the best thing to do is meet with her on neutral territory and judge for yourself what she's feeling. Good luck.

Answer 4

i guess that she is interested in returning ur things since she thinks its wrong to possess smthng that is not her`s.if she is cmng over 2 give u smthng then try 2 make out from her expressions and her behaviour whether is she interested in u .if u feel so then plzzzzzzzzzzzzz..... if u too still have feelings 4 her tell her that u could patch up n evrything was a mistake.i hope that u 2 become 1again.god bless u both.

Answer 5

i was in ur shoes man
if she offering to give it back
take it back i did the mistake of saying no its ok no problem
she took that kind gesture and abuse it cuz she knew i wanted her back, just be ok when do u want to meet to give it back to me remember u didnt call her asking for it back she offer so take it
when u meet up with her she may want to talk and she may ask u do u think about me simply answer sometimes she might get disappointed by ur answer cuz she is hopin u r thinkin about her all the time. then she may ask u do u want to get back together u simply answer i dont know i havent given it too much thought

u might think this wont work but it will cuz u will not be allowing ur self to be puppet on a string to her
believe i said the opposite it got me no where but toy with my feelings
but i did say i thought about her sometimes and by sayin that she gave me more attention but when i made myself too available thats when she took me for granted

good luck man

Answer 6

Its really hard to say, me and my now ex again, broke up, and about a month and a half later she called me and said she found one of my t-shirts and I could come by and get it, so I did. After that she started asking me to hang out again, then started kissing me, and we went back out again, but now broke up once more 6 monthes later. So she could be finding an excuse to see you again, but not in a way to make it obvious, or she really could just want you to have your things back.

Answer 7

just talk to her....she sounds like a nice enough girl. Just tell her that your confused byt he way you two ended and wanted to know once and for all how she feels about you now. other wise your just be wondering 'what if?' for the rest of your life

good luck

Answer 8

if she's giving the stuff back, she might want to lose ties with you. that's what i did with my ex. you should really speak up before you lose her for good.

Answer 9

take back your things an move on. her loss is someone else's gain

Answer 10

no