I have a friend who has tons of game - the guy has everything - looks, flair, money, etc... but this girl that he really likes tells him she'd rather be friends first. I keep warning him not to fall into this trap... Once you are in the "friend zone" there is no way back and pretty soon he'll be listening to the stories of her screwing other guys. I tell him to turn on all the charm he's got and keep pushing for a romantic relationship... Am I right?
2007-02-16 18:27:16 · 15 answers · asked by Rona9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-16 18:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my personal belief that "frienship first, romance later" is essential. When you rush into the romantic level too soon, problems may arise because it is hard to trust and become close to someone whom you hardly know. You must spend time with each other (outside of the romantic zone) and interrogate one another about each other's interests and hobbies, dreams and goals, and morals/beliefs/principles. It is crucial that you know what each other stands for and doesn't stand for because you must be on the same wave-length. It is not enough to simply find out whether or not you have a lot in common, because two people may have a lot in common, but may have opposing beliefs and values which may later cause conflict. Once you find out that all these things fit with a particular person, then, and only then, can your relationship progress and blossom into a romance (and maybe even love). Frienship is the foundation on which a good solid relationship is built. Without this foundation, any kind of romantic relationship is likely to come crumbling down. It may last for a little while, but when something goes terribly awry, and you decide to call it quits, you are likely to come away from your relationship with the same negative attitude or mentality as in the previous relationships, or maybe even worse. Most people end up having multiple romantic relationships before finally meeting "the one", but you must remember something: each mistake or bad relationship is an opportunity to learn and grow, and to change our often negative mentality/perception of love, relationships, and the opposite sex.
*Note- every time I use the word "you", I am actually referring to your friend.
2007-02-16 20:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by kittymixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends first is a great thing. There are way too many times that people get into relationships without really knowing one another, that can only create problems. Now if the "friends zone" continues to persist and never ends then she is probably just leading him on and doesn't want to turn him down and that is just her way of saying she doesn't want to take things further. Girls can be evil in the playing games thing sometimes.
2007-02-16 18:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by techfan_jen_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong dude. Think about what you said "the guy has everything - looks, flair, money, etc...". The girls wants to get to know him so she can eventually learn to trust him. The girl knows what he has, so she doesn't want to feel like another statistic. If he really likes her then he will start as friends and work his way up into the sack.
2007-02-16 18:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Adam S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that he should pursue romance, but at the same time, being friends first ensures that they will not fall into the similar trap of getting into a bad relationship.
2007-02-16 18:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it could bypass the two techniques. i replaced into pals with this guy for approximately 8 months, we've been given nearer and nearer and now we are married and have 3 happening 4 little ones. So i think of you will possibly desire to confirm in the event that they choose for to get inclusive of you and a few others, in line with danger for a dinner element or social gathering, and notice if she seems to be into him or no longer. it relatively is often obvious if there is flirting and extra charm than basically pals.
2016-10-02 06:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really interested in her and not just sex, friendship will be the precursor to a serious relationship. The best lovers are also best friends.
2007-02-16 18:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by norml2000us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best relationships require that you be their friend. There may be times that you don't love them. But you sure better like them and respect them.
2007-02-16 18:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Matt from Ga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right there's an unwritten rule "don't fool around with friends" but if you are asked to be friends then she is so over you so you probably don't have a chance anyway so "friends" is closer than not friends but with your description i see he doesn't want to be "just friends"
2007-02-16 18:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by frosty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way. I only start on a friend level. that's how you get to be unbiased on learning about a person.
2007-02-16 18:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about not a friend or something close at all?
2007-02-16 18:31:40 · answer #11 · answered by Deanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋