I never had frinds in high/middle school and it still drives me crazy. I'm in university now and I still feel like I missed something. I get so jealous of people who have friends! I still don't have many friends so I feel like I missed out and I can't stand it. I feel like that's the reason I'm lonely now and I'll never be able to catch up, I'll be lonely forever. My mom says to get over it but I'm not sure I can.
The few friends I have deffinatly aren't close to me, I'm the newbie in the group(they've been friends since high school and I just moved to the city) and most of the time I feel like I'm pushing myself on them. I barely see them even though I try SO hard to find anyone I know between classes.
I was really weird in high school and went through weird phases so people didn't like me. Plus it was a really small school with only like 20 kids in the class. Now I don't even know what it's like to hang out with people.
2007-02-16 18:24:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't be discouraged! I had the same problem in high school. Now, I didn't go to college, but I did join the navy. You have to learn how to get people to like you. be genuinly interested in other people.....ask questions (reasonable ones, i.e., about their job or hobby). People love to talk about themselves. Also, lay low for a while when you are new to a group, don't push yourself on them. In due time, they will accept you.
When I say lay low, I mean you should be a wall flower type untill they really get to know you.
2007-02-16 18:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by to be taken seriously 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone new who go's to your university that doesn't know the place all that well, maybe they have a class or two with you. Just start chatting away, introduce yourself. Sometimes you don't even have to introduce yourself just a simple hi, how are you doing? Find something that you can tell you both have an interest in and it just fires up conversations. You may have your circle of new friends but then again you can have your own friends that are outside of that little circle.
2007-02-17 02:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Foxy20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Its hard to be different, but its not your fault. They obviously were not true friends if none of them stuck through it with you. Try joining a club or a sports team where people don't know you. Be really friendly. You can't change the past but you can improve the future. Good luck!
2007-02-17 02:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by dandanthecranman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
when you're new, people don't know you, so you should jump in there and get to know them...you should try to engage in conversations with them, it's the best way they will get to know you.
Just be yourself...you will find a friend...a friend might be someone who needs you too...so look for people who need to be loved and cared for...they r usually the best and the truer friends
2007-02-17 02:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't ask a question directly, do you. You also repeat yourself repeatedly.....you write as if you're in a panic attack.
Seek counseling from the school....they have trained psychologists to help you with your problem and lack of self esteem.
2007-02-17 02:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by superbird 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THINK positive. YOU Will get over this person. YOU will move on. YOU will find a nother one that loves you.
2007-02-17 02:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get breast implants. you'll get tons of guy friends after that.
2007-02-17 02:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋