Family & Relationships - 16 February 2007

Suga Daddy, Sugar Daddy or whatever you want to call it
Current mood: confused
Category: Romance and Relationships

By: A. Adams

I was talking to this lady the other day and the more she talked the more she aggravated and pissed me off (sorry for the words but speaking the truth ). I got this same vibe from a lot of other females too and it's crazy and disturbing to me. She went on to say how she wants a man that takes care of everything and her. She shouldn't have to do anything with any substance like working, taking care of the house, helping with the bills, etc. I went on to say and i kept it real, "You are a fool" Why do you want a man to take care of everything? Don't you want some say in what to do? You aren't a kid, but with those type of actions, you must want to be a kid if you are giving a man complete control like your parents had over you when you were little.

Never give a man that much power over you, even if he excepts to take care of you. Make sure that you contribute something back! Here are some things why you wouldn't want a man to take care of you ( In no order):

1. He will not respect you over time.

2. You're giving him too much power.

3. When he is tired, he will put you out.

4. Where are you going when he puts you out? Remember you have nothing! Because you don't work!

5. You will have to do whatever he wants to do. Remember you don't have the right to say anything because you gave up that right when you wanted to be taken care of.( sex whenever he wants, go where ever he wants etc.)

6. You sound and would come off as a user to others.

7. It's up to him when you can and what you can and cannot buy. You have no money! You get an allowance like a kid!

8. He will never listen to you. Your opinion will never matter especially after time.

9. He will always feel that you owe him something especially when he is upset. He will always throw it back into your face in what he does and what he did for you. And you can't argue because you're not contributing.

10. You're crazy if you believe that's a good relationship to be in, and any man that would agree to that is crazy too! A relationship is 50/50 it shouldn't be all one sided. I must say if you find that type of relationship, you better hope that he never wakes up and smells the coffee

So trust me ladies...Never want to depend on a man to buy and do things for you. Be better than that because you are better than that. Once he gets tired of you he will just drop you and that's being serious and real and you have absolutely nothing to fall back on because you were depended on him! Make sure that you control some of the power and your own life.

2007-02-16 18:29:33 · 1 answers · asked by SexyBlackFasho 3 in Singles & Dating

I am interested in a lady who would like to be my chat friend but she should be preferably above 25 yeaars of age.

2007-02-16 18:28:47 · 13 answers · asked by 2thman 1 in Friends

2007-02-16 18:27:31 · 14 answers · asked by mwc_girl87 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a friend who has tons of game - the guy has everything - looks, flair, money, etc... but this girl that he really likes tells him she'd rather be friends first. I keep warning him not to fall into this trap... Once you are in the "friend zone" there is no way back and pretty soon he'll be listening to the stories of her screwing other guys. I tell him to turn on all the charm he's got and keep pushing for a romantic relationship... Am I right?

2007-02-16 18:27:16 · 15 answers · asked by Rona9 2 in Singles & Dating

I've noticed that white men are most often seen with more diverse nationalities of women than non-white men. They're seen with black women, Asian women, Hispanic women, ect. How often do you see an Asian man with a black woman? It seems that every woman in the world is attracted to the image of the American man in Hollywood movies. (Sigh) I'm so jealous...

The question is do you believe most women are attracted to white men versus non-white men?

2007-02-16 18:27:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it just to live your whole life with a person or....more

2007-02-16 18:26:37 · 6 answers · asked by prem 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I need to hear from your perspective I have a 18 year old step daughter her and her boyfriend just had a baby and now are expecting another (I know, we have heard it all) but this guy does not want to marry her, they are living together. He says he is NOT READY, I told her to move out and let him be, they have seperated several times, they are both young. Why won't young men marry the mothers of their children, when they are living together???? I told her that he needs to grow up and she needs to get out of his bed. What do you think? why do you think he hesitates ?

2007-02-16 18:26:29 · 6 answers · asked by whattheheck 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I never had frinds in high/middle school and it still drives me crazy. I'm in university now and I still feel like I missed something. I get so jealous of people who have friends! I still don't have many friends so I feel like I missed out and I can't stand it. I feel like that's the reason I'm lonely now and I'll never be able to catch up, I'll be lonely forever. My mom says to get over it but I'm not sure I can.

The few friends I have deffinatly aren't close to me, I'm the newbie in the group(they've been friends since high school and I just moved to the city) and most of the time I feel like I'm pushing myself on them. I barely see them even though I try SO hard to find anyone I know between classes.

I was really weird in high school and went through weird phases so people didn't like me. Plus it was a really small school with only like 20 kids in the class. Now I don't even know what it's like to hang out with people.

2007-02-16 18:24:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

SO do guys get "excited" at the drop of a hat...or have I accomplished something? He said I "started a fire." I told him "No, I didn't start a fire!" He said, "YES, YOU DID!"
So what do you think? Have I got him where I want him?
I AM SEVERLY INTERESTED IN HIM...so I hope I have turned his head.

2007-02-16 18:24:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

hes married but seperated: he claims hes going to get a divorce but i have yet to see any action. i tell him all the time that its not fair to me because he has the best of two worlds: sometimes i wonder if i overract: but i feel like im being strung along. he says he loves me and that im his world. i care alot about him but im not sure about the relationship anymore. i dont want to lose him but i think i need to let go until the divorce is final: staying with him is like me saying its ok to stay married: isnt it? this is the most confusing relationship ive ever been in: i need outsider help.

2007-02-16 18:24:26 · 3 answers · asked by TiMe To LeT gO 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-16 18:23:39 · 5 answers · asked by jassi r 1 in Weddings

When she sits in it I get angry and hound her until she gets out. I take every oppertunity to sneak back into it, when she goes to get a snack, go to the bathroom, I even once lifted her out when she was asleep and folded her up in one of the single seaters. If she refuses to get out and is angry I stand in front of her so she cant watch her fave show. She goes to bed, slams the door, pushes the book case in front and I have to sleep on my lovely lounge. This is the only thing I demand in the whole relationship, I let her get away with much more so why can't she just let me have my baby chair. I let her sit next to me in winter under a rug and we cuddle up but in summer it is too hot to sit on their together. Who thinks im out of line and who thinks I am right?

P.S. the winner of the argument is based on your answers

2007-02-16 18:23:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My bf always asks me questions, but not in a bad way. I dont mind it when he does. But, lately he is keeps saying "I know you have questions for me" he will not take no for an answer. And I can not think of anything to ask him. He has a 2 year old daughter and he lives with his grandparents (his mom died a few years ago). Help me please?

2007-02-16 18:23:18 · 12 answers · asked by Alexia K 1 in Singles & Dating

From experience, which zodiac signs have been least loyal to you? Most likely to play you or use you?

p.s. Please don't answer if you don't believe in astrology.. thanks

2007-02-16 18:22:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, so I took your guys advice on how to get over her, but now I need to know how to get rid of the body.

2007-02-16 18:22:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

the easiest way and the soonest possible

2007-02-16 18:21:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hello! I'm in California and I would like to hear other experiences who may have gone through what I'm going through. The father of my child has not seen or made no effort to see his daughter since birth. Despite what has gone on between us and we are no longer friends or anything I will not take his right to have a relationship with her, as well as my daughter. That is if he comes around in time. It's only his lost. Anyways, my question is because my daughter is on blue cross / med cal and child support services need his medical insurance to and he isn't responding to anything...letters / notices / etc...and I told them he won't. He has no intention of seeing his daughter and or paying. At the least that is his dad talking to him, because in his family it's about power and money. They told me at the agency that if he doesn't do anything they will just put liens on him / take his license / and taxes. I know they can do anything, but isn't that harsh. Than again, it's cruel he .

2007-02-16 18:21:01 · 3 answers · asked by SuperMommy143 2 in Family

2007-02-16 18:19:22 · 2 answers · asked by ohioguy4jc 4 in Singles & Dating

I really like the natural smell of the armpits epecially if she's pretty and deodorant takes that away and it's yucking to be licking deodorant don't you think? Do you think I should wait until second and ask her?

2007-02-16 18:18:53 · 13 answers · asked by Believe me 3 in Singles & Dating

what does that mean...he raised his right hand and held his fingers out as if it symbolized or spelled something out right after he said it...anyone got a clue what he was talking about?

2007-02-16 18:18:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I don't want to ruin the relationship that we have worked so hard to build but I care alot about him and he cares about me. But his job recently took him out of state and with us being so far away from one another he wants us to be just friends. I am just wondering if someone could help me. What should I do? What should I say? I don't want to put to much pressure on the relationship either. I just want to figure out how to be his friend for as long as it takes to help with the situation. I was wondering if someone could help me figure out a way to give him space long enough until the time is right.

2007-02-16 18:17:28 · 6 answers · asked by tigger72879 2 in Singles & Dating

This morning I asked my ex if we could be friends in the future and he replied with a 'nope'. I asked him y and he just said that 'having anythin to do with u is no help to me'....what is that supposed to mean? He wouldnt give me an explanation....any ideas?

2007-02-16 18:16:58 · 3 answers · asked by Onie 4 in Singles & Dating

My best friend likes this guy. Everybody in our class knows she likes him, including the guy himself.

Well on Valentine's Day, the guy, my friend (who is a girl) and me made a deal to trade chocolates. Me and my friend got one chocolate each, but after class dismissal, the guy gave me another chocolate. My best friend found out and she wasn't too upset because I gave her one of the chocolates I got from her crush. Still, she said she suspected that he liked me.

But a few days ago, another dude in my class asked my best friend's crush who he liked more as a friend: me or my best friend. Well, the guy answered that he liked me better as a friend. The dude who asked stupidly informed my best friend about the guy's answer!

Of course, she was really upset, and I've tried calling her cell a couple of times since then but she never answers. Also, at class she merely ignores me and acts like I'm not there.

What do you think I should do?

2007-02-16 18:16:20 · 5 answers · asked by PeRsOn fRoM eArtH. 1 in Friends

So i was thinking about making my own bouquets. Although i dont know if i want to make them with silk flowers or if i want to use real flowers. Which do you think looks better. Personally i think real flowers would look nicer only because the fake flowers i have ran into ultimately look way too cheesy and you can tell their fake!


Just want some opinions.


im thinking of using white and red roses andn carnations. with some ivy

2007-02-16 18:16:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

if there was not any child support ordered, how many men would be angry with the custody situation and care more about the best interest of the child?

2007-02-16 18:15:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

when i go out with this girl, hmmm she always wants me to decide where to go. but sometimes im running out of ideas... can you people help me think of what we can do when we go out? by the way, we are teenagers... so please give me suggestions on where we can go and stuff. thanks

2007-02-16 18:15:36 · 7 answers · asked by tmackun135 1 in Singles & Dating

My fiance keeps getting pics texted to his phone from this girl who has already admitted she wants him I have told him I do not think the girl need to be calling him all the time and i do not approve of the pics specially since he deletes them so I can not see them but he does not tell her to stop well tonight i made the call to her that i do not approve and she needs to stop or else she hung up. Am I in the wrong and how can i make him understand why i feel this is wrong!

2007-02-16 18:15:18 · 22 answers · asked by concerned 2 in Weddings

Is it possible to be close friends with a guy if you have crossed the 'only friends' line with and done more?
Does he want to be friends just to be friends or doe he like me and wants to be friends in hope of a better shot in the future?

2007-02-16 18:14:38 · 10 answers · asked by chick16 1 in Singles & Dating

I mean my family birthdays and just the whole family thing. It is really annoying as my family think he doesnt like them and I am sick of the excuses I give as to why he doesnt come with me and our daughter. I love seeing the family! We have been together for 9 years and married for 3.....Just after some ideas on what to do if anything? No silly answers either thanks....Be SERIOUS!

2007-02-16 18:14:35 · 16 answers · asked by Jassie's mum 2 in Marriage & Divorce

a big problem

2007-02-16 18:13:44 · 5 answers · asked by EasyPeasyLemonSqueezy 2 in Singles & Dating