He is moving pretty fast... wanting to talk.hang out every day. And talking about a future. Is he just messing around to play with my emotions do you think? He is a great guy and I want to believe he has good intentions, but am scared to believe it. Could it just be he is ready? Thanks for any advice. Also, he really is a cool guy - fun, smart, goodlooking, the type that could go to a club and get any girl.... so it seems weird for him to be like this
2007-02-09 19:34:30 · 13 answers · asked by andbriantoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just tell him to calm down, that you're worried that he is going to fast. Tell him you want to enjoy the time you share together just dating. Make it sound like you are mostly thinking of HIM -- men like that.
2007-02-09 19:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoooo, a month!!!! I really, reallly, think it is just lust, not love. Looks is not everything, it's whats inside of the person that counts. He may be a sweet, nice, fun guy, but hey it takes more than a month to know someone and know that person very well before jumping into any kind of conversations about getting married. Talk to him about the way you are feeling and see how he reacts. That would be a good test for him when it comes to communication and how he will respond back to your concerns. Remember that is one of the things that makes a marriage work, and alot others. I was married for ten years, and believe me i will get married again and i'm using my first marriage as a tool now do too the things i should have done the first time.
2007-02-09 19:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by take-it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His age is a non-issue. In 2004 the median age of first marriage for men was 27.4 years, so he is not that far off from the median marrying age. Since you like him, use this opportunity to find out his views on the big marriage deal breakers. Since he wants to talk, ask him about religion, politics, morals, money. Does he respect your ideas, does he have opinions you can live with, ect? Meet his friends, meet his family. Does he act the same toward you with company as he does in private? Is he comfortable with you talking to them, or does he monitor all conversations? Just because he is moving fast, doesn't mean you have to move at the same speed. Evaluate his behavior to judge sincerity. Be calm, enjoy his company, and see where it leads.
I met my husband when we were both 22. We met on Wed, he asked me to marry him on Sat same week. I was shocked, but I was enough of a risk taker not to running screaming away. We spent many long hours late into the night talking about anything and everything. I made a list of what I wanted for my future, where I wanted to be in 10/20/50 years. We shared the same ideas on the important issues, but still had different enough opinions and interests that we didn't get bored. It was when he gave me a set of formal china dishes that he convinced me he was serious. We married 2 months later, and have just celebrated our 15 year anniversary.
2007-02-09 20:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by just_tracy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may simply be a very cool guy who wants to get married and thinks he's found the right person. I know many people who got married in their mid-20s. Including a couple who decided to get married after they had met in person once, and talked to each other for about two weeks. Years later, they are still happily married.
If it's scary for you, tell him your fears. When they say "speak now or forever hold your peace," it's already too late for doubts.
Oh, and listen to Meatloaf's "Paradise by the Dashboard Light" and think carefully before you give him an answer. ;-)
2007-02-09 19:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its weird that i found this question... this same thing happen to me, i met a guy and 2 months later we moved in and a month after that we were engaged and things were great.... until he got controlling and turned into the biggest mamas boy ever. Just be careful and if he loves you he will respect the fact that you want to take your time... i recommend wait at least a year
2007-02-10 04:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by jess m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
My husband and I have 5 beautiful children, my husband first asked me to marry him after 2 weeks. As I had already been through a bad marraige I really didn't know what to say, I kept putting him off somehow, we then went on to have 4 of our children before we got married and had our last 2 years after we were married. We have now been married for nearly 5 years and are as happy as ever. I am sure that if you talk to him and be open and honest, if he truely loves you he will wait, as my husband did. I hope everything works out for you.
Cheers 7BALLETS.
2007-02-09 19:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by 7BALLETS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love fo course. What else? Sometimes we hope to see it in the clouds so when it stares us in the face, we tend not to believe.The fact that people could tend to be something else does not mean others are not exactly what they claim to be.Believe and trust and let the natural order of things take control.In anycase, I pray he is God fearing for which you could certainly be in good hands.
2007-02-09 19:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by tivhans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to trust your instincts and go with it, if it is really what you want, things happen for a reason, i met my husband when i was 21 and i am now 25 and we got married last december. he wanted to marry me the first night he met me.
2007-02-09 21:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by IzzieB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is tired not to get regular nukies every night. because even if he goes to club and talks to any girls it doesn't mean those girls will spread their legs the same very minute. and testosterone is talking every minute in his head
2007-02-09 19:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time... I know easier said than done..it will save you alot of heartache in the future.
2007-02-10 08:18:24 · answer #10 · answered by kandisue76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋