Family & Relationships - 9 February 2007

Hey all. Okay a little background. I'm a 20 yr old college student who's a virgin. None of my friends have any idea as I am "popular" and an athlete. I am secretly pretty religious, not overly so but in private I pray a lot and speak with the Lord. I never expected to be a virgin at 20 but it is what it is. I've passed many opportunities to have sex and have kissed/fooled around w/ a decent amount of girls and but never sex. No, I'm not gay either. Women are on my mind all the time. My question is whether or not A) its bad I'm still a virgin, B) should I be open about it? I'm the type of guy nobody would ever guess and I'm pretty confident in all other areas of my life except this. Ladies I need advice on what I should do. Thanks alot.

2007-02-09 19:51:51 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my girl friend is on the phone w/ her male friend who lives across the hall in our apt. complex. She & He smoke from time 2 time. I don't smoke, so I generally don't go over. 2nite on her cell phone she asks him "can I come over & get Happy I'll give you some $ 2morrow." I hear him say "Why don't U come over here & make me happy" she repositions the phone 2 the other side of her head, & laughs. She didn't know that i heard that. She left & was over there 4 about 25 mintues. I stayed @ home in bed watching a movie. Later in the evening it was bothering me, so I told her what I heard, & that it didn't make me feel very good. We hashed it out, well then she got out of bed, and changed her underwear, she threw the old underwear out & said "There's holes in em" I didn't think nothing of it. Curiosity got the best ot me, & later I pulled her underwear out looking 4 holes. I found none, & now I wonder did she have sex with this guy? & threw out her underwear? what's your take?

2007-02-09 19:51:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

by "smart" i am referring to academically smart, i.e. great at maths and science.
by "really smart" i am referring to the people who get or almost get dux in a big school or get high distinction in a hard uni course.
i know a lot of really smart guys who are quite popular among girls.
but i don't know of any really smart girl that guys like, even if they are really nice and fairly good looking.
now why is this? just curious

2007-02-09 19:50:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im a sophmore in college, Freshman year I was crazy and partied alot and got a fair share of girls. This year nothing is working for me. It seems like all my friends are getting girfriends and everything, but my problem is that I just want to settle down and get a girlfriend and the problem is that im short. I'm 5'5" and i think im a fairly decent looking guy, but girls just will never pay me as much mind as any other guy who is just taller. Its really hard to get girls now, and meet new girls because they just seem like i'm not of any interest. I feel if i was taller things would be alot better for me. I really just want to settle down and get a girlfriend but its been so hard. Being anxious about this makes it harder to focus on school and i'm not doing as well as i could if I just felt more settled in and all. Any advice? Thanks alot.

2007-02-09 19:50:34 · 5 answers · asked by BD 2 in Singles & Dating

I see all sorts of complaints for men being too effeminate, by expecting women to meet them half way; or more. I also see many, many women complaining about macho come on lines.

Ladies, what's a man to do? Is this all just a game or competition where we lack proper communication ettiquette, or what?

2007-02-09 19:48:03 · 7 answers · asked by Huguenot 5 in Family

I am a 24 year old well educated female who had a best friend from my freshman year of college. We were part of an organization and over the years became very close. Both of us experienced ups and downs with family and relationships but shared a similar faith. Therefore, I felt we really had a solid friendship to the point I considered her like a sister.

About 2 years ago she started dating a new guy and we both left for grad school. We are both back in the same city now finishing our degrees and both have very serious relationships. After returning from being away in mid Jan she has distanced herself from me the past month and won't return any of my calls, emails, etc. Today she sent me an email saying she has changed, our friendship changed, and her focus is school and her boyfriend and she can no longer offer me what it needs to be a good friend. She said I did nothing wrong, still this kills me to the core, and I don't know what to do. Any suggestions on what to do?

2007-02-09 19:46:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-02-09 19:46:16 · 28 answers · asked by ErwinS 2 in Marriage & Divorce

OK were only 13&15 and i absolutely love this girl and i know she likes me (we are always looking at each other in the eyes and smiling at each other)we've been great friends for about a year aswell. She already has a boyfriend though.we socialise together and we go to modern dance classes ,where we are partners! What should i say in my valentines day card to her?

2007-02-09 19:45:13 · 12 answers · asked by Jack B 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-09 19:45:00 · 4 answers · asked by ommur z 1 in Singles & Dating

what is there like basic belief and wat ever info u can give me lol, and no this isnt a project im just curious

2007-02-09 19:43:33 · 7 answers · asked by lovinpink809 4 in Singles & Dating

what is a better and less awkward way to say way to say i like you. the problem im having is that there is no way i can take this girl out on a date now are any time in the near future and im at the point were its now are never. so how can i put it in words that are not as blunt as randomly saying i like you yet get the message across just as good?

2007-02-09 19:43:15 · 3 answers · asked by a_man_in_a_tux 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-09 19:42:47 · 5 answers · asked by msupmod 1 in Singles & Dating

He told me that they slept in the bed together but did not have sex

2007-02-09 19:42:13 · 15 answers · asked by Shayla W 1 in Singles & Dating

Assuming you are both single.

2007-02-09 19:40:48 · 10 answers · asked by Lilliana 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-09 19:40:26 · 11 answers · asked by poke 1 in Family

weve been 2gther 9 years.....he wants 2 buy me house which we cannot afford....i said "im not movin.,this is the kids house" im not movin..................all though i couldnt afford the house we're living in by myself.whats your thought?

2007-02-09 19:39:26 · 10 answers · asked by tbtt&b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Particularly when the two people are friends already or are brothers/sisters in the church?

2007-02-09 19:38:17 · 4 answers · asked by Lilliana 5 in Singles & Dating

Is this wrong????
would it be wrong of me to send my ex an email an tell him how i feel to see if there is any chnce for us before i move on??
i still love him
we have been apart for nearly a year. is it too late???
and should i tell him all my feelings or just come out and ask simply if hed give us another chance???
we have had contact over the year and he has been driving past my house but he said it was coz he was worried bout me....
we were together for 4.5 years he is 30 qand i am 23.

2007-02-09 19:36:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-02-09 19:35:26 · 9 answers · asked by Lilliana 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-09 19:35:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I looked at myselves and someone told me it was bad for me. How is it bad? Does it cause some kind of insecurties?

2007-02-09 19:34:58 · 5 answers · asked by baKeD^ N 1 in Singles & Dating

He is moving pretty fast... wanting to talk.hang out every day. And talking about a future. Is he just messing around to play with my emotions do you think? He is a great guy and I want to believe he has good intentions, but am scared to believe it. Could it just be he is ready? Thanks for any advice. Also, he really is a cool guy - fun, smart, goodlooking, the type that could go to a club and get any girl.... so it seems weird for him to be like this

2007-02-09 19:34:30 · 13 answers · asked by andbriantoo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have this crush for like 2 years and i just started to get to know her this year. She just broke up with her boyfriend and sick of relationship.Maybe that is her first relationship.I really like her so much and willing to be her royal and loyal boyfriend. We used to chat online but not anymore.Maybe she think i am boring. When we meet in school I just smile and dont have the guts to say anything and walk away. I know I am a complete loser.We see each other quite often though. Imagine how many times i miss that chance. I bet she must have think I am a loser.
Problem 1: she said she dont want to be in a relationship anymore.
Problem 2: I am scared of rejection.
Problem 3: I am scared of her because she is the few beautiful girls in my campus
Problem 4: I am not much a talker.
How? Care to help?

2007-02-09 19:32:17 · 4 answers · asked by myvampiredrak 2 in Singles & Dating

PAOLO or MARCO for a boy? do you know where these names originate from?

2007-02-09 19:31:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i drink all the time since my x left me i drownd out the sorrows. i was so in love with him and he crushed my world... i use alcohol.. to cope .. get drunk and forget the sorrows. and just wake up the next day just remember ing.. i probably drink about 3 to 4 nites a week.. but i was so in love with him and he left me for another girl the day after christmas.....

2007-02-09 19:30:47 · 6 answers · asked by aleisha21 1 in Singles & Dating

My mother in law believes that a daughter in law shouldnt give anything to her own parents as this would equate to stealing. I earn money... I bought a birthday cake for my Husband has we had a little party at the house. There was a lot of cake left over so when my parents were leaving I gave them a slice of cake.
I got accused of stealing cake for my parents. what mistake did i make? oh yea I am an Indian daughter inlaw

2007-02-09 19:30:22 · 16 answers · asked by rainwoman 1 in Family

How can someone be in a relationship for over 8 months and show love unconditionally and being supportive in every aspect of life to ignoring and not wanting to be around the person you say you love. How can someone want to stay in a relationship where there is no comunication, where there is no honesty about things that bother you. How can someone put a year into a relationship that he hopes and prays and begs to keep going, even though he has been hurt so many times by the one he loves. How can people change so easily. Why does this hurt so much? How can I be so angry and hurt and bitter, and how can I feel like I want to tear a hole in a wall and break anything I can get my hands on when I think about the one that I love. Why can't I be happy like I used to be months ago.

2007-02-09 19:26:23 · 8 answers · asked by Garin M 2 in Singles & Dating

My sister is about 3 years younger and these girls are around my age group. (17-19) I really don't understand this. Alot of people that do this know her because of sports and things and when I try to make friends with them they either just give me dirty looks or ignore me. I just stopped because I'm used to this but not with anyone that knows my sister but acts like an a!! towards me. I just feel that if they want to be all close to my sister to at least try to make an effort to at least say hi. Most of these girls are older than me by about a yr.
They really have no reason to do this, I don't have a bad rep., I haven't stole anyone's man, I am friends with lots of people but I do have some people that dislike me for no reason, but still. I try to talk to them/compliment then, they dont wanna talk or look at me wrong or have an attitude with me. One is always staring at me at school. Should i keep making the effort or just forget about it

2007-02-09 19:25:18 · 14 answers · asked by uglyvanity 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-02-09 19:24:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I mean, Im only 21 and shes only 19 and we aren't planning on getting married yet so why doesn't she understand that I want to save myself until marriage?

2007-02-09 19:24:14 · 13 answers · asked by NONAME 1 in Singles & Dating