guys marrying girls that have sex with them whenever they want and as soon as they get married everything changes and they never get it anymore. then there are married guys that still have sex with their wives often after marriage. if i want to eventually get married, are there any tips on avoiding "winning the loser lottery"? so that i dont wind up with one of those wives that think once you get married you dont have to have sex anymore? are there any dead giveaways or clues to pick them out?
2007-03-05 02:56:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make sure that you marry for love. A woman that truly loves her husband wants to keep him happy, and she knows that for a man to be happy, he needs to be satisfied. And, you need to make sure that you keep her satisfied too and not just get your kicks. That will keep her coming back for more because she gets something out of it too.
2007-03-05 03:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ALOT of times once people r married BOTH the husband and wife change all these little things and stop doing all the special things for each other and next thing u know u r having sex once a month! Women are much more emotional than men are. We r turned on by emotions. Men r turned on more by the physical like a naked woman. WE need to feel loved-special-like we r the most beautiful woman in the world to you. Its all the little things a man does during the day that makes us women turn into super ho's during the night! A lady in the living room a sex pot in the bedroom! YOU guys hold all the control! Its in your smile-your touch- and owrds u say all thru the day! As long as u remember to keep letting her know she is loved- a hug in the middle of the day for no reason- a fone call from working saying u love her- a rose now and then- YOU will make her feel loved and special and she will totally keep u satisfied in the bedroom!
2007-03-05 11:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, we can see what you priorities are. Sex, sex, and more sex. If sex is all you care about, then why bother getting married at all?
Things change when you get married and there are factors that effect the frequency. Life isn't always as footloose and fancy free. Marital stress, children, debt, and all kinds of other factors can contribute to the frequency of how many times you and your spouse have sex.
On the flip side of your question...wouldn't it be nice if women had a screening process so that she didn't end up with a husband that will suffer from erectile disfunction??? Do you see how awful that sounds???
My advice to you would be that unless you shift your priorities around, do all of the potential women out there a favor and DON'T get married. It takes a lot more than a sex to make a marriage work and mature adults come to realize that sex, while still an important part of any relationship, is NOT the glue that keeps it together.
2007-03-05 11:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I've heard these stories as well, but in my case they are simply not true. Yes there are some nights when I am tired or have a headache, but so does my husband. Before we were married the sex was frequent and good (at the time we thought it was great), but now it is still frequent (anywhere from once to three times daily) and it is great. We have grown so much as a couple that our sex life is amazing. I think it depends on the couple. I would think if you like sex before marriage you would still like it after. I hope you find someone compatible with you.
2007-03-05 11:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not for nothing, if a girl is having great sex with you before she marries you and then it stops afterwords it is because she was going through the motions (the sex) to get you to marry her.
Doh!
You had better spend alot of time looking over this girl carefully - she could be playing you. Watch her attitude toward other men, find ways to quiz her "my buddy was telling me that he and his wife don't have sex anymore" and see how she responds. And is she confident with her own sexuality??
2007-03-05 11:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question! I have no absolute answers for you. However, a few things might point the way for you:
1) Why does your prospective spouse engage in sex? If it is because you pressure her to have sex, expect the amount to go down after marriage. If she often initiates sex with you, that's a good thing.
2) Does she like sexual things? For example, does she own any sexy lingerie that she bought herself, enjoy reading raunchy romance novels, or like well-done sex scenes in movies? If so, this means she likes sex for sex itself, a good sign.
3) Does she have a fantasy life? Are there sexual things she likes to imagine? If you can get a woman talking about her fantasies without having to drag them out of her, it means she fairly often thinks in sexual terms.
4) Does she ever masturbate? If so, again, she thinks about sex independently of a relationship, which is a good sign that her drive will not drop after marriage.
2007-03-05 11:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no dead giveaways or clues, really. The best thing you can do is to TAKE YOUR TIME in the realtionship...You won't know what her sex drive or attitudes toward sex really are until the:honeymoon" period is over and you two are no longer crazy in lust.
One more thing to keep in mind is that women are wired so much differently than men, especially in regard to physical intimacy. Sex is much more about the emotional for women, and their desire to engage in sexual relationships can depend on many things, including what else is going on in their lives and how hthey feel about their own bodies....
2007-03-05 11:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by sylvyahr 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not always the women who don't want 'sex'.......it goes the other way too. If you love her, don't base marriage on her sex drive or possible lack of..down the road. It could very easily be that you could be the one who loses the sex drive. Are you wondering about her sex drive fading.....or are you having second thoughts about marrying her? Maybe you need to look in your heart for the answers.
2007-03-05 11:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lovinlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It basically depends on how YOU treat your wife. Men tend to romance women and make them feel wanted and appreciated before marriage, and then after a few years, they take advantage of the fact, thinking that their wives must know how they feel. But a woman needs to hear it, and feel it. Without showing the love and appreciation, and taking your wife for granted, they begin to feel like they are being used for sex, and everything else. Women are delicate creatures, and if you want a good sex life, just treat your wife in a way that she would love to have sex with you.
2007-03-05 11:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if you want to be sure to get some every day then be sure to make enough money that your wife won't have to work, then be sure to pay every bill in full and on time. If you want kids then YOU will have to carry and give birth (to be sure no hormonal or physical changes occur) after the kids are here you will have to then watch them, feed them, change them. You will also have to always keep the house clean, keep up with the laundry, do all the shopping and cooking. And that's just the tip of the ice burg of what you would have to do so that your wife will always be ready to have sex. However, you may be too tired. Oh MAYBE that's why some (most) wives loose their sex drives after marriage.
You PUTZ!!!
2007-03-05 11:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I am astounded by some of these women's answers.....NO it is NOT about wooing your wife 24/7 and making her feel like she is the greatest thing in the whole universe just to get sex......men love to have sex, period. When a man marries, he expects to have sex....kids, household chores, outside jobs play NO part in at least 15-30 minutes per day to physically express love to our partner.....we find the energy to do our hair, put on makeup, pick out clothes to wear to work, we spend at least an hour a day in the bathroom primping (well, I do!).....we can etch out some time for our man......just my opinion!
2007-03-05 11:15:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋