is me drinking so much really taking over my life.?

Question

i drink all the time since my x left me i drownd out the sorrows. i was so in love with him and he crushed my world... i use alcohol.. to cope .. get drunk and forget the sorrows. and just wake up the next day just remember ing.. i probably drink about 3 to 4 nites a week.. but i was so in love with him and he left me for another girl the day after christmas.....

Answer 1

Alcohol is a poor coping method, one that can lead to big troubles.

It does not sound like you are an alcoholic, just a person who is having a momentary personal problem, sounds like you need someone to talk to. Try to get involved with ANYTHING that will keep your mind off of the breakup and keep you away from drinking, I'm a big supporter of volunteerism.

Alcoholics Anonymous will teach you you have a life-long disease, that you are flawed human being,only they can help, and that you can never take another sip or you will risk death. It's very counter-productive to self esteem.Many people end up worse than when they arrived.

Answer 2

Since you're asking this sort of question, it must be weighing heavily on your mind. Fact is, it is taking over your life and you need to stop this self destructive behavior. Drinking 3 or 4 nights a week is not normal. Bet you've tried to quit and couldn't do it. You are using alcohol as an excuse to cope with your problems. Problem is the problems are still going to still be there. They aren't going to go away; they will become bigger and more cumbersome than ever. So, the sooner the better you need to check out AA and get yourself some help-fast. Do it now before your will power is used up and you decide you don't care enough about yourself any longer.

Answer 3

I don't know, is it?...not trying to be mean, just real...

you have to answer these questions for yourself...

I don't think drowning your sorrow in alcohol is such a horrible thing if:

it is temporary
you don't drink so much that you hurt yourself or someone else because of it

time does heal...there are plenty of fish in the sea...all true you just have to trust the process...

find other coping techniques as well, preferably healthier ones, now is the time to utilize your support system of family and friends, if you have none, seek a professional counselor...you are not alone...it will be allright...

Answer 4

Please be careful with Alcohol, it might seem like you are using it, but the truth is, Alcohol is using you to come into this world. I feel for your situation, I really do, but it is you and the liquid demon that is keeping the hurting alive by the way you are reliving the pain. Alcohol will never allow your pain to ease, instead it will increase it so that you take it's unhealthy influence into your mind more and more. Alcohol is a deadly game played out in your head, don't let it take you away from yourself. I have been down that road again and again, all those years ago, and below is just a small insight to my life in those days.

As my feet slap down against the cold wet pavement, and my face drips rain from the storm, an unrelenting need to drink pushes me further. Exact final destination appears unknown , but it's inevitable that the evil inside will again return me to the source of my nightmare. No control, no will of my own, no power had I found that might evict this hell that had infected my body and mind. Self-identity, and all that was once me, had been buried under countless layers of drunkenness, so deep, that any calls for help were merely an echo inside my head.
This living liquid curse, cunning and without conscience, had been absorbed into a body which at one time eagerly welcomed it's unyielding influence. But now, as the onslaught of alcohol turned viciously against the world around me, it was only I being held responsible for it's drunken destruction carried out during my imprisonment.
Those intense fear ridden mornings, when I awoke to find yet another nightmare of alcohol's creation, devilishly constructed from it's own personality the night before. Whether it was the sight of dried blood crusted over both hands, or the unfamiliar surroundings of a place where I shouldn't have been, alcohol knew how to render me frozen with crippling insecurity. Too frightened to reason out a healthy answer as to what was happening to me, a deliberate terror of conscience always reached out and tightly gripped my soul. This devil, disguised and hidden behind my own recently drunken face, knew exactly where I'd run to for help. This was much more then an accident through drink. Alcohol's intent was to survive at all costs, to live and breath it's own existence using me as it's host of choice.
But, now, unaware of this developing transformation, all I wanted to do was calm the terror inside my head. There would be only one place, one exit, one chance to escape into a feeling of normality. Alcohol left nothing to chance, and as it waited patiently for me to return a bottle to my lips, I could almost hear a deep sullen laughter quicken my mobility. I desperately needed to lock myself away into the only security I knew, and to experience that precious freedom, I once again had to ingest my enslaver.
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Answer 5

I am sorry to tell you this, but you need some help. Check into rehab, for just one of the shorter programs. Hope things start to get better... Happy Valentines Day!!

Answer 6

I strongly suggest that you contact your local AA chapter and go to a meeting. Yes, you have a problem. You need help with it before it gets worse. Reaching out to us is a great start.