My fiance keeps getting pics texted to his phone from this girl who has already admitted she wants him I have told him I do not think the girl need to be calling him all the time and i do not approve of the pics specially since he deletes them so I can not see them but he does not tell her to stop well tonight i made the call to her that i do not approve and she needs to stop or else she hung up. Am I in the wrong and how can i make him understand why i feel this is wrong!
2007-02-16 18:15:18 · 22 answers · asked by concerned 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We have been together for 6 years and have 3 kids together he gets mad when i confront him on it cuz i constantly check his phone records
2007-02-16 18:22:48 · update #1
And the girl sending him these "pics" is his uncles girlfriends daughter
2007-02-16 18:28:24 · update #2
Since you obviously cannot trust him enough that you check his phone records why the heck are you still engaged to him?
2007-02-17 00:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The problem is him not the girl who is sending the pics. He may have asked you to marry him but, he is NOT committed or ready to be a husband. If he is cheating on you now and you are checking the phone bills what do you imagine your life with him like after the "I do's" . Things will only get worse. I know you have 3 kids but, you told him you know about this girl, you told him you don't approved, he ignores you and hides it then tells you that your wrong. Clearly he has not respect for you. By you sticking it out for the kids or because you don't want to break up you are showing him and your children you are a door mat. I am not trying to make you feel bad but the truth is He understands what he is doing is wrong and really dose not care. Dump him quick before you end up catching something
2007-02-23 15:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No and it's wrong, you already know about it and if he's till allowing her to keep sending him pics then he mus not really care about you or what you have to say, and that should be his number 1 priority. if you are already having issues like this now, that means his mind is wondering off and might not be fully mature enough for a long-term marriage. if i was you i would put the marriage thing on hold for a while and se what he does after wards because the truth is if he loves you as much as he says he does then he wouldn't have you worrying and second guessing him and plus having some girl send him pics, even if there just normal pics it can lead on to other things and you will be stuck having to deal with him while your married. think about it.
2007-02-17 02:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♥!BabyDoLL!♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl you cant get him to understand..Men love pictures of other women and they dont have any clue what it does to the one they are married to or engage to..But bet he wouldnt like it if you had men sending you pics...
I would sit him down and tell him that you know he is tryin to keep a secret and you want the truth..Girl before you marry him make sure he loves you with all his heart...That way he knows where you stand...I never thought it was right when a man or woman said they loved someone yet purposely took calls or got pics from other men/women knowing full well it hurt the one they were to marry or were married to...
2007-02-17 02:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by glowworm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have told him that this is upsetting you. If he truly loves and RESPECTS you, he will put an end to it now! Sorry to say this, but i think you should put off this wedding, until the two of you get some serious matters settled. A broken engagement is a lot easier to handle, then a broken marriage. Never marry a man you can't trust.
2007-02-17 05:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Pat C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps getting pics from another girl, I think you should take his phone while he is going to be busy for a while, and see if he has deleted the pics and then if he hasn't either talk to him about it and see why he hasn't deleted them or, get over it, or get some clothes and pack, say your bout to run away and never come back.
2007-02-24 00:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, he seems to be interested in her....otherwise he would make her stop. How did he meet her? I have been in the same situation as that guy and he will make his decisions regardless of what you say or do. Just forgive him when he realizes he is doing wrong. Even if he cheats on you, forgive him if he is sincere with the apology. I cheated on my girlfriend with a number of girls (7) and i regret every single one. We broke up for 4 months and then got back together.....and i have been faithful ever since. I made a mistake. Hopefully, when he makes his, he will regret it when he sees what it will do to you. Also, if he does cheat on you, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you...trust me, I know.
2007-02-17 02:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by to be taken seriously 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! If he cant respect you enough as his fiancee let alone THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN-to ask this girl to back off then he does not deserve to be with you period-if he is deleting the pics before you see them then they are not appropriate for him to be looking at. He's not telling her to stop cause he thinks its flattering i would imagine-RUN while you can.
2007-02-17 02:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! if he is this sneaky and deceitful now think what he will be like 6 months after you are married. he knows what he is doing upsets you and he doesn't care. is this how you want to live your life? he won't change no matter what you do or say. a person in love always believes he or she can change the one he or she loves but you can't. give back the ring and start over.
2007-02-17 02:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by alida 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In the old days engagement was as sacred as marriage. This gal is not respecting your wishes, therefore your fiance should stop answering her calls. Now, this is just out of respect for you, whether he agrees with you or not.
If he insists on taking her calls, I would look elsewhere.
2007-02-17 02:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES! That is very disrepectful to the relationship. He put a ring on your fingure, he isn't single. I hate when people get engaged and act like they are still single. They say well we aren't married yet, no but this still is a commitment. He needs to respect you and your relationship. It is a trust issue. IF you can't trust him in your engagment how can you when your married to him.
2007-02-23 11:39:33 · answer #11 · answered by hoilday luv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋