Family & Relationships - 26 January 2007

I love my BF. we have a lot of fun together. I'm upset b/c his finances are not up to par. I'ts not that he can't work, he can get good paying jobs, but right now he's going to school full time and the schedule is too hectic to have a job. We havent went out one time since we've been together...3 months. I'm always the one paying for things.....It didnt use to be this way when I first met him. He had a job and he would pay for me. I told him we should separate until he's stable but we ended up talking about the situation and we never broke up. He aske for money to help him out here and there and I get upset b/c I feel like he's mooching....I feel bad b/c that's my man and I care for him but ..he needs a job so we can go out and do more. I want to be w/ this man. what do I do?

2007-01-26 19:36:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-26 19:34:20 · 16 answers · asked by [Nightmare] 1 in Singles & Dating

I know this question has been asked before, I'd just like to add some specific things that are relevant!

I used to speak to my girlfriend everyday on the phone (by text or calling) and used to see each other at least every other week but for the last two weeks we have hardly talked.

I don't mind her avoiding me, it's the not telling me what's going on that is driving me nuts! I have left her messages, but she hasn't called me. She says she will sometimes, but never does.

I think she is probably just busy, but too busy to take 5minutes to call me?!

I really want to make things work with her, has anyone got any useful advice (i.e. not people saying dump her etc)

Thanks!

2007-01-26 19:33:34 · 20 answers · asked by forgotful_guy 1 in Singles & Dating

We both love each other deeply....please help.

2007-01-26 19:31:48 · 20 answers · asked by S_A_T 1 in Singles & Dating

The girls are shy and can't tell a guy “I love you ". The guys are shy too and can't tell a girl the same. In conclusion, we shouldn’t be worried to ask, Should be?

2007-01-26 19:31:33 · 2 answers · asked by sea_vancouver 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm in college and i'm trying to make the best of my life. I'm goal orientated. Everybody always tell me I'm pretty. I'm not a skinny girl, but I look good for my size. I'm a little shy, but once i get to know you I do talk. I'm into culture. I'm in my early 20s. Does anybody know what I can do? I don't really like being single. I had to break up with my last relationship, because we didn't want a long distance relationship.

2007-01-26 19:31:23 · 5 answers · asked by ME!! 2 in Singles & Dating

I called my BF the other night and left him a VM stating that I felt we should separate until he gets stable b/c he doesnt do anything for me financially. he never takes me out or anything b/c he's always broke. He goes to school which takes up a lot of his time, but I go to school also and work. anyway, he called me back the next morning asking why i was acting that way and we got into an argument. he called me later saying that he didnt want us to end on bad terms that way we did and he wanted to see me. he came over and we talked and he said that he didnt like fighting w/ me and his finances won't be like this forever....he's just trying to finish school. And he said he cared abt me. OK, should I accept this? he's basically telling me that over the next 2 months, he's still gonna be broke and not being able to pay for anytning. it's a hard situation b/c we are close, and i do want to be w/ him, but i feel sad that he just wont work harder to keep me happy. what do i do?

2007-01-26 19:30:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so me and this girl that i know i like were at this party all night and u know we spent the whole time together we cuddled together while watchin the notebook and monty python and the holy grail she kissed me a couple of time we cuddled and watched the sunrise together and more but how do i know if it was only for one night and the other thing is she's 18 and im 15 and a half but honestly no lie im just as mature as she is and also we like the same bands movies sports ice cream, so basically what i am trying to ask is whether is she into me or not on what we did that night and how do i know

2007-01-26 19:28:55 · 8 answers · asked by eric 1 in Singles & Dating

Can I be in love with 2 persons?....i mean really feel it for both...

2007-01-26 19:28:49 · 4 answers · asked by Thumper 2 in Singles & Dating

With all the technology and innovation surrounding us, no one could even do anything about men giving birth???

You're asking where the baby will come out? Out their butt.

2007-01-26 19:28:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months and haven't gone past kissing? we don't even use tongue! i want to, but i'm definitely not the type of person that can just stick my tongue down a guy's throat. i don't even know if he wants to go further!!! help!!!

2007-01-26 19:27:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This was an aim convo tonight with a girl I knew from college I haven't seen since. I kind of had a thing for her then and thought she may have been interested then.....


Me: I was thinking, I can give you a call sometime
Me: if you'd like to catchup over coffee one of these nights
Girl: i hate to say it but my phone is busted right now it took an unexpected swim at work (job hazard) but i am home a lot now and catching up on my internet thing so hows about an email?
Me: that works
Girl: my screen name is my email address at aol so drop me a line
me: ok cool
me: you going to be around to meet in Boston one of these days?
Girl: it could be done
Girl: well im getting old so its off to bed have a good night and ill talk to ya later
Me: you too
Me: take care
Girl: peace!

What does this sound like?

And one more thing? Did I do anything wrong or was I pushy in the convo or did everything just fine. Even though she may not have been interested, can I take solace in finally asking her out? She seemed interested in college. But that was then I guess.

2007-01-26 19:26:38 · 22 answers · asked by heymanchase 1 in Singles & Dating

It's hard to move on. Should I try to get him back or let go? My heart is breaking into thousand pieces now. Please help!
Thank you.

2007-01-26 19:24:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how many heard your parnets doing it and started eavesdropping every night...did it sound gross or fun?

2007-01-26 19:24:22 · 6 answers · asked by Pat S 1 in Singles & Dating

What do girls think of the name "Chance". Is it a cool name, a lame name, a weird name. Tell me what you think of a name like that for a boyfriend. Also list your explanation! Thank You!

2007-01-26 19:24:16 · 16 answers · asked by Chance 1 in Singles & Dating

I know this real nice woman at work now for over a year and have been trying to court her twd a relationship. We are very good friends just wandering how long does it take to reslly be serious

2007-01-26 19:23:59 · 2 answers · asked by tony m 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-26 19:22:49 · 2 answers · asked by unravel43 2 in Singles & Dating

she's my favorite member of eden's crush. a friend of mine has the same avatar as i do

2007-01-26 19:22:06 · 2 answers · asked by ? 1 in Singles & Dating

i m a mmrried man, 40 years old, i have been working with my collegue for 10 years now, throughout this period i felt that i lpve her, she is 37 married. is that real love????? yesterday i told her about all of that stuff, she was understandable, and she said that was ok and she loves me as a friend!!!!!!! i m confused, does she love me????? plz help seriously.

2007-01-26 19:21:10 · 15 answers · asked by dflp 1 in Marriage & Divorce

so this guy has said he really liked me.. but one of his best friends (who is a really good friend to me now too) tonight told me that he likes some new ugly chick.. for like 3 weeks now i found out. and my guy, Josh, seemed to not even care. and he had been leading me on for that long.. i don't even know if he would have told me himself. and so anyways, his reason was that he thought i was too good for him and he said it was hard for him to date someone he thought was smarter and better-looking.. and i am not. at all. he said he thought other guys were always looking at me and he hated being so jealous. and that is the stupidest thing i have ever heard.. because no other guys look at me, seriously.. and why would that matter so much when HE was the only guy that i saw through MY eyes anyways. so his last ex-gf who was really pretty cheated on him, so does his messed up head just now associate all girls he thinks are pretty that they will cheat on him. or What the heck does that mean?!

2007-01-26 19:19:44 · 11 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Singles & Dating

Cliff notes of my marriage: See other postings to get the most information #1 post “Will My Wife Turn into my mother-in-law?” #2 post “Need some help with my wife” Both posted today 01/25/2007.
My wife has depression. She has continues to lie, steal, deny, be stubborn, difficult, (on things that made no sense) and maybe cheat (not sure on that one) I have two step children, she’s been married twice, my first time. Treat them very good. She moved from the south to the NE where my job is. Within a month noticed my wife undermining the me/ family. So much that my step daughter underwent counseling for depression (cutting, “can only be happy in the south” her mom’s doing, and unsure of her sexual orientation. Spent thousands but, my step daughter was worth it. I was to work & she was to be the home keeper (One of our pre-marriage agreements) did the opposite till I said OK to her working ,now doesn’t want to work(and isn’t) Gave her plenty of cash & a credit card for emergencies. Used that card 15 to 30 times a month for 10 months (till she gave it back/ I said enough, I was very kind and loving) all while I am tending to my terminally sick mom (Talk about blind sided). Went through many more card methods nothing worked (no trust/keeps lying & stealing in other ways to) Found out a was funding my wife’s secret bank account. Within 6 months, Mother-in-law hit me up directly for money (which I gave to her) and later found out she expected monthly handouts because I have a good job.(wife denies all)
Found out I was going to lose my job in a couple months (airline down cycle) she refused to get a full time job cause “I don’t want to do any of those jobs” Said it will be temporary to get us through this tough time. I said let’s keep the kids(hers) in private school and keep the house. Still wouldn’t get a job. Sold my motorcycle, golf club membership and my SUV to lead the cutbacks. She demanded new furniture while I downsized. Luckily I found a job. Said she could have a tubel (sp) reversal (before marriage) not true .See below, felt really doped on that one, I know she knew that). There have been some good times, she is nice looking , can be a sweetheart, sex is good, my family all likes her (but they don’t know any of this). Just this week found out that my wife also has secret PO Box, she got 3 more cards in her name, pays her cards debt w/ my (families) money. I could write about her behavior for hours. I would kindly forgive all this stuff but it keeps on happening. It’s been bottled up for years except for our two councilors. I’m afraid nothing is working. I’d also like my own children

If you meet her you would like her. But she acts different around other people and 80% good around me and the kids. She also has many great qualities (she hide the others pretty good before our marriage) Sex drive is fine, never denies me, good cook, good looking, good mother in many ways, nice personality, doesn’t really drink and is outgoing Her other crazy behavior is overshadowing all her nice qualities. Why do I stay? Maybe a sense of duty, commitment, feeling of responsibility to the kids etc… When do I call it quits? I’m thinking now but I’m trying to seek out others veiws before I act. Also want to shelter her kids.

Here is another big problem she can’t have children. She said she could have reversal but that was a lie (she knew it) so I have to spend 30k on IVF, started the process and before it happened, Doctor said she can’t have a child. I realize that she may have not known that part but why do I pay a Doctor to tell me her tubes were singed not tied when she knew it. Again an example of her lies than deny to the end) Maybe this was my breaking point. Lying about not being able to have kids is a big deal, right? That alone Do I file?

2007-01-26 19:19:40 · 10 answers · asked by Concerned Husband 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This bestfriend (guy) of mine(whom I'm starting to like) got mad at me last year on December for not giving him his space. SInce then, we rarely talk but he did greeted me in my birthday (via phone) As classes resumed, we still rarely talk but I could see him looking at me in some instances. I tried my best to give him the space he wanted (even if it hurts). After a few weeks, he seems to be coming back to the way we used to be (talking, telling jokes, sharing experiences,.) but the difference is, we're not together anymore, instead he's with his guy friends and I'm with my girlfriends. Whenever he tells a joke w/ my friends, he always looks at me & laughs. One time, I heard him talking to one of the girls in class (but I pretend I didn't hear anything) saying that he had a "new" crush on someone...Odd since whenever he had a crush on someone, he always tells me about it(in fact, I know all the girls he like but not this one). Was he hiding something from me that I should know?

2007-01-26 19:19:37 · 10 answers · asked by acerbus18 1 in Friends

i was recently stabed in the back by an ex-friend and would like ideas on how to get even! thank you! hopefully not fatal because i cant afford a lawsuit at this moment! thank you!

2007-01-26 19:17:38 · 11 answers · asked by a 3 in Friends

hide them even if we said its okay to have friends from the opposite sex, his reasons 4 doing this was to apperently not to hurt a very sensitive wife, is this cheating in your eyes.

2007-01-26 19:16:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-26 19:16:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i was playing who could hold out the longest twice before they could give in and this girl kept on giving in now i got her number today at the club when should i call her she is amazeing

2007-01-26 19:15:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-26 19:14:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We've been living together for about 2 months and money is TIGHT. He just found another job after losing his about a month and a half ago. I have been paying for EVERYTHING since we moved in together. Now whenever he has money and I ask him to help out with something like my car he says, THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. He says I'm uptight and worry too much.
I told him you're supposed to worry about... well maybe more like "anticipate" things before they happen so you're prepared.
He says don't fix something that isn't broken.

What do you think?

2007-01-26 19:13:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Married or divorced please. my wife of 15 years is currently about 3 months on other side.

2007-01-26 19:12:36 · 7 answers · asked by shawclint 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my frnd likes someone but that person likes her real sister
she(my friend) is really mad about him..what should she do ?

2007-01-26 19:11:40 · 5 answers · asked by tan 1 in Friends