2007-02-09 19:46:16 · 28 answers · asked by ErwinS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should tell him. Often, the old expression "shoot the messenger" applies when you tell someone bad news. Still, he has the right to know what you know before he takes that walk down the aisle. He should be able to make his own choice to marry her or not after he finds out she has been cheating. If you don't tell him and she continues to cheat during marriage, then if they divorce, your friend could endure far worse pain than this. Tell your friend, please. Just bear in mind that he may not believe you and may punch you in the nose (if he is the type to do that), or be very mad at you. You need to decide if it is worth it or not.
2007-02-09 19:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were already married and she was cheating, I would stay out of it. But since they aren't married yet, definitely TELL HIM! But when you do that, you run the risk of him not believing you and you could ruin your friendship.
Do you have proof other than just your words?
You definitely have been put in a bad position, but it would not be fair to your friend to marry someone that you know has been cheating. It is just wrong.
Good luck!
2007-02-10 05:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the roles were reversed you would like to know wouldn't you.
If he found out that she was cheating after he got married and he knew you knew he wouldn't be too happy with you would he?
Tell him, stop him from making the mistake of his life. This girl does not deserve him!
All the best
2007-02-10 03:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him of course. Why the indecision? Is he not your best friend as you claim? It is better to resolve the cheating issue now than wait for a married to be consumated after which solutions will be sought for what can be averted now. Tell him. I would if I were you and would be glad if you were my best friend and you told me.
2007-02-10 03:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by tivhans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him for sure. You're friend doesn't deserve the heart ache of after marrying someone who is cheating on him. You will look like a great friend by telling him
2007-02-10 03:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's ruff,If you can get some sort of evidence.If not she will lie to him and make up a story about you wanting her or something like that.He will end up trusting her and hating you.You will loose a friend.But if you have a pic or someone else that can testify to your story then he may believe you.If you tell her to tell him,that just gives her plenty of time to think of a lie.So be care full with this one.Good luck.
2007-02-10 08:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by John G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him ASAP. What would you Like done if it was you?
If She is a cheater now she will be later. Dont let your bud marry someone with out knowing the truth if you have it and you do. You are HIS Friend
2007-02-10 03:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Nicky 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You tell him sweetie, as his best friend it's your job to make sure that he doesn't make one of the biggest mistakes of his lives. Don't let him go in blindfolded and unaware. Let him know what's happening if he choses to marry her anyway, you did the best you could. So tell him why you have the chance, you'll be saving him the heartache. Trust me. Good luck!
2007-02-10 03:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is your best friend, than i think u should tell him what u know. just be ready to back the story up with proof of it. personally if it were me i would want to know if the love of my life were being unfaithful to me, because once they marry it may be too late to do anything about it. he may be upset at u for awhile but i would be much more upset at a friend who didn't tell me the truth.
2007-02-10 12:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you know and you think that she has some decisions to make. Don't make her feel "black-mailed" of course, perhaps she's not as ready for marriage as she thought she was. If I was in your friends shoes, I would rather cancel a wedding then find out later that my wife isn't faithful.
2007-02-10 03:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Cobalt75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋